Cold feet? Anyone else nervous to do their first attempt?

[LilithWiser1979]

I know that I'm really giving this entire sway attempt my best shot. I've been on the LE diet since late December, not eaten breakfast until at least 10 am (usually more like 11,) I'll have (at least, depending on how long it takes me to ovulate after coming off BCP) 7 weeks of one hour 6 days a week cardio, except for a handful of cheats I've been strictly vegetarian, I've lost 12 lbs and I've been superstrict about taking my fiber supplements before every meal. I've gotten rid of several stressors in my life, focused more on family and self, and started relaxing more. I'm even delaying weaning my 3 year old because I know it sways pink (and relaxes me!)

Still, I have nagging doubts. I know this is my last shot. If I don't get a DD this time, I never will. Part of me thinks about delaying another month to try to lose more weight, meditate more, and have more time on LE. Then again, I'm not sure delaying this is going to improve anything. I'm actually worried that the longer it takes me to conceive, the more likely it is that I'll fall off the wagon and start gaining weight, eating breakfast, skipping the gym, etc.

Am I the only one who was or is scared to start actually TTC? Is this normal? Should I take this as a sign that I need to wait? Or would that just be dumb and asking for problems? I've talked to BabyGirl4Me and she said she was having SERIOUS second thoughts and was petrified to actually make a go for it, but then she did and now she has her DD.

Ugh! I just wish I could whip out a crystal ball and know for sure that this is the month to try.

[SamS_TTCPink]

I know how you feel! I had such cole feet but my DH was adamant we were going to attempt this month. I asked Atomic her thoughts as I was so nervous, but she said no month is ever going to feel like the perfect month and to just go for it!

Now that we have had an attempt this month though, I'm even more nervous about whether or not we should have given it one more month on LE, a month where my exercise would have been better, when the moons were "right", should we have got a rock salt lamp.....etc, etc, etc... And the more successful girl sways I read, the more nervous I get that maybe we should have waited.

But atomic is right, no month is going to feel "perfect" and even if you do attempt, you still might not get your BFP. I think we need to be positive that we've done our best, given it our all and give it a shot. After all, if we don't attempt, we will never get that BFP, successful sway or not.

Sending you hugs.

[Manda]

I am scared too! I keep putting first attempt off!
I know I'm ready to be a Mother, I think being pregnant scares me!

Am I weird? x

[LilithWiser1979]

I feel like being timid about pregnancy itself isn't as weird. If you've never experienced it before, it's venturing into the complete unknown and ending the childless phase in your life. I'm actually not afraid of the pregnancy itself, despite the fact that there are some aspects of my pregnancies that are always horrible (morning sickness, stretch marks, heartburn.) I'm just afraid of failing and regretting going for it this month in retrospect. I think atomic's right, though. No month is going to feel like I've done "enough," at no time am I going to feel certain that this was the most I could do without "swaycessing."

I AM going to go for it, I just wish I was going into it less freaked out about it going wrong.

[sisterplease]

I know exactly how you feel!!! Leading up to my first attempt last month I turned into an absolute nervous wreck, even though I'd been nice and relaxed about it all weeks beforehand. Almost didn't even go for it, but hubby was pretty convincing and after necking a few gin and tonics, I was Ok. It was an awful time though!! It was the one and only time we've ever 'tried' (and we have 5 children together!) which made the whole experience very detached and without feeling. It was so mechanical!! Especially as your trying so hard not to have the Big O!! But as soon as it was 'done' I felt fine, didn't stress at all as what's done was done. Then came all the BFNs which wasn't cool!! Bottom line is, it's true, no month will ever seem like the right month, you just need to go for it!!
In fact, the only time I ever read someone's sway where she was CONVINCED she had been successful because she had done a 'perfect' sway, it ended up being an opposite and it was devastating. We all need to go into this knowing full well we could have an opposite, but if we don't get pregnant in the first place, we have no chance at all! We don't regret the children we have once they're here, just the ones we don't have. I've lost count at the number of times people say to me 'Oh I would have loved to have more children.' With an awfully sad look in their eyes.
You've done a great sway so far by the sounds of it, you should take comfort in knowing that you've done what you can with the knowledge you have available. That's what my philosophy has been..if I end up with another boy, at least I did what I could!! And I still get a sweet little boy out of it so I've been rewarded hugely. Either way, we win.
So stop worrying!! And get making a baby, because no matter what's between their legs, they'll be a blessing to you!! :-D

[LilithWiser1979]

Thanks for the pep talk, ladies! I'm glad I'm not alone. I NEED to have some confidence in my sway. It's not 100%, but without PGD, it's the best I'm able to do. I'm glad I chose the exercise, since it's getting the best results. Fingers crossed that this is my month for a sticky PINK bean!

[Hobbermittens]

When I was swaying for my son, I freaked out the first month we were supposed to have an attempt. I had cold feet, and I hemmed and hawed so much over it that DH pulled the plug on the attempt that month. I worried afterward that I had missed my one good chance, and that I'd end up having a girl because I chickened out during the one month when everything was perfect with my sway. Well, I got pregnant two months later, and got my son. So try not to let your anxieties trick you. Swaying is still a gamble, but if you don't try, as Atomic says, you have zero chance at your desired gender! Good luck. If you are doing everything you can, and have the strongest sway possible, that's all you can do. The rest is out of your control.

[angielorna]

You are not alone! You've done a great job with your sway!! I think you're right, putting it off may end up in slacking. Sounds like a great length of time to have put in to it .... breathe, relax, and go for it!!! My thoughts are with you!

Angie

[atomic sagebrush]

Something that may help take the pressure off is just going in knowing that very few people get pg that first month out anyway. I kinda like it this way, because you get those jitterbugs out of your stomach and it all starts to be old hat after a couple months and doesn't feel quite so scary any more.

you may even want to do a slighly stricter sway than you had planned that first month and then you'll have a pretty good idea that it will probably be BFN and you will have time to settle into it.