Dreaming Pink Opposites Due Winter 2013/14

[Charlee]

Hi ladies... just dropping in to say a quick hello and offer hugs to those who are having bad GD days.

I am in a bad spot, and I really wish gender was my biggest concern right now. I started spotting last night I have a Dr appt tomorrow but might end up going today.... called her to tell her about it and she said if the spotting turns to bleeding to go straight to the ER. Placenta abrupt ion is the worry... that was her main concern after my terrible car accident awhile ago but I thought I was in the clear by now. I sincerely hope this is benign and not a sign of bigger problems ahead.

Problems like this puts GD in perspective for me.... I would rather have a beautiful baby boy than no baby at all

[EmmyRoo]

Oh my god Charlee how terrifying! I really hope everything is ok! It does put gender in perspective so much when things like this happen, I hope and pray your little boy hangs on in there. Let us know how you get on at the doctor when you can.
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[meeks32]

Hi ladies... just dropping in to say a quick hello and offer hugs to those who are having bad GD days.

I am in a bad spot, and I really wish gender was my biggest concern right now. I started spotting last night I have a Dr appt tomorrow but might end up going today.... called her to tell her about it and she said if the spotting turns to bleeding to go straight to the ER. Placenta abrupt ion is the worry... that was her main concern after my terrible car accident awhile ago but I thought I was in the clear by now. I sincerely hope this is benign and not a sign of bigger problems ahead.

Problems like this puts GD in perspective for me.... I would rather have a beautiful baby boy than no baby at all

Charlee I'm so so sorry this is happening, I have everything crossed for you. Is it brown blood? Could it be spotting leftover from the crash that has finally come out? Please keep us posted, I'll be worrying quietly over here.

Sorry to barge in on this thread, I subscribe to it and usually dont keep up, but saw Charlees comment and had to jump in. xxx

[2lovelyboys]

Charlee, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, I agree that a healthy baby regardless of gender is what we ultimately want! Your Dr sounds very supportive, let us know how your appointment goes!

I've had a rubbish few days, last week DS1 was poorly, the past couple of days DS2 has been poorly, I fell on Sunday pulling my back then woke up yesterday poorly as well, yuck! Dealing with one thing at a time is fine but all at once is a killer!!

How is everyone else today? X x

[Lastsong]

Oh Charlee I hope everything is okay!

DS has been sick, then DH got it and I'm holding up the fort! Some idiots decided to put in an offer on a house and put our house on the market too, so that's been a lot of stress! Have my morph scan tomorrow though, looking forward to seeing baby and DH finally finding out the gender.

[Dreamofpink]

Emmy, hope you had a good holiday! Good to see you back, though I hope your good days begin to outnumber the bad days very soon. ((hugs))

Charlee, I replied on the other thread - what an awful worry for you. I really hope that things settle down and ds3 stays safe kicking away for another 16 weeks! Looking forward to your update.

2lovelyboys & Lastsong, so sorry to hear that you've had sickness in your houses. As is pg isn't hard enough on it's own! ((hugs)) 2LB, how's your back feeling today? Are both of your boys recovered now? Lastsong, I am very familiar with those idiots who decide to put their house on the market at such a delicate time of life I hope it goes smoothly for you, we're on our 3rd set of buyers in 3 months and really hope it goes through this time. I want to move house in 4 weeks time so that I can get the nursery ready! How's your ds & dh feeling now? Have you had a lot of viewings to prepare for? Hope your scan goes well & DH is okay with the news. Keep us posted.

Mindy, I can't believe how insensitive some people can be! I too really hate it when others say how boys are so different to girls. I've always fought hard against that misconception and think it's more to do with how parents behave towards different genders. There does tend to be an attitude of 'boys will be boys' and that they will be unruly. It's so untrue, my two are polite and calm in public. I've seen some shocking behaviour from little girls which has left my two boys looking on in bemusement! Those who have mixed gender families who demonise boys *IMHO* can't cope with their own boys and so project that feeling onto all boys.

I'm starting to actually process my feelings of gd now for the first time in over 4 years. I've been in denial since ds2 was born and now I've decided to confront it head-on. I still have plenty of sad days but I'm starting to feel cross at gd now and don't want to be feeling that way at all. I am actually embracing blue too, which I hated with ds2. It felt like it represented failure to conceive a dd, now though I want ds3 to wear blue head-to-toe and f**k the world & their opinions on my 3 little boys! Hahaha!!

[Lastsong]

Dreamofpink, glad we're not the only crazy ones! We're getting ready for the first viewing - decluttering and cleaning everything, house is looking good though. Fingers crossed it doesn't take too long. Yep the boys are much better now thank goodness!

I'm going to dress this one head to toe in blue too - I'll show everyone I'm proud to have two beautiful boys.

[grace03]

Hi girls , I was watching brides of Beverley hills today and a mother of four boys was renewing her vows after 25 yrs , her youngest two were there with her husband and she said her older two wouldn't come to a bridal salon but then they showed up it was so sweet and the boys were all so cute aged from 9 to 24 it just shows me that not having a daughter isn't the end of the world xxx
Hope everyone is going well and charlee hope everything is ok with you xx

[meeks32]

Dream I hate the excuse 'boys will be boys' too, its a cop out by mums that can't be bothered disciplining their boys, or by mums that favour them and let them get away with murder. Thats how we end up with men who rape women and have utter disregard for the law. No wonder male prisoners outnumber female 7-1.

HOWEVER I am a mum who is astounded by the genetic differences between boys and girls (hear me out). I am surrounded by girl mums, the vast majority of my friends have girls, except a select few I've befriended since having boys myself. This was unintentional but left me surrounded by young 0-4 aged girls often.Prior to having kids I truly believed the boy/girl divide was completely environmental... how you raise your children makes them one way or another, and if you give them gender specific toys and condition them to be more boy-ish or girl-ish in their behaviour, then of course they will be. But then I had my own and gave them gender neutral things, taught them both ways of life, and still, when a truck went past, they would flap around even as babies to lean towards it and watch it go past, where my friends girls would cry and get a fright from the noise. As toddlers, when we gave the girls snacks at the kiddie table, they would sit and eat, where mine would have a bite then get down and play. When they were given farm animals, the boys would crash them into eachother making car crash noises, which I have ALWAYS discouraged, yet the girls would set up little farms (which my boys also did but this was far less common than the crashing). It never fails to amaze me, no matter how many rules I make, eg No guns in our house, no pushing or fighting or crashing or throwing toys etc, that their natural instincts are to do exactly those things. Build a block tower up, crash it down and laugh, that sort of thing. The girls that visit us NEVER even think of doing those things until my boys do, then they watch in amazement just like I do, probably wondering what on earth caused them to think of using the toy like that!!! lol

I never, ever use it as an excuse and if anything, when we go to the park, the girl mums chat, their girls chat or play together, or if they run from the park its to roll down the hill together or pick flowers (yes, seriously, they do that). Where I chase my boys, try to keep them in the park, keep them from climbing onto the roof of the play area, keep them from throwing the mulch, or swinging backwards and upside down, or climbing the wrong way up the slide. ALL I do is chase and tell them off. I find this incredibly stressful but tell myself i'm making better boys. But I look lustfully at the relaxing girl mums and wish I could stand and chat too.

Of course, if I have a girl, I have NO DOUBT she will be exactly as rambunctious as my boys, since I was pretty hyper and tom-boyish as a girl myself, but maybe she will sit and play farm animals without crashing, or pick flowers instead of throwing mulch in kids faces? Hahaha probably not, who am I kidding?

If this one is a boy I plan to buy blue things too, with the last two I was very adamant on neutral colours which could be re-used for the next baby regardless of gender. This time this is our last, so if its a boy I plan to embrace that. Particularly as after two reflux babies, most of the 0-12 months clothes are completely stained and I have very few that are good enough to reuse a third time.

[meeks32]

omg sorry didnt realise this was in the opposites group, the new tapatalk app is so annoying not showing titles once you open a thread. SORRY I didnt mean to jump in on your space and talk gender... *running to hide*

Really, really sorry!

It must have come up in my feed because I commented on Charlee's thing yesterday.