Sex question for girl moms...ignore if TMI bothers you!

[LilithWiser1979]

This is so educational! Thanks for all the contributions, ladies.

FWIW, I had a big O before and after all 3 boy BDs. Lots of other things in my life were boy friendly, as well, but thought I'd share. Always had a high sex drive, also.

[dloui128]

I have a really high sex drive and always O and I have 2 girls and a boy. I agree with Unwirklich with my sex drive does vary with my mood. The only thing I remember of sex when I was trying for DD1 was that I was trying to have a baby and it was taking a while so I didn't O when I DTD trying because it was sooooo planned out, it was like a job, we had to DTD because I wanted a baby. DD2 wasn't planned and it was one of those times that it was super spontaneous and I O'd like a million times lol

[atomic sagebrush]

wow hobber, I wish I would have trouble having sex without an O. I HAVE to be on top to get one and even then it is still work sometimes. So the whole Easy O for boy moms doesn't suit me. I guess I O quick with a toy though...

It actually does though because lots of women, est. 10-15%, never have them at all and it's the minority, 25% of the remainder, who can even have them from intercourse. (rememember - just read book about it) So if you're having orgasms from intercourse you are already more...trying to find suitable word, failing...whatever LOL, than the majority of women out there.

The evolutionary explanation in my book was that female orgasm may be kind of a litmus test to see if a guy is selfless enough willing to take the time to actually give you one. I am not sure about that because I know that a lot of guys are very jerkish when their partner doesn't have one and I don't think "selflessness" enters into the equation (did I mention that book was rather unpleasant). my husband pouts or even throws a tantrum if I'm not into it (and let me just say that has gotten really really old) so I am not at all convinced it's a test for the males since they're the ones who are into it.

Since I approach everything from the gender swaying perspective, I wonder if orgasms may have something to do with gender ratio, but at the same time I do see tons of girl moms who have them all the time so clearly it can't be any kind of magic bullet.

[atomic sagebrush]

I've found that my sex drive really varies with my mood, so kind of playing into what Rosie says, when I'm not pissy with my husband or just cranky in general it seems to affect things more than the hormones. Though on a just a thought comment, I dug this back up:

Mammals can 'choose' sex of offspring, study finds - Office of Communications & Public Affairs - Stanford University School of Medicine

This wasn't the article I'd read, I couldn't find it, but this one has the same info. The other had more strongly suggested that how satisfied you are with your mate could affect the gender of your children. I don't think I'd put a ton of stock into it, because there's no way every women with a girl was unhappy in her marriage/sex life, but maybe if women who are unhappy for one reason or another O less that's why they have more girls?

I totally agree that our moods play a huge part in our sex drive and so that's why I don't want anyone reading too much into sex drive and testosterone.

There are studies dating back to the time of Charles Darwin that showed single women had more daughters and while I'd never say I've been super duper happy in marriage I was def. at a low point when I conceived my daughter and my sex drive was nonexistant for me.

But don't forget that there are prob. two ways to get girls and one of them is being like Sloane, so it is entirely likely that it's both women who are very happy and women who are not so much that are likely to get girls.

[maidentomother]

I definitely think that men who are obsessed with female orgasm are being selfish, not selfless. In my experience it's the more controlling, arrogant types of men who feel strongly about me Oing, while the more supportive, devoted types take my word for it when I say I enjoy myself despite not Oing!

I am one of these 'O super easily from intercourse alone' types, and mostly I have g spot orgasms. I have a high sex drive usually. However I've never been much into masturbation, even when single, as I find it super boring, and it takes MUCH longer for me to O. I also don't like toys or vibration or even receiving oral, only real penis works for me.

Currently I do not O ever bc a medication I'm on completely prevents O and also really suppresses my sex drive, but I hope both are helping my pink sway!

I have a friend whom I consider 'super failed sway' as her lifestyle is naturally perfect for pink swaying though she has all boys. Vegetarian, low fat and low calorie diet, irregular and skipped periods, intense cardio daily via long distance running, borderline anorexic with underweight BMI, lots of stress with not much sleep, and she also has no sex drive, no interest in masturbation (she claims she has never masturbated), rarely has sex, doesn't O easily at all. I really want to know why she has boys!

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes I know one of those too.

It is because the type of person who needs to be that high in control, the Maternal Dominance Hypothesis takes over and women who are a little bit "control-freaky" have more boys. It's not just diet, it CAN'T be just diet, if it were then the entire human race would have died out the first time there was an extended famine (so pretty much every year before 1800)

[maidentomother]

Yes, that's definitely her! I so want to know how that personality type sways, that is, what's happening on a physical level that predisposes her to conceive boys despite all the other pink sway factors. I really hope we figure that out, just purely bc I'm soooo curious.

[Boysway]

Very interesting read ladies hmm, I think you've just explained the real reason my ex always wanted to make sure I had the big O. His controlling ways. I know when I was with my ex (3 girls to my ex) we DTD frequently as he had a high libido. My libido was slightly higher back then. I know I was under stress as my parents were trying to keep us apart for the first pregnancy. Second pregnancy, well my ex had changed by then and become not such a nice person. My confidence was waaaayyy down. Still lots of DTD though. Looking back I think it was my poor eating and feeling down and low confidence that got me my first 3 girls. With my youngest, less DTD as dh has a lower sex drive then ex had. I know I didn't have the big O when she was conceived. In fact I don't know how hubby was 'successful' lol. I had hurt my back so couldn't move much without pain yet, that was when our youngest was conceived.

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[TTCaPRINCE]

When DH and I got pregnant with DD 6 years ago we were young and I normally wouldn't have an O when we had sex. It wasn't a priority. I just wanted to have sex. So to answer your question when I got pregnant with DD I did not have an orgasm. This time around however I had and orgasm right before DH and right after DH each attempt and we are in fact having a boy.

[Princess of Pink]

I have always had a really high sex drive. Hubby used to joke when we first got together that I was the guy in our relationship trying to get in his pants 5 times a day lol. I have an O 19 times out of 20 when we DTD….O super easy (often just during foreplay before sex even starts. I also have a relationship with my vibrator and often use O to sleep. Alone I can achieve O in under 2 mins. So for me this theory doesn't work as I have 5 girls!

My girl swaying powers really seem to be diet and lifestyle related. I read all of the TTC a Girl info a few years back when I first came here and had a light bulb moment!!