WTF is wrong with me... I'm jealous of Princess Kate now

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes but in doing so Atomic, you've changed so many women's lives around the world! You're incredible!

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Thank you so much - that does give me a lot of peace of mind. That was the selfishness talking - even though it did happen for me and I am thrilled to be able to help others, I have many days where I wish it had been an easier road and I could have been able to just enjoy. When I planned on having more babies it wasn't so I could sit at the computer all day. I feel guilty for the time I did not spend with my littles because I had such a passion for this. :s

[Orchidia]

I saw that magazine and had the same feelings some of you did but I doubt she's pregnant again so soon. As others pointed out all the tabloids were keen on her having a girl the first time but she had a boy; there's no way they would know the sex if she was pregnant. I was dreading George's birth because I thought based on how bad her morning sickness was that it would be a girl and I would be jealous. Now I hope they have another boy so George won't be lonely and so people might start to see single-sex families as something that could be desirable instead of as an aberration.

Remember that Princess Diana had two boys though!

[atomic sagebrush]

Fergie also had 2 girls and of course Queen Elizabeth is one of two girls.

I honestly think this whole "you must have a pigeon pair or something is wrong with you" is a pretty recent thing!! I have talked to lots of older people and they didn't think that same sex families were in any way odd, while I do think people have always felt sympathy for moms who want daughters and dads who want sons (and vice versa), no one ever used to think it was strange for people to have 2 boys or 2 girls or that they needed to remedy it.

[hotdogz&boyz]

^^I wonder if it is because of shrinking family size and our inane desire to "balance" things. Back in older days, it wasn't uncommon to have 3-4-5-6 kids and so when someone had two kids, no one bugged them because even if they were the same gender, there was always that potential for more. Now, everyone is so steadily in the "no more than two, max of three" camp that the pressure to produce one girl and one boy is higher. And clearly the "no more than three" camp comes directly from those having two of the same. I can't tell you how many times I hear people with PP who desire a third who say people give them the serious stink-eye because they "already have one of each!" I'm not sure it's related, but it does seem that folks didn't get their panties in a wad back in the day...and often did have several of the same followed by an opposite (both my mom and dads families start with GG...followed by B...then one had G and stopped and the other had GBG and were done). Now that people can't really afford a ton of kids, I think the pressure has risen to get one of each so you get both experiences, but don't stretch your other commodities too thin. (I don't mind being stretched too thin, hence our desire for more...and the looks do occur since we have "our girl" now).

[dreaminginblue]

Now that people can't really afford a ton of kids, I think the pressure has risen to get one of each so you get both experiences, but don't stretch your other commodities too thin.

You've hit the nail on the head there hotdogz. I don't mind stretching our resources for another child, which I hope is my DG. I couldn't imagine stopping at 2 even though I am scared of adding another but I felt the same before conceiving DD2. I don't know the fascination with PP but I keep getting told I should be happy I have 2 healthy happy girls. And I am, I just don't feel like our family is done yet. I'd love to have twin boys as I keep expressing but I'll settle for one. Hubby doesn't want a fourth pregnancy due to me so far having c-section births so I'm truly hoping for a boy!

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[lisvna]

I can hear you!!! Same feelings here...defenetly gender desire and no gender disappointment. Hugs!

[atomic sagebrush]

I also think that the increase in marketing over the last several decades has a sinister effect on us. I feel like it benefits certain parties for every family to have a boy and a girl and purchase two sets of wildly dissimilar products for them and to be made like they're missing out on some magical experience. So that has been promoted and normalized and on some level it's entered our collective subconscious.

Now, I do think there is something inborn in some of us that gives us a strong gender desire esp. for our same sex offspring BUT the social pressure and that overwhelming sense of "missing out" or lacking that some of us experience when we can't go into the "wrong colored aisle", I think is a new thing.

[SamS_TTCPink]

I saw that magazine too and was equally upset until I went home and googled it and I don't think she's even pregnant (well she hasn't said she is). I also thought to myself how silly I was being but it does affect you when you have a gender desire you're trying so hard to achieve and then you read that headline and I'm sure she isn't swaying!

[prayforprincess]

Princess Kate is NOT pregnant and therefore not having a bay girl. The palace confirmed this was only a rumor.
Most likely when she does become pregnant with baby #2 they will not announce the sex until birth as this is their tradition.

[Doris85]

I know exactly how you feel Lemondade. I too, had my first baby boy when Kate had George around 6 weeks later. I was a little disappointed I have to say I had a boy (even though I love him dearly and wouldn't change him at all!!) but I am so grateful for a happy healthy baby.

Chin up - Im hopeful for a girl. May be next year?? We need to get eating those cashew nuts, greens and yogarts!!

I hope you have your princess too. Its what keeps me going. One day....

x x x