JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB

[Mumto3boys]

Def GIRL

I posted this on it's own thread, but was hoping to get some help from our thread. I went today for my first trimester screening and to do the gender blood test. My tech was super sweet and trying her hardest to give me a good guess. I am 12 w 3 days (measuring 12 w 6 d) and hb was 167. At first she thought boy and then changed her mind to girl. She spent a long time looking at different shots/angles and just kept flip flopping. I know there is some stuff out there about 30 degrees and something about the fork at the end (which i do not know much about), but could any of you give it a shot!?!?!?Attachment 16317

[Mumto3boys]

I have my scan on Tuesday, I know what you mean by active as my last son was extremely active and I think just by the scan I see I will know by how active it is :/

This is my little bub, the second picture was taken first because the little one wanted to be on its tummy and did not want to roll over. Doctor made me jump up and down until it turned. I honestly couldn't see anything that resembled a nub in that position and then when baby rolled over the scan was over pretty quick because he had spend 10 minutes waiting for the baby to roll! I compared the skull with my boys and my boys little head was bigger and also bigger jaw, so I'm hoping it's a girl, but because it was so active DH thinks it's a boy. The sonographer wouldn't give me a clue. But all measurements are well below risk so that's good news.
My Doctor is sending me for a Harmony test next monday and I will know the gender for sure in about 2 weeks! Can't wait but I already love the little thing, boy or girl. Attachment 16319

[jmm0616]

Mumto3boys - thanks for your guess. I do understand how you feel. I only have 2 boys at this point, but I feel VERY much like you do in the sense that I feel like having a girl is something that will never happen for me. I don't know why, but just a feeling and as you said about the blood test - I am possibly setting myself up for disappointment. Not sure why I do this to myself, but I feel like the sooner I know, I can accept whatever the outcome is and bond with the baby. And just like my ultrasound, I feel like now there is a glimmer of hope for pink, but my twisted brain basically thinks it is just its way just shielding me from actually knowing just yet. I hope your baby is healthy and am definitely thinking about you!

[dreams529]

mumto3boys first ((hugs)) went through these same questions a few weeks ago when mine came back boy. Initially I was devastated than I did a ton of research. The test definitely can be wrong, even my dr told me not to count on it 100%. Having said that honestly though I am not pinning my hopes on it being wrong for me. I believed whole heartedly in my sway & that this was my best chance for another DD. I believe that so much that I have since worked on reminding myself that if after everything we did to sway I still wind up with a DS than this little man is meant to be. There is always the chance it is wrong & I hope for both of our sakes it is wrong for us I just can't let myself go there. The let down at the ultrasound would be to big for me. I will keep my fingers crossed for you!!!

Just to caution all those who have not done the test or gotten their results back yet personally I think finding out for me was the WORST decision ever! I have had some pretty rough moments since that phone call. I really wish I had more time to feel baby & bond before I found out. I know a lot of people have gotten the news they were hoping for but those of you that still have to take the test I would just caution you about finding out super early. For me at least the impact on gender disappointment was so much greater than I think it would have been if I had waited & gotten to know this baby first.

[GT77]

Congrats are your girl Lunasa!!! Amazing news!!

[Mumto3boys]

Thank you so much for replying you really don't know how much it means to me to know that someone is going through a similar situation. I do envy your one girl and I don't think I would care as much but I can understand wanting a sister for your daughter. I was so positive that we had done everything right and 'different' this time, I felt sick I have bad skin I'm gaining weight differently I'm way less moody than with my boys - BUT doing the test has questioned my belief in EVERYTHING out there, I from this point am not going to hold onto hope alone, or praying alone because I'm done, as if I think this way then at the dating scan on Tuesday I will be hoping, at the 20 week scan I'll be hoping, then I'll still be hoping that it comes out differently as I have done all other times. Its not as if I asked the heavens above for heaps of girls, just one, one will do fine - but as it seems we possibly can only produce boys. To be completely honest as depressed as I am, my two older boys 3 & 5 just randomly kiss me all day and today told me I'm beautiful, and my 17 month old was dancing to my singing and for once I smiled - wholeheartedly that I'm truly blessed with some great males in my life and this bean had all the odds against it including scorching hot baths and all and still fought its way through on our first try and it obviously wants life. My parents asked me if I definitely find out if its a boy would I abort and again to be honest it has crossed my mind, but when I really look into my heart and ask do I have it in me to end a life - its a definite NO. To everyone that gets what there after on here I truly congratulate you, and to others I will alongside you in this journey feel your sorrow, your pain, the sorrow that only you know I feel deep in my soul that will continue to mourn for a girl named Grace Eileen that I may never in this life get to know.

mumto3boys first ((hugs)) went through these same questions a few weeks ago when mine came back boy. Initially I was devastated than I did a ton of research. The test definitely can be wrong, even my dr told me not to count on it 100%. Having said that honestly though I am not pinning my hopes on it being wrong for me. I believed whole heartedly in my sway & that this was my best chance for another DD. I believe that so much that I have since worked on reminding myself that if after everything we did to sway I still wind up with a DS than this little man is meant to be. There is always the chance it is wrong & I hope for both of our sakes it is wrong for us I just can't let myself go there. The let down at the ultrasound would be to big for me. I will keep my fingers crossed for you!!!

Just to caution all those who have not done the test or gotten their results back yet personally I think finding out for me was the WORST decision ever! I have had some pretty rough moments since that phone call. I really wish I had more time to feel baby & bond before I found out. I know a lot of people have gotten the news they were hoping for but those of you that still have to take the test I would just caution you about finding out super early. For me at least the impact on gender disappointment was so much greater than I think it would have been if I had waited & gotten to know this baby first.

[GreaseMonkey]

Finding out is not going to make things easier, trust me I know! With DS#2 the minute I got my BFP I said he was a boy, I had really strong feelings and when it was confirmed I felt like a ton of bricks fell on me!!! I spent the rest of the pregnancy regretting things, not doing a sway (I was on IG at the time) etc....Everyone said I was going to fall in love with him...NO, it didn't happen, I didn't fall in love with him at all. I took care of him but it wasn't the loving bonding time everyone says it would be! It wasn't until 6 months into his life that I started bonding with him and that's because he was chocking and I hesitated to pick him up..It was really a dark time for me but honestly it got better! It might not happen at birth but it will happen!!
Now, I was hoping things would be different but unfortunately they are not, GD is creeping in. This is not what I wanted, I didn't want to have another baby unless it was guaranteed a girl...Well none of these would have happened if my DH had told me about the mirena falling out!!! It makes things worse when all my friends and family are hoping and praying this is a girl. I feel like I will let everyone down including myself
Anyways just sharing some thoughts, didn't mean to bring anyone down

[Little Lunasa]

This is my little bub, the second picture was taken first because the little one wanted to be on its tummy and did not want to roll over. Doctor made me jump up and down until it turned. I honestly couldn't see anything that resembled a nub in that position and then when baby rolled over the scan was over pretty quick because he had spend 10 minutes waiting for the baby to roll! I compared the skull with my boys and my boys little head was bigger and also bigger jaw, so I'm hoping it's a girl, but because it was so active DH thinks it's a boy. The sonographer wouldn't give me a clue. But all measurements are well below risk so that's good news.
My Doctor is sending me for a Harmony test next monday and I will know the gender for sure in about 2 weeks! Can't wait but I already love the little thing, boy or girl. Attachment 16319

So cute! I feel this is your girl, even though they say symptoms can be misleading, your symptoms are identical to mine. Fingers crossed for you x


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[Little Lunasa]

Hi Ladies

Well today I'm on a huge downer and I wanted to ask you a question. Do you believe in DNA blood test to find out gender?
Mine came back with what I didn't want to hear and now I'm upset and don't know what to believe anymore only that I am doomed to have yet another boy. The odds were against me from the start but I guess I have to come to the realisation that we could be destined to have four boys. Its just that we swayed so hard and tried everything that we were sure after all we did and even abstaining for 9 days that nothing would even survive and all my hopes were so high now I'm not certain about anything but its never going to happen for me. For some reason I'm just not meant to have a girl in my life.

Yes these tests can be wrong , I think another member on here got a boy result with the materniT21 test and it turned out to be a girl. Maybe it's best to try to come to terms with the result you got, then if it turns out wrong it's a bonus. Really hope you get your dg xx


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[Little Lunasa]

Congrats are your girl Lunasa!!! Amazing news!!

Thank you GT77!


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