Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Niva]

Btw is anyone else getting plenty of BH? My midwife was pleased to hear that I was but my goodness they can be quite uncomfortable at times!

Also, I had to do some googling last night as was a bit concerned, I'm having BH already! Definite firming and heavy feeling in my uterus, not unpleasant just made me really worried all day! But apparently not abnormal this early, had them from about 20 weeks with Lou.

I've been getting many more BH this time than I remember having at this stage last time. Dream, I forgot to ask my midwife at my last visit whether I should try to limit them (put up my feet when I feel too many, etc) -- but maybe they're a good thing despite being uncomfortable? Why do you think your OB was pleased? Pixi, I was definitely getting them by 14 weeks this time around too, though I don't remember them that early last time. My midwife says they can start as early as the first trimester! She didn't seem concerned, but suggested keeping really well hydrated, since dehydration can cause them.

Meeks, I would be telling a lot more people about having swayed, too, if I knew it had worked for me! It's a lot harder to talk about it favorably when the dice haven't fallen in your favor, or if you don't know the outcome yet. Swaying probably still upped your chances no matter what the ultimate outcome was, but it's easier to talk about a theory with personal supporting evidence than a theory that your personal evidence doesn't visibly support. If you had ended up in the other 34% (or whatever the opposites stats are at the moment), maybe it would be a little harder to reveal that you had tried it...? Have a lot of you gals with opposites told people that you swayed? AFM I haven't... Just a few good girlfriends and my DH know, not even my Mom. I think my SIL will be ttc within the next year or so, and I am pretty sure she would love a girl, but I still haven't found the right moment to even mention to her that she could have any effect on making that happen. I think if I end up with a girl I'll have a lot more courage to bring it up.

And to that end... Tomorrow is my big scan day. I'm nervous! I will breathe a sigh of relief when the anatomy scan turns out normal, and just as much, I am on pins and needles about whether I'll get any gender clues -- or even find out the whole deal -- tomorrow. I am nearly to the point, mentally, where I am resigned and ready to find out if it's a boy. I thought it would take me much more of the pregnancy before I got tired of thinking of it as just a genderless baby, but I think I'm nearly there now. The kicks constantly remind me that there is a real little person in there, and the nesting urges just make me want to know who he or she is! I'm stalling on buying baby stuff, getting the nursery ready, even knitting cute things because it would be so much better to not have to stick to unisex. I can't believe I'm wavering on staying team green, but we'll see what tomorrow brings. I can't say I won't have one good cry if it is a boy, but I am more and more able to picture myself being ultimately happy with a DS2. I know it WILL be possible as long as I don't let myself get bogged down by thinking about how a girl would have been different. After all, if he turns out anything like my DS1, I'll be so lucky to have two of those amazing little creatures!

Anyone else getting more firm on a name for your new one yet? I think we finally found a boy name we would be okay with, although it didn't pop out at us as "the one" so we'll keep our eyes open for better. Having a good name option makes me feel much more ready to get excited about another little boy. Girl names, on the other hand, are still a tangle of possibilities... I like too many!

[Niva]

I did knit one thing so far... A hat and booties out of gender-neutral teal green and yellow yarn. image.jpg

[Tree]

I did knit one thing so far... A hat and booties out of gender-neutral teal green and yellow yarn. image.jpg

Amazing! Is it hard to learn? If love to be able to make something for the baby!!!

[Emily]

Wow Niva that is Brilliant! i could bake a hat and booties but never knit them

ladies I have finally made up my mind and am going back to the Uk to deliver. A lady here just put it all in perspective - in a few years you won't regret going back but if you stay and something goes wrong you will regret it forever.

I will hate being away from DS1and DH but they are going to come over for 6 weeks too so we will get to spend Christmas New Year and everyone's birthdays together.

[I Love Ladybugs]

Charlee...you have been through so much, it is no wonder you feel the way you do....lots of love and hugs for you!!! I know the feeling of retreating....do reach out...we love you and your sweet little men! How have your appts been? How is your cervix holding up?

Bunnywabbit....I would ttc and press on with that knowledge. In fact, the cycle that I got and stayed preggo was following the HSG, but before we had met with the OB/GYN who was doing the rest of the run-ups!! He had nothing to offer at that appt....and it turned out that listening to my instincts with low dose ASA was what I needed or so it seems...in the 3 pregnancies that I have taken low dose ASA daily and then weaned off it slowly, have been my sticky pregnancies. Take the supplements you feel that you need!!!

Meeks...to answer your question....I have told so few of the changes I made. The funny thing is that when I was about 14 weeks preggo, I went to my hairdresser and we got to talking about gender. She has 2 boys and figured that if my running and diet gave me a girl, she would be trying to get her new man thinking he wanted to try for a girl!! Lol, I need to go for another cut soon, so I can update her with all the dramatic tales!! Otherwise, I don't really say much, it did go either way and while I feel that my odds were upped with doing something vastly different with both diet and exercise, it still was not up to me to choose gender.

Niva...cute knitting!! I am currently working on some embroidery for all of my kids, I will post when I get home from this trip, so you all can see how much I did. What I am making is 5 inch squares for a quilt....each child will have 7 of these mingled with many multicolour and patterned cotton material squares. If you do find out boy, you will most likely feel as I did with DS2....down for a bit, then gradually come around...and when he is here, realize how much you NEEDED him!!! My DS2 is my little sonshine...I am so missing on him this trip and I just saw him yesterday. He is my DS1 sidekick, the puzzle piece that would have been absent had he not been part of our lives....I do love him so much!!!!!!!!

Emily...like I said on the other thread...I am so happy that you are going back to the UK for her birth...it will give you peace and maybe you and a certain other awesome girl in this thread can meet on up!!!!! Or two...happy pixi and dream will be giving birth to their cuties round that time...ok, Happypixi will be still preggo, but getting cuter and more rounded with each week!!

Happypixi...not too many crazies, you sound like me! I am so counting down the weeks and patients until the start of mat. leave...I have 4 days at my second job which always includes a few of the insane!!!! My BH are brought on my stress....I do keep well hydrated, but if there is crap going on at work or at home, I feel it in terms of contractions...mostly BH.

[Niva]

Ladybugs, I love how you feel bout your DS2!! I know I'll feel the same way if I have one too.

I didn't get any more gender clues at the scan today. They told me when to look away, and I did, and now I have an envelope... Well, we'll see how long until I feel the need and feel prepared to open it! My DH said he peeked a little, but he didn't know what to look for (unlike me who would recognize a boy or girl potty shot in a split second). He did say there was nothing obviously sticking out, so that makes me pretty optimistic. Although as far as I know he wouldn't recognize it if he did see it, because ultrasounds looks pretty different than in real life. My intuition is telling me girl, and has been for the last month or so, but I really don't know if I can trust it!!!!
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All else is well with my little baby. The anatomy scan came out perfectly normal, and measurements were right on target. The placenta is touching the edge of the cervix, though, which should hopefully resolve as the uterus grows... Anyone else have placenta previa (or partial)? I haven't had any bleeding, and they just told me not to exercise and not to DTD. Hope it moves up and away because I am really hoping for an uncomplicated natural birth!

[I Love Ladybugs]

Niva...I would save that envelope and open it on Thanksgiving! You have an amazing little one in there and that is much to be thankful for!!!!!! Great job on staying team green for right now....and what a cute little baby!!!!

[myrainbowgirl]

Niva - Nothing sticking out is a great sign!! And I like Ladybugs' idea...open at Thanksgiving! I had a low-lying placenta with DS1, very close to the cervix, and it moved up. Yours probably will, too! ADORABLE hat and booties, by the way!

Meeks - No, I've hardly told anyone I swayed. Much harder to say something when it didn't work. I did tell my parents and sister, and very generally a couple close friends, but that's it. Isn't your big scan coming up pretty soon?

Emily - Answered on the other thread. Yay for your decision!

Ladybugs - Also answered on the other thread. Good luck at your appointments! Will be praying!

Happypixi - Glad the crazies have been few...lol! Hope you're doing well!

AFM - Not much to report. Next appointment is Sept. 30th...my big ultrasound. Can't believe how fast it's going!

[Niva]

Emily, I bet you feel relieved about your decision. I think it is a wise one for the long term, as you say. And it's very good, too, that you can be among family and friends over the holidays! Do you have video-call capability for keeping in touch with your sons while you're in the UK without them? How long will that be, again? I know it isn't the same, but we FaceTime or Skype daily with my parents, and weekly with DH's parents, and it really makes a difference for DS feeling connected to them.

Rainbow, glad to hear you had no issues with your placenta and it resolved on its own. I guess it is very likely to move up, but it is still one more thing to worry about. On the other hand, maybe it'll get me extra scans, tee hee!

Thanks for the nice feedback on the knitting, everyone! I learned to knit after DS was born, from another new mom, and it isn't that hard to pick up. Internet video tutorials are key -- and free on YouTube. I bet you could learn pretty quickly, Tree! And Ladybugs, be sure and post your embroidered quilt squares when you are done... so fun to see crafts made for the LOs.

Pixi -- hope you don't have too many more shifts to put up with! When does your maternity leave start? And when is your next big scan -- and are you still sticking to team green?

Charlee, hugs to you. I can empathize deeply. But we're here for you! Try not to think about the "what ifs" and stay in the moment... That's what helped me most to get over my GD last time. But it did take time.

I like the idea of opening the envelope on Thanksgiving, too. If I can hold out that long, that is! Now that I have basically made peace with having a DS2, I just want to know... And my girl intuition is killing me with hope! I have another scan in three weeks to check up on the placenta, so i'll at least wait to see if I can get more clues then. I like clues. Clues are way better than black or white answers, haha.

[Dreamofpink]

Aargh! Restless legs are driving me mad every night, please can anyone help with some advice?!!! It's keeping poor DH & me awake & have no idea how to treat it.

Sorry for the lack of personals, I'll be back in the morning to chat more provided my legs let me sleep

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