I just want to be happy about this little boy

[Twosweetboys]

I didn't read all the replies, but I want you to know I know exactly how you feel. I was so sure #2 was a girl...the moment I saw the positive pregnancy test, the first thing I envisioned was a tiny baby girl. I "just knew." So I was floored and somewhat devastated when they said he was a boy. I actually don't think I had known before that point how incredibly badly I wanted a girl...I just assumed it would be. It was kind of horrible and I was near tears all the time, from disappointment and from guilt at the disappointment!
He's now 5 months old. He is gorgeous and perfect and I absolutely adore him - can't stop kissing those squishy cheeks! And like pp said? I am so so glad my sons will always have a buddy, a best friend, a BROTHER, for life. They're only 2 years apart..what an incredible relationship this can be. But! I'll be honest - althought my GD has lessened considerably because I get to hold this precious baby boy all day, my yearning for a baby girl has NOT gone away. I think about it all the time. I have debated PGD like crazy but I'm 90% sure we'll do it because I just cannot imagine living with this nagging feeling forever - like a piece is missing.

[black&gold]

My DS2 is the most calm, chill little boy ever (he just turned 2). His older brother on the other hand is very active and definitely not the sit still type. He literally won't play on his own for 2 seconds.. he has to have someone entertaining him all the time. But they are both the sweetest ever in their own ways and I would NEVER trade DS2 for anything. I personally (no offence to anyone at all!) think a pigeon pair is my least favourite situation you can have. Sure you get one of each.. but then most people stop, and your son never has a brother and your daughter never has a sister. My DH only has a younger sister and they never talk or see eachother. He always says he wishes he had a brother too. I think the best thing you can give your child is a same gender sibling. From the get go I wanted either 2 boys and 1 girl, or 2 girls. I'm pregnant with #3 and banking on it being another boy and honestly, i'm okay with that. I definitely have my moments where it hurts but I try not to think about not having that relationship with a daughter or whatever. Your a mom to be a mom, I don't think we should expect friendships out of our kids, and boys NEED their moms more than anyone! Any guy will definitely tell you that! I think the problems comes when moms are overbearing and end up pushing the sons away and annoying the daughter in law (that's what's happened with my DH's mom - they were so so close, but then she got way to overbearing and annoying and now he really has no interest at all.) Trust me, you will LOVE having this second little boy. I try to tell myself that like everything in life, things always seem so amazing until you have it. Sure, we might feel "complete" with a daughter in the family dynamic sense and happy we have both genders, but other things will come our way and life won't be "perfect" forever.

[kpmum]

So glad ur feeling better. I had GD when I found out DS2 was a boy. I didn't sway I just assumed I would get a girl after having a boy. I'm so glad I did now. My boys are 4 and 2 and little buddies and companions for each other. There's nothing like brotherly love and I know they will have each other for the rest of their lives. My desire for a girl hasn't gone (doing HT) but I am so happy I had 2 boys. All the best for the delivery of ur little prince x

[from2to3]

Oh my goodness! When I read this, it brought me back to my own feelings I had when I was pregnant with my DS2!! I tried to act happy when we found out during the ultrasound, and then the next day when I came home for lunch...I just started bawling!! I think I have just always thought I'd have a boy and girl, and I had gotten my boy first as 'planned' and now it was time for my girl. We only planned on having two kids, so this meant I would never get a girl. To add to this, a lot of our close friends had girls. I never realized how much I wanted girl, which is crazy because I am a tom boy. But like every one has said, when your baby boy comes you will fall so in love! I LOVE my DS2 to pieces, he has the biggest bluest eyes and is a complete sweetheart. Yes, he is just as active as his brother so I have two very active boys but I wouldn't trade him for anything. I love the connection that my two sons have. They are 9 days short of 2 yrs apart. The first year was challenging but now I am glad they are close in age. Especially lately I overhear them tell each other that they love each other...makes my heart swell. I do have a friend that has a girl and she is a big challenge for them....very high maintenance, tom boy yet cries and screams a lot.
I am the only one in both our families that doesn't have a child of the same sex and yes sometimes I do feel like I'm missing something. We are in a dilemma right now deciding if we really are done or if we try one more time for a girl. It is awesome that our boys have each other. Very convenient to have a family of four. Yet, sometimes I think we had our DS2 because if we would have had a girl the second time we would have been done for sure and we are really meant to have three. We are just so scared to end up with three boys...no matter how much we love them. Am I just being selfish? Keep a great family of 4 or take the chance for baby girl?!
Good luck to you, hope your pregnancy and delivery goes well! Hope that you find peace with your two boys, and if you try again for a girl hope you get her!