TTC Pink February 2014

[dreamingofwin]

I am now thinking I ov'd last night yesterday. I had terrible ov pains yesterday... I may dtd tonight as if I ov'd days ago it wont matter anyway and if not ill be in with a tiny chance of O+???? xx

[atomic sagebrush]

I really, really, really, and did I mention REALLY don't want any pink swayer doing visualization for TTC a daughter. The more you keep your "goal" in your mind and stay focused on it, it sends T levels (or whatever it is that is swaying via the Maternal Dominance Hypothesis) skyrocketing and I believe makes you significantly more likely to conceive a boy.

This is totally different than thinking about or daydreaming about having a DD and I also DON'T want you guys panicking over errant thoughts and trying to control them

IT IS NOT YOUR THOUGHTS, MOODS, FEELINGS THAT SWAY. IT IS THE ATTEMPT TO AND DESIRE TO CONTROL. Whether that entails a concerted effort to "visualize" a DD, or a concerted effort to control your thoughts so as to "not raise T levels" the net result is the same.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am now thinking I ov'd last night yesterday. I had terrible ov pains yesterday... I may dtd tonight as if I ov'd days ago it wont matter anyway and if not ill be in with a tiny chance of O+???? xx

O pains can happen before, during and after O and can be relieved before, during and after O and you just can't use them to pinpoint when you have ovulated.

If you didn't attempt, by all means have an attempt.

[atomic sagebrush]

Arimathea or anyone reading this thread, I BEG you upon bended knee NOT to add attempts. There are some people who got girls from BD every day through O (because their husband's sperm was so depleted by the time ovulation occured) and those who had several attempts with long cutoffs (because most sperm had died off by the time O happened) but neither way is the BEST way.

One attempt has gotten by far, by a whopping 30% percentage points, better results than three attempts. So if your husband is one of the many guys out there who can withstand daily release or if as more often happens, something goes wrong and you miss a day of release here and there, you set yourself up for more than one attempt in the fertile window. And with the cutoff method, if you miscalculate ovulation or swaying changes your ovulation date (which happens ALL the time), and you O a couple days earlier than you expect,you have just had 3 attempts in your fertile window which drastically raises your odds for blue. DON'T RISK IT.

I know it may feel counterintuitive but it is TOTALLY possible to get pregnant from one attempt provided that you are not doing a bunch of other things to sway. One attempt has gotten consistently better results by 20-30% points than most other sway tactics so again I BEG you to keep that one attempt in there as long as you can, even while dropping all other tactics except diet.

[stephk]

Atomic thanks so much - that's really comforting to read because I knew a long long time ago that I CANNOT control my thoughts and it's best to just let it happen, and then move on. I did worry a little about the daydreaming but knew I couldn't do anything just tried to stop it but now I won't. I haven't visualised anything since reading that it raises T levels.

Interestingly when TTC my DS (and not swaying) we did pray for a healthy baby but we also visualised getting PG too.

[Arimethia]

Well, according to 30Rock, all you need to do to conceive a girl is have your husband shout "SUSAN B. ANTHONY" at the moment of climax.

All kidding aside I may just do diet and one attempt next month too but I was concerned that I had several days of positive OPKs so we did our one attempt on the first day but I had positives for two days after that. Makes me wonder if I'm missing the drop so to speak.

[greeneyes]

OH NO!! LOL Atomic popped in on our thread! LMOA I almost feel like I got caught doing something naughty! LOL J/K.

Spotting has stopped today. Thats nothing really new, sometimes that happens before AF. I spot and spot and spot, then it stops, then AF shows. I'm trying to remain positive about this cycle without blowing a ton of sunshine and rainbows up my arse, but sometimes its hard to do. I did take a test today, just to pee on something and as the dye was running up the stick, the test line was positive, then went negative as the dye finished going up past the control line. Not sure what to think of that. I'll test in the morning though, so at least I wont have to wonder about it long! LOL

So, I lost track... Who's on the TWW now?

[ltester]

Boy, greeneyes, that sounds promising. I wouldn't be down yet...

I am in the 2ww, I think four days in, if my O indications were accurate. I am doubtful that any of the early symptoms one might feel are actually real, so checking into that thread just makes me overthink things. I am trying to jus carry on with regular life without thinking about it for now. I am not even going to test unless/until I am at least two days late, because the disappointment of bfn is just too great each time.

Thanks to all of you with your age difference stories. If this does indeed work out, I feel much better about the situation we are in. Man, I hope it works this time! I did have a baby dream last night, and I honestly have been trying hard not to dwell on it, so it was funny to have the dream. Time will tell!

[girliedreamz]

My fingers are crossed for you this month still, greeneyes!

I'm in the TWW, too. I'm trying not to think about it. I expect AF the first week of March, so I'll probably start being a basket case then. Though, I fully expect a bfn this month.

[TeacherMom]

I am only 1 DPO if I estimate when my O was correctly. So I have awhile to test. Work the next two weeks will keep me busy and I have a somewhat busy weekend so hopefully it will go fast.

My DH is such a clueless man sometimes! He literally walked up to me tonight and said, "So are you pregnant?" I was like "I won't know for 2 weeks!" and he was so confused. He was thinking pregnancy was instant. Oh boy. I wish!