When to BD?

[FitBlonde]

I was not planning on using rephresh or anything this time (i used acijel when I conceived my son) and OPKs do not work well for me at all. Would I be best to DTD every day from AF-O or BD every 4 days? I conceived my son BDing about every 4 days. (Note: I am 24, my husband is 27).

[sweetdream]

I know atm the recommedation for Pink sway is BD 4day cut off. most chance of one BD in fertile window wich sways pink.

[FitBlonde]

Does DH release every day between attempts?

[sweetdream]

Thats an option. But there is reason to believe frequentie doesn't sway.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

[sisterplease]

Hmmm, difficult one..if you are not using OPKs, the advice is every 4 days but then that is how you got your son so I'd probably not want to do the same thing. One attempt is definitely getting better results than frequent bd. Its a shame the OPKs don't work for you!! Have you tried various brands?

[carmella_marie]

4 day cut off is not recommended for pink. Most ladies can't even get pg off a 4 day cutoff and those who do have gotten boys!! (Me and atomic included) atomic is suggesting one attempt at + OPK or to bd every 4 days because then you'll naturally only have ind attempt in your fertile window as you're only fertile for 3-4 days.

Timing and frequency are only one way to sway, there are others like diet and sups and exercise, that may be even more important so just because you got your son bding every 4 days doesn't mean it sways blue. Right now one attempt at +OPK has gotten the best pink results and I beg you NOT to bd through o as that us a sure fire way to a boy (my second son!!)

[LilithWiser1979]

Agree with carmella 100%. The best results have NOT been with cutoff, but have been a single attempt at +OPK (not doing it a few days before or after, but letting DH release as he wishes in the meantime) OR DTD ever 4 days to ensure one attempt in your fertile window.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think I may have already answered this in a different thread but I think the every 4 day method is best. Even if you got your son BD in that or a similar pattern, there is more to swaying than just frequency and nubmer of attempts.

[atomic sagebrush]

Does DH release every day between attempts?

Yes, you can have him do that, and it may be the best of both worlds but will lower odds of conception

[atomic sagebrush]

Thats an option. But there is reason to believe frequentie doesn't sway.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

Just to clarify, I do think frequency can sway, but it's probably pretty minor and it lowers odds of conception so much that I'm not sure it is worth it to try and include it.

Since one attempt has gotten such consistently good results, it makes sense to me to increase odds of conception with one attempt and let go of things that have been less successful and inhibit pregnancy.