New year babies !!TTC Pink in May

[Rosie85]

I have been feeling super down lately...I feel like I lost my daughter for sure as I see so many ladies with sways like mine was get their girls. ..it makes me so angry mine was for nothing. I am so angry I have to do this all over again and with 4 weeks of going back to my boyish ways. I've probably ruined my chances at a girl now. It is so frustrating. I have been crying all the time and don't know how to get it to stop. I can't seem to move on from this. I read online that after a miscarriage it sways for a boy...not sure why we all say pink on this site. You are extra fertile after a loss so wouldn't it sway boy??!

[daisymoo]

Rosie so sorry to hear what you're going through It's truly awful My best friend had a mc and two months later got pregnant with a girl so it doesn't necessarily sway blue. You have such a great chance of getting pregnant again with a girl. Remember that declining condition will sway pink and after all those months on the diet and what you have been through recently your body will definitely be in that condition. And I have also seen lots of sways get pink when they have given up their diets for the last month which would be the same time frame as what you have been off the diet. So I think you have a fantastic chance of getting pink next time. Try not to keep thinking negative thoughts (not good for pink) and try and focus on a new start, new diet and you will get your daughter. Sending you big hugs xx

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[daisymoo]

Best of luck Marika So hope this is your month!
Steph I think you should apply for Masterchef! Your meals every day look so good I think you are the healthiest eater I have ever seen! My le diet was all carbs and sugar, nothing as healthy as yours!!

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[essnce629]

Steph don't give up! You will get your girl! And like I said in your other post, my best friend had a miscarriage last summer, got pregnant again right after, and just gave birth to her daughter two weeks ago. I definitely think m/c sways girl. My best friend is also a crazy exerciser (running and spinning) and normally eats a LE diet. That's why she has two girls now!

[laVieEnRose]

I can so relate to you Rosie!
I too thought i had the perfect sway when I got pg first TTC cycle. I was so gutted that it wasn't a viable pregnancy and I did blame myself for it...
And the thought of starting all over again...Grrr its really tough...but here I am again :-)

you have been through some physical and emotional stuff so it takes time to heal on both levels... Allow yourself some 'kindness and care' - it helped me...

Big hugs to you xxx

[Marika]

Rosie - I totally understand that you are feeling down. Not only having to deal with the loss but also starting this swaying business again. I searched the internet after my loss as well and found that some think it sways blue, some pink. Atomic thinks pink, so I chose to believe in that :-) (Not that my loss will sway anymore, but I was hoping for that the first 2 cycles). Also read here that actually feeling really down is swaying pink, so maybe it's a combination of psychological and physical things that sways pink?


I have been trying not to stress over ovulation today. Since I knew I wouldn't have any chance of testing today I figured there is no point of testing tomorrow (since I think it might have been opk+ today) but now I keep examining my cervix and checking cm all the time!

I thought I'd just do this cycle in a relaxed way. You know, BD this morning, hopefully ovulate tomorrow or saturday... but instead I now worry like crazy that I'll o on sunday night and not BD again until monday! That would be too far between! Oh well, by now I can't do anything about it but wait and see.

[PrimalMamma]

Rosie my friend just had a girl after a MC too... In fact she has had numerous miscarriages, & has 2 girls & one boy (her first, after no MCs). I'm so sorry for your pain & your loss.


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[girliedreamz]

So sorry, Rosie! I've not had a miscarriage myself, so I can only imagine how completely upsetting it is, but I so feel for you!

I can relate on the diet thing. After over a year on LE, I just had to ease up. And in doing so, I was certain I'd ruined all chances for a girl! But... in 3 months of TTC with pretty good timing from all I can tell, I've not got preg. So now I'm thinking that even with easing up, I'm still not fertile enough to be ovulating. My point is one person's "lower fertility" diet might be totally different than what another person needs to lower theirs, you know? It's not a forgone conclusion that if we have chocolate and cheese we're going to get a boy. You still have at least a 50/50 chance of a girl. And, most likely, much better than that because you have been swaying. So the odds are definitely on your side.

[SamS_TTCPink]

I know how you feel Rosie. I too am so sure our loss was a girl and it's so frustrating to have to start all over again. I haven't exercised or been perfect on the diet this month and with our attempt getting closer I feel like I have no chance of getting a girl again.

I also have really down days, especially as I had 'it all planned out' with a December baby and now that's all been put out of whack with the m/c.

I do believe a loss sways pink after seeing and hearing so many girls come from catching the first egg. Unfortunately we missed out on that so I really think we've blown our chances of a girl with that too.

It's so hard, so upsetting and so frustrating when everything falls apart and there's nothing we can do about it but all we can do from here is try to think positive and keep on trying! xx

[Rosie85]

Thanks ladies you all had very kind words. I truly feel better about it all. I went to the gym tonight and it sucked but I'm gonna do it anyway and get my daughter.