2 daughters are make the happiest families??

[6bluewant1pink]

Mine is not on it too I guess very rare to see a family of 7 boys.

[sugarNspice]

bluebonnet ~ Oh no! I always get a bit worried when I hear of families with 3 DDs who hated it.

I do have four adult friends with 2 sisters each, two of whom think three-girl families are the absolute best, love their sisters, and are super-close to them as grownups, and two of whom always wished for a baby brother, or dreamed of being an only child, and who wanted anything but an all-girl family for their own children.

I should mention, also, that my mom has four sisters, and the five of them have been super-close since childhood, are still close, and are in their eighties now. Their relationships are amazing, and I think have really influenced my wish for a single-gender family.

Still, when you really think about it, it seems unlikely that the study could ever *really* capture the true complexities of sibling relationships--just asking the parents gets only their perspective, asking children isn't likely to be a reflection of anything other than how they're feeling at the moment, and asking adult children is likely to be biased or colored by inaccurate memories. Besides, how on earth could you ever compare--in a scientific, quantifiable way--'happiness' anyway? Or 'getting along'? When these things obviously mean very different things to different people.

[SamS_TTCPink]

I come from a PP family and hate it! My brother and I have never gotten along and I've always wished I had more siblings, especially a sister.

6bluewant1pink.... I guess we're doomed not even being mentioned! 😉

[mommymachine]

I am so in love with my family. This article has nothing on how in love I am with my family make up

[hotdogz&boyz]

Both my family of origin and my family of creation (at the moment) are ranked #8. But I can't imagine being happier with either of them. I love my family make-up, as I also loved the make-up of my family growing up. Although I know it would have changed the dynamics of our family, I can't possibly imagine being "happier" if my immediately younger brother had been my only sibling. He and I aren't close and really have nothing in common. I'm pretty sure our family hinges on my youngest brother being a part of it. (And he was a surprise baby, my parents had "stopped " at two). And my house, despite being loud and busy, is rather harmonious. My kids all three play together (and kill each other, in equal parts) and they really do love each other. No matter what we get next, I know it will only get better! These researchers have nothing on our own mama-knowledge

[6bluewant1pink]

I come from a PP family and hate it! My brother and I have never gotten along and I've always wished I had more siblings, especially a sister.

6bluewant1pink.... I guess we're doomed not even being mentioned! 😉

We're very special

[Mumof3girls]

I come from a PP family and hate it! My brother and I have never gotten along and I've always wished I had more siblings, especially a sister.

6bluewant1pink.... I guess we're doomed not even being mentioned! ��

I feel the exact same way! My brother & I have never got along & we still don't & I always said to my mum I wanted a sister but that never happened!

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so sick of seeing "studies" like this! Just let people live their lives and find their own happiness rather than worrying about things like this!

[maidentomother]

I bet the differences in happiness between the various configurations are negligible - which is doubtless why they weren't quoted in the article. If families of 2 girls are 1% happier than families of 2 boys, then it hardly matters.

[atomic sagebrush]

bluebonnet ~ Oh no! I always get a bit worried when I hear of families with 3 DDs who hated it.

I do have four adult friends with 2 sisters each, two of whom think three-girl families are the absolute best, love their sisters, and are super-close to them as grownups, and two of whom always wished for a baby brother, or dreamed of being an only child, and who wanted anything but an all-girl family for their own children.

I should mention, also, that my mom has four sisters, and the five of them have been super-close since childhood, are still close, and are in their eighties now. Their relationships are amazing, and I think have really influenced my wish for a single-gender family.

Still, when you really think about it, it seems unlikely that the study could ever *really* capture the true complexities of sibling relationships--just asking the parents gets only their perspective, asking children isn't likely to be a reflection of anything other than how they're feeling at the moment, and asking adult children is likely to be biased or colored by inaccurate memories. Besides, how on earth could you ever compare--in a scientific, quantifiable way--'happiness' anyway? Or 'getting along'? When these things obviously mean very different things to different people.

THIS! I have a couple of very hard boys (one is still little, but the other is now a grown adult man) and while they were/are difficult, my adult son is a very self-motivated and "immune to peer pressure" type of guy. So the same qualities that made him a tough kid to raise, have ended up serving him well in life and I wouldn't have it any other way. I was a very quiet, painfully shy, and non-demanding child and it took me the first 20 years of my adult life to learn the skills to function in difficult social situations and stick up for myself.

Everyone being "happy" and "getting along" may not always infer the types of life skills that one might want for adult children (and not meaning to find any fault in anyone's family makeup). It may well be the case that peaceful families (as defined by parental perception) are not the best preparation for life.