JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB - THREAD #3

[from2to3]

Good to hear from GT77!

Yes, it is so frustrating with my SIL. Shes actually my BILs wife, and I think the underlying problem is jealousy and competitiveness. She's been mad about something else for 4 months now and then she heard this and she's not happy. She thought we were done. Now she's telling some people that they aren't done. She wants the baby of the family, and the attention and all that. The pettiness and drama would almost be hysterical if it wasn't real.

Menic - good luck on your scan tomorrow, hope all is well with baby!

How are you ladies doing that didn't get your desired gender?? I hope you are doing ok, been thinking about you!


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[aidansmum]

GT, so exciting and so close now! Good to hear from you again. Soon we'll have some real baby pictures here. Yay!

Got a Doctor's appointment next week, hope all is well, he'll do a quick scan. I can't wait! 24 weeks now...time is flying!

[GreaseMonkey]

GT wow that's coming up fast!!!!
Glad to hear all you ladies doing ok, good luck to your scans tomorrow and the day after tomorrow

I have decided to cancel my trip to London for my 20 week appointment. 3 day sis way too stressful to be going to London and back and with everything that's going on in Africa I am staying put. My next appointment is in May, I will be 1 day shy of 25 weeks so I didn't think it would make too much of a difference if I kept that appointment and not move it. I am starting to feel baby more and that makes me one happy mama....Still worried something will happen so I am looking forward to seeing my baby

[bunnywabbit]

How are you ladies doing that didn't get your desired gender?? I hope you are doing ok, been thinking about you!

Never better! We're so looking forward to meeting our little guy. DH keeps saying "OMG, we're going to meet our son soon..." Only 12 weeks to go!

[gafan]

From2to3- thanks for asking. I've been feeling pretty good. DH has been less negative about my pregnancy, and I'm feeling more hopeful that we'll transition into parenthood well enough. It's such a big change!
I've been shopping a lot... zulily emails are addictive ; )

[snipsnsnails]

2 to 3 its my bilaws wife too. I'm sure we could both go on and on
Gafan, yes its a big transition but for the better. Once you see your little one you will both be so in love and realize this is what lifes about

[from2to3]

Hi Ladies. I’m going to have to blab to get some things out to hopefully help me feel better. I know a lot of you are busy with babies coming soon (yay!) so I don’t expect you to all read this….sorry in advance if it is long!

I thought I was doing okay, but now that my ultrasound is coming up I’m starting to panic. Last night that is ALL I dreamed about. This is it; this is the moment of truth!! It’s either a boy or girl, and in 48 hours I will know (hopefully its more cooperative than my firstborn )

The reason I’m so worried, is not only for all the reasons I want a girl this time and I will never get if it’s a boy. My biggest worry and fear is because with DS2 I had NO IDEA how much I wanted a girl the second time until after I found out he was a boy. Two days after we found out, I came home on my lunch break and started bawling! Ever since, I have thought about it almost every day. I was fortunate to where I loved my DS2 instantly, and wouldn’t change him, but I still thought about that girl I’d never get in the back of my head. (We were ‘done’). So, if I didn’t know how much I desired a girl last time, how much worse is it going to be this time that I KNOW how much I want one???? This is for sure it; DH is getting snipped after baby is born.

From the beginning I told myself I was going to assume it is a boy. Not even think girl. Well, I lied to myself and only think girl!! I can’t tell the difference between intuition and desire! Some things have been different and were different since the beginning, but like we’ve all been reminded…symptoms don’t matter! And my poor DS2 is dead set that he is getting a little sister, (no matter how many times I’ve told him it could be a baby brother), I don’t want his little heart to get broke!
Ahhh!!! I’m all over the place. I know I will love the baby no matter what…I just want peace, acceptance and a feeling of complete!! Thanks to those that listened!

[bunnywabbit]

This is hard. Hoping DS2 is right - I really hope this is your little girl.

I did from the beginning tell myself that 'it's a boy', in reality more of a getting used to the fact that there was a fairly high chance it wouldn't be our desired gender, but at the same time deep inside I really clinged onto hope that it was a girl. As much as I was wanting to go team green with this one, DH asked how I think I'd do when it came to the birth and it's announced it's a boy - how would I/we react? We really didn't want such a special occasion to be 'tinged with disappointment' (ugh that sounds bad, but can't think of how else to put it), but if we find out early we can start to enjoy the pregnancy and not be second guessing on a daily basis.

Got my FX for you x

[aidansmum]

From 2 to 3, what you are feeling is very normal, I also convinced myself and the world around me it would be fine if this was another boy, but deep inside we know that it would be bittersweet and break our hearts for the little girl we'd never have. I felt the same way before finding out as this is also my last. I just want to say forgive yourself for feeling your feelings and embrace them. I really hope it's your little girl this time and will be coming back soon to find out. xx

[coocoobananas]

Hi! I just poked my nose in here and just wanted to say this is to the tee what I felt like when I went to find out ds3. It stung so bad. I hung in there til I got home and then sobbed uncontrollably in my closet for almost 2 hours.
I can't help you change your feelings, they are there and honestly for me it only got a little better nearing his birth. I felt awful but it's hard to change those feelings!!
My only help I can give you is that it will be ok if it is a he once he is here. You won't want a girl then. You will be just fine.
Feelings crept in for me again around when he was 6 months but they were never quite as strong as before because like you, that was it for me! Sometimes I would think 'oh I should have done this or that better' and then maybe have gotten a girl. But then I was angry at myself because that meant I wouldn't have him and I wouldn't trade him for any girl!
I am pregnant again by a big oops so it's fun to think maybe. I know I'll be ok though if it is what will most likely be a he!

Good luck and I really hope you get to hear what you want!! And if not, you will be ok in time, I promise

Hi Ladies. I’m going to have to blab to get some things out to hopefully help me feel better. I know a lot of you are busy with babies coming soon (yay!) so I don’t expect you to all read this….sorry in advance if it is long!

I thought I was doing okay, but now that my ultrasound is coming up I’m starting to panic. Last night that is ALL I dreamed about. This is it; this is the moment of truth!! It’s either a boy or girl, and in 48 hours I will know (hopefully its more cooperative than my firstborn )

The reason I’m so worried, is not only for all the reasons I want a girl this time and I will never get if it’s a boy. My biggest worry and fear is because with DS2 I had NO IDEA how much I wanted a girl the second time until after I found out he was a boy. Two days after we found out, I came home on my lunch break and started bawling! Ever since, I have thought about it almost every day. I was fortunate to where I loved my DS2 instantly, and wouldn’t change him, but I still thought about that girl I’d never get in the back of my head. (We were ‘done’). So, if I didn’t know how much I desired a girl last time, how much worse is it going to be this time that I KNOW how much I want one???? This is for sure it; DH is getting snipped after baby is born.

From the beginning I told myself I was going to assume it is a boy. Not even think girl. Well, I lied to myself and only think girl!! I can’t tell the difference between intuition and desire! Some things have been different and were different since the beginning, but like we’ve all been reminded…symptoms don’t matter! And my poor DS2 is dead set that he is getting a little sister, (no matter how many times I’ve told him it could be a baby brother), I don’t want his little heart to get broke!
Ahhh!!! I’m all over the place. I know I will love the baby no matter what…I just want peace, acceptance and a feeling of complete!! Thanks to those that listened!