Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Niva]

I know I missed lots of personals... I've only have had time to check and read but not reply much lately... Sorry, I'm SO not the greatest forum member, this is the only forum I belong to and the only thread I try to keep up with!

AFM, I had one bad day when I thought I saw a boy nub in my 10w5d scan pic. Then I reminded myself that a nub shot that early could not possibly be standing up yet to show boy even if it is a boy, so I'm back to being contentedly team green. I've included my scan here -- what do you guys think? Is it such an obvious, obvious boy scan that I should just assume I've got ds2 in there? I know there is no good nub in the pic for angle guesses, but I've seen lots of boy scans where what's above the nub screams boy even if the nub isn't obviously in the shot. I'm afraid those little white lines above the sort-of-nub might be the telltale sign... Or is there just no way that could be anything at all at 10w5d? image.jpgimage.jpg

[Emily]

OMG Charlee, I am so sorry you are going through this. I think Meeks is right - rest as much as you can. It sounds like you have fantastic care there which must be a comfort. Obviously you want to keep your little one in there for as long as possible but I just wanted to tell you about my friend's little girl just in case. She was an IVF baby so I think that makes her a week on from other babies, but anyway, she was born at 23.5 weeks and after careful monitoring in the NICU was able to return home and was fine. I only found this out when she was three when it came up in a conversation - i would never have guessed. She is a bit smaller than her brother at the same age but totally healthy. I will tell you who she is on FB so you can see if you like.

Huge hugs to you. This one made it through all manner of sway tactics - he is a strong little fighter.

Niva, put those pics away unless you are just looking at how cute he or she is! They are too early to tell you anything other than you have a baby of uncertain gender! It is hard enough to tell at 12 weeks

[I Love Ladybugs]

Charlee....I feel so bad for you....sleepless nights of worry are the worst. (((hugs))) What follow-up have you and your sweet little boy had since the accident? How have your big ones been doing? You all have been in my prayers!!

[Charlee]

Quick update... the spotting has lessened today since I've stayed in bed almost all day. I have such an amazing g Dr... she has called me 3 times today to check up on me. She said that since baby is still as active as before that this probably means that the placenta is fine and the bled I g is coming from somewhere else. My appt is at 11 am tomorrow so I'm sure I'll get the full work up. I'm praying that it all checks out fine and that this is just my cervix being irritated or something.

Thank you so much for the well wishes. I'll be on to update you as soon as I get out of the DR's office.

[meeks32]

Quick update... the spotting has lessened today since I've stayed in bed almost all day. I have such an amazing g Dr... she has called me 3 times today to check up on me. She said that since baby is still as active as before that this probably means that the placenta is fine and the bled I g is coming from somewhere else. My appt is at 11 am tomorrow so I'm sure I'll get the full work up. I'm praying that it all checks out fine and that this is just my cervix being irritated or something.

Thank you so much for the well wishes. I'll be on to update you as soon as I get out of the DR's office.

I also wanted to say my half brother was born at 24 weeks due to premature labour they were not able to stop. He has a few problems I believe are related to other things, but is active and well and it's definitely possible even if the worst outcome happens, that they have to induce you, babies survive well from very early on these days. My brother is 13, who knows how it would have been even better these days.

But I have a strong feeling you will be able to keep bubs in there and probably even have the reverse issue at the other end where you just want them to hurry up and come out!

So glad your doctor is so amazing, that is a comfort even to me, worrying about you, so I imagine its amazing for you.

Keep positive. My motto is don't worry until they tell you there is something specific to worry about. Of course this only works when I'm not pregnant and hormonal!!! But that was my philosophy when diagnosed with a massive tumour and it worked well, since it was benign!

[myrainbowgirl]

Niva - Thank you for your kind words. I know I will love this little boy...the news is still fresh, though, so I'm just taking it one day at a time. You know, funny you should mention microsort, I took a look at the high-tech forum for the first time today. DH actually wasn't concerned about the money...but when I read all that's involved in the process of HT I was pretty turned off. That's not to say I wouldn't do it, but it had me thinking of doing a not-so-sway sway again (I am crazy! Because I really DO want a guarantee, if possible). Like just doing a light LE diet and intense exercise...and not try to get pg. If it happens, it happens. I think my biggest downfall is all my obsessing. If I could just avoid that, and relax, but still keep some principles of a sway, I might have a decent chance. I don't know, though, super scary not to have a guarantee!

I've wondered about microsort, but didn't really get a chance to look at the details today. Is it just where they sort the sperm into x and y and then do an IUI with just the x? Do you have to do all the stimulating meds, too, or will they just do it with a regular cycle? And do you know how much it costs? Thanks for your thoughts!

As far as your pic goes, I don't think I see a nub...you are very much in the game! Too early anyway. When will you know for sure?

Charlee - That's great news...so glad to hear that things have gotten a little better. Will continue to pray for you and your little one. Keep us posted!

[2lovelyboys]

Niva, good to hear from you. I'm not great a nub guessing unless its really obvious but at 10 weeks nothing is guaranteed and could change so quickly! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Charlee!!! How you feeling? Glad the spotting has reduced, so scary! I will be thinking of you today! Keep us updated!

Rainbow girl, you should definitely come over to the opposites thread!

[Dreamofpink]

Wow, just trying to catch up on the thread!

Charlee, that sounds so scary! I really hope that things settle down today and baby keeps on kicking away. You must be going out of your mind with worry You're in my thoughts ((Big hugs)) I totally understand the worry of a preemie as I'm only 5 weeks off when ds1 was born. I'll breathe a sigh of relief after 31 weeks! Preemies do have a great chance but it is a very scary time for the parents. I really hope that it doesn't come to that for you though x x

Myrainbowgirl, congratulations on your little boy! I know it stings and is hard to accept after all the dreaming and hoping but be kind to yourself and give yourself time to come to terms with it. It does get easier!

Emily, congratulations on your little girl! You certainly had a good tech guessing at 13 weeks! Enjoy buying pink. Have you settled in over there now? How's the search for a hospital going?

Niva, very cute baby but far too early to tell the gender!

Meeks, when's your next scan?

Ladybugs, I've pm'ed you. Glad to hear that you're home safe after your big journey to check on your little girl. It's not long now until your next scan is it? Such a stressful time for you and DH ((hugs))

Hello to everyone else!

AFM, I reached viability last week but it's always daunting to think that we were only 5 weeks off meeting ds1 at this stage. I really really do not want to see this one until late November at the very earliest! He's kicking good & hard when he kicks, but is quite often quiet. I get a little kick when I get back into bed in the early hours after going for a wee but he goes quiet very quickly. He's no trouble at all really and I can't believe how well I am this time round. I put it all down to the LE diet as starting off at a much lower weight has been a real godsend. No SPD or other hip/back aches and I'm not wearing a maternity belt for the first time either - a first for me. All the walking I'm doing, I really hope is getting my body stronger for my vba2c. We're on our 3rd set of house buyers now & hoping that this time it actually goes through. IF it does we should be moving in around 4 weeks!

[Niva]

Rainbow, I don't know the details about microsort either, just that it used to be offered in the US during the trial phase but the FDA approval was too expensive for them to get and so now it's just offered in Mexico (and maybe elsewhere). When it was in the US, it was a simple several-hundred dollar syringe they gave you of your husband's sorted sperm, either x or y, and you could self-administer it or have your RE do IUI. (This is according to a friend of mine who did 8 rounds of IVF to get her son, about 3.5 years ago). Now that it's in Mexico, I got the vague impression by reading online that the process might be different and they might require IUI, or at least for you to be under the care of a fertility specialist. No idea about stim shots or the like... I'll do all that research only if this next one is a boy!

Yeah, I know my shots don't have an actual nub in them, but a lot of 12 week "nub" shots have the telltale white comma poking up from where the end of the nub would be -- but only on boys. That's the part I'm looking at. From what I've seen, this is perhaps even more predictive than the angle of the straight nub. For example, this thread shows shots of the same baby that looks like he has a straight flat girly nub in some shots, but there is a telltale "shadow" of something sticking up/out in nearly every one: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/conf...selection.html

But I shouldn't even try to guess right now because after all I don't even really want to know! Or more specifically, I don't want to know if it's a boy unless it's totally obvious, and in a moment of panic, I thought maybe it was. I wish I had some way of "accidentally" finding out it's a girl but only if it's a girl, and waiting till the birth if it's a boy... LOL! I may not make it all the way to the end being team green, because I've been doing way too much ultrasound pic viewing online lately and now I feel like I could spot a boy from a mile away. My next scan is at 19 weeks so one look at the ultrasound screen at the wrong moment, and I'll surely know! Willpower, don't fail me...

Charlee, so glad your spotting is decreasing instead of increasing, and that his activity levels are great. That is a very, very good sign! I will be on an airplane tomorrow but as soon as I can I will be online to see if you have any answers yet. Your LO has been through so much already, I'm sure he'll make it as far as he needs to go to get to you!

[Charlee]

Okay back from the doctor.... she did an internal exam and found out I'm dialiated to 2 cm already, which is where the blood and mucous is most likely coming from. Since I'm already starting to dialiate, I'm now on partial bed rest. She would like for me to be on full bed rest but knows that I won't be able to do it, nor would I if I could! LOL.... stubborn as always!

Anyway, she scheduled an extensive in depth u/s at the hospital for me just to make sure baby is okay and placenta is fully attached. I should find out by tomorrow when the appt is. The needed a day to process the paperwork from my doctor before they would schedule me.

So all in all, it's better news than it could have been. Being at 2 cm this early is not a wonderful thing, but it's much better news than I could have had. I'm not contracting either so premature labor doesn't seem to be a concern. I'll know more after my u/s....

I really love that I have you ladies to talk to No one else IRL seems to fully understand the ups and downs of the joys of pregnancy LOL...

P.S. I left my doctor appt (after being told to be on partial bed rest, and took my boys to the beach... I am terrible!) haha