Im not finding out this time because its my last and ive never experienced the whole its a boy, its a girl thing. I found out with both boys and never had GD with DS1 but had it terrible with DS2. I feel so bad about it, I love him so much and Im hoping that makes me realise how in the scale of things gender is not the bee all and end all iykwim? I don't want to go through my whole pregnancy disappointed and crying again, I just want to enjoy it and find out in my own time after the birth what im having. The only time I may find out is if I get a good nub shot at my 12 week scan and it looks girly as I would hate to go the whole pregnancy thinking it was a girl when infact its a boy, then I think I would be disappointed.
with DS2, I did know the gender but my dr announced it as he was coming out. I had a section and he came out peeing (all over the dr) and he shouted 'yup, its definitely a boy lol' xxx
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Thread: Not finding out the gender?
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August 17th, 2013, 05:13 AM #31mummy to 2 beautiful boys
time for pink i think
'Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up'
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August 17th, 2013, 03:50 PM #32
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August 18th, 2013, 06:21 AM #33Dreamer
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I tossed up being team green for our third child...I now realise this was because of partial denial and a coping mechanism.
I ended up finding out I was having a third girl at the gender scan. I was hysterical after I found out and it is now around two weeks later that I am starting to feel ok. Thank god I did not find out in the delivery room as I probably would have pushed the baby away and been a prime candidate for post natal depression.
I now have time to prepare and acknowledge while I don't have my son, I am having another beautiful daughter. I needed time to get to this perspective though.Blessed withand a surprise
on the way!
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August 18th, 2013, 10:39 AM #34
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August 18th, 2013, 10:52 PM #35
I would like to share my experience, since we're a bit abnormal and have chosen to never learn the gender of any of our children. This was a decision we made long ago as a couple, before we even got married. Of course when my first son was born, we were elated that he was a boy. His delivery was quite complicated though, and traumatizing as well. After his birth I wasn't sure I wanted any more children. We did try again and I hoped for a girl the whole pregnancy. I wanted my boy and girl like everyone gets. My water broke at 36 weeks, and I had to be given Pitocin to start contractions. My best friend called in an order of flowers for me, which happened to be inside of a pink elephant toy that is supposed to be for the baby to have later. She later said that she didn't specify pink or blue, but they just picked pink. I thought for sure this was a sign that I would have a girl. Labor was very easy and not too long or short. The delivery was so peaceful. I didn't need any stitches. But when I looked between his legs I was quite sad. I held him and our nurse took photos with my camera. I tried to remember what we'd decided to name a boy. He didn't look a thing like my first son. After a while he started to fuss, and I felt so tired and sad. I handed him to my husband and pulled the blanket over my head. I didn't want anything to do with him. I thought about giving him up for adoption. It sounds horrible to think about now, but I had a good nap, and a few hours later I woke up in a panic, wondering where my new baby was because he needed to eat. I was relieved to find him in his bassinet next to my bed. He looked adorable and tiny. He was a pound smaller than my first. From then on I was in love. Those first moments were rough, but I don't regret anything. My whole pregnancy was wonderful--no gender disappointment to deal with. I certainly wouldn't change it. I believe pregnancy should be a joyful time, not stressful and sad. I couldn't imagine trying to go through that sadness during pregnancy, and not being able to hold my little boy and see the tiny human being he is. Yes, I did have a moment of sadness in the delivery room, but it was just a moment, and it is gone, and now we're happy.
Everyone is different of course. Someone else might have developed PPD and been in a depression for months. This was just my experience.Imy
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Christmas Eve team green baby
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August 19th, 2013, 12:49 AM #36
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August 19th, 2013, 02:19 AM #37
I found way in advance with each of my 3 boys. To me is not only about avoiding GD but also bonding. Every single time I went out the next day and bought the most gorgeous little boy outfit when I found out. Would really love to buy a tutu this time.
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August 19th, 2013, 03:12 PM #38
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August 21st, 2013, 10:47 AM #39
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August 21st, 2013, 10:51 AM #40
I'm not finding out this time.
I'm going to try not to allow myself to think of a particular gender. Even though it will probably be a boy.
I had slight gd with Ezra, and still do in a way but he is the love of my life. I have amazing boys.
If next is a boy, I'm sure gd will set in a little but again. But way back in my head.
To me you go in 50/50, never a guarantee so you chose to get pregnant and can't complain too much. Also I might avoid any ultrasounds if possible. I want the excitement at birth.
I'm lucky I can have kids, when so many out there cannot. I'm not going to get over caught up in gender. Each are such a blessing.DS #1 - 2010 Liam James
#2 - 2012 Ezra Keaton
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