Crappy Mothers Day

[maidentomother]

Huge hugs to all you wonderful mums, especially mumofsix. My heart breaks hearing about your awful parents/siblings. In fact I am crying right now. Their insensitive and strange reaction to the gifts really gets me. As for you not bringing food, you DO have 6 kids. It's amazing you ever bring food, and that you make the time to visit them at all. They should be doting on you, IMO, and helping you out. Sound like instead they tale advantage of your caring, hard-working nature with no gratitude at all.

I know just what it's like as my mum and bro are very similar. I hope you can move soon as that will help tremendously. It's been 4 years since I last had contact with my mum and I only wish I had cut her off sooner, before she was able to do so much damage (emotionally and financially).

On the flip side, how lovely that DS1 cooked. What did he make?

[SamS_TTCPink]

Thanks maiden. 💜

He made pork cutlets with a cranberry sauce with mashed cawliflower and green veg. 😊

[Mrs_Incredible]

It's only 10am and I'm now starving, looks delish! Xx


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[SamS_TTCPink]

It was yummy! 😊

[maidentomother]

Fancy! And healthy, too. Thanks for the pic

[mt9178]

My husband and I have learned to put some distance between toxic family members and our family. Life is way to short to have stress like that even if they are related. Sorry that you had a crappy mothers day, p.s. that meal looks amazing (way to go DS1). Hope you are having a better week so far

[Adia]

I hope this doesn't offend anyone but after having lived in other countries and traveled to other countries, like Australia, their are cultural differences in the way women are treated and 'allowed' to behave.

I think American women are so lucky and don't always realize how good we have it. We are able to stand up for ourselves and speak our mind much easier than women in other cultures.

DH and I spent some time in Australia and we were educated at how women are expected to listen to men and not well respected when they speak their mind, from what we saw. This is not the only way things exist in Oz...its just what we observed.

With that being said Mum, I know its hard to not be as dedicated to your family as you have always been living so close, but I do think you could quietly not be around them as much, or come up with more creative reasons you can hang out with them as often.
Distance does help a lot, but cutting down on your frequency of interaction may help you too. And you do have a beautiful family that needs your focus too so that is no excuse - its the truth!

[Princess of Pink]

Adia I'm not sure where in Australia you visited but I have to disagree with you. I am Australian and I know there are some people out there like that, especially in certain areas that have large ethnic population's from other cultures. But as a whole country I think it's completely the opposite. All of my friends, family, workmates, kids friends, etc...the woman in the family wears the pants in the relationship, controls the finances, makes most of the decisions. We have even had a female Prime Minister (President) here! Not speaking our minds is not something Aussie women get acussed of often lol. We are quite outspoken generally.

I have spent a fair bit of time in the US and think we are pretty similar countries, we just have much lower poverty and crime.

Mum I have the same problem in my family that you do. Can't go a month without some comment about us not having anymore kids. My mum is the absolute worse (outspoken Aussie women). I don't talk to large parts of my family anymore and I am so much happier! We also just like 20 mins from each other so don't let distance stop you from cutting them out for a while! Good luck xx

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[Adia]

I wasn't trying to offend anyone POP, I am sorry if I offended you. It wasn't a glaring difference, just a subtle difference and could be an undercurrent that only someone like me would notice because of my life experience and travels.

On a bigger scale I think American women have a lot of things I consider luxuries (not material) that I have seen women in other countries not have. Just my observations.

On the flip side of that, I think American women also have to pay the price for those added luxuries and sometimes our families, therefore our whole society, suffers because of it.

What I wouldn't give to have Canadian maternity leave!!!

[Princess of Pink]

Not offended at all! I just don't agree. Women even get preference on university applications here and I know I work for a 'female preferred' employer (university) that advertises as such. We get 6 months fully paid maternity leave here and a further 6 months unpaid if you wish to take it.

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