Help needed quick!!

[maidentomother]

Just do the one attempt, one BD. I think the sooner DH can be ready to go again after release, the better, in terms of lowering sperm count.

[greeneyes]

Ah ok that makes sense atomic thank u!!! Sorry to keeeeeep asking questions, buttttt
Tomorrow is the 'big day' fingers crossed and I'm hoping for my solid smiley face, so I'm going to release DH first then DTD within 3 hours( is that what you reccomend?) then after that when shall we next DTD? Can we just keep doing it more that day/night and the next day etc or did I ought to wait before I DTD again?
Atomic you really are a star at getting back to everyone like you do, it's so appreciated xxxxx

I'm watching this response to. I thought it was ONE attempt only and having him release 3 hours before would deplete sperm count too much. Am I missing something somewhere? I've read so much on what *I* need to do and I don't feel like I read enough for what DH is supposed to do...

[atomic sagebrush]

Ah ok that makes sense atomic thank u!!! Sorry to keeeeeep asking questions, buttttt
Tomorrow is the 'big day' fingers crossed and I'm hoping for my solid smiley face, so I'm going to release DH first then DTD within 3 hours( is that what you reccomend?) then after that when shall we next DTD? Can we just keep doing it more that day/night and the next day etc or did I ought to wait before I DTD again?
Atomic you really are a star at getting back to everyone like you do, it's so appreciated xxxxx

I think one attempt is getting far and away best resutls so I would only have another attempt at such a point where you're certain you can't conceive from it!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm watching this response to. I thought it was ONE attempt only and having him release 3 hours before would deplete sperm count too much. Am I missing something somewhere? I've read so much on what *I* need to do and I don't feel like I read enough for what DH is supposed to do...

I think that most people want to try at least the first month out including some type of frequency pattern, and the hurry up fr is one of many to choose from. Now, do I think that in the long term it's best to keep the frequency patterns in the mix - no, no I do not and in fact I think they should be first to go (and anyone who is in any kind of hurry to TTC due to age, weight loss, Clomid, hubs with cruddy sperm, etc should drop them straight away). But I think this poster is ok in those regards and does want to give it a go to see if she can TTC with frequency pattern and one attempt.

[hoping4agirl2014]

So I am confused when you say one attempt. Do you mean abstaining until the day of +OPK or releasing without barrier on day of +OPK?

[greeneyes]

I'm still a bit confused but I'll ask more about it in my coaching forum later. this topic has been on my mind a bit for the past mo or so and I'm a little off on it and probably just need to reread the articles you wrote for a better understanding.

Thanks!


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[atomic sagebrush]

ok about done in for the night but hopefully to clarify:

One attempt has gotten MUCH better results than most other sway tactics (frequency, jellies, timing,etc.) and it IS possible to get pg with one attempt provided one does not do tons of sway tactics.

Thus, makes sense to preserve one attempt even as we drop other sway tactics. (or for people who really need to get pg fast, to never include them to start with).

BUT, most people are not in special circumstances and do want to at least try a month or two or three trying everything, and so for THOSE people, they may want to give frequency + one attempt, a good try just to see if they can get pg that way so they have no regrets.

It may do nothing that one attempt hasn't already done, or it may sway a miniscule amount, but for some people they will not feel at peace unless they include every sway tactic possible at least once. This doesn't mean that this is BEST for everyone or even anyone, but does mean that some people are going to include things that I ~personally~ do not want the populace as a whole to be doing.

And because this is swaying YOUR way, not atomic's way, and everyone needs to feel fully comfy with their sways, I will support and try to help everyone to do that even when I ~personally~ don't think a tactic works or is worth its effort, it does at times put me into the position of recommending things that I ~personally~ don't think are beneficial or wise for the average person to do and esp. for people in any of the many special circumstances that sometimes arise when swaying.

So, sometimes I help people pursue sway tactics that I don't believe in and don't want the population as a whole to blindly do. This makes some peopel second guess their sways, because why is atomic helping so-and-so do that tactic when she blatantly told me not to? It's because there are no cookie cutter sways and each sway is a unique set of circumstances, and some people have the luxury of doing a lot to sway (at least the first month or two out) whereas people in a different set of circumstances do not have that luxury.

[atomic sagebrush]

So I am confused when you say one attempt. Do you mean abstaining until the day of +OPK or releasing without barrier on day of +OPK?

Could be either depending on circumstance. Frequency and number of attempts are totallly divorced from each other, they operate independent and a person can include both or neither in an overall sway.