Feeling down!

[QueenB3blue]

Sorry you are having a hard time Mumofsix!
Hopefully you don't mind me commenting Anytime I have seen a post from you I felt that you were a really strong person. It is ok to feel down, don't be so hard on yourself. Sending good thoughts to you!!!

Maybe just let DH go to the gym and do whatever. I get so stressed when my DH is cranky! I realized right away that my DH wasn't going to be very supportive when it came to swaying, so I barely ever mention it to him!

[SamS_TTCPink]

Awww...thank you QueenBblue! That's such a beautiful thing to say.

I'm lucky that DH has been so supportive for the past 6months in regards to our sway. He has been following the diet and doing cardio only and even been having soy and going veg! I just think he is over it all taking so long too. I think he wants to try this month but he said today that he will support wherever I decide to do and that we don't need to make a decision just yet. And he is still on the diet! Probably doing better than me. Lol!

I do feel much better, think getting AF again just got me down. Still undecided on what to do though, I don't want to have any "regrets" if we do get another boy but I guess no month will be perfect.

Arrggghh... Decisions, decisions. 😉

[QueenB3blue]

So glad you are feeling better
I guess my DH isn't to bad, he just does better when it is on his own terms. So instead of me asking him not to eat a cheeseburger, he on his own will decide not to eat one because I am not.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do this month!

[PrimalMamma]

Mumofsix someone once said to me that you only regret the children you don't have, not the ones you do. No doubt if you had another boy you would have some pretty major gender disappointment but you are a lovely person & a wonderful mother, you would move past that & love that little man to bits. You're right, no month will be perfect, December is Xmas & virtually impossible to stick to LE!!! The decision is yours ultimately of course but I just tend to think its better to go for it rather than be left with a stack of "what ifs", especially if there's a chance DH will change his mind. Your diet always seems excellent to me, as you know I couldn't cope with LE & I've basically given up all hope of having a girl unless its just by luck which I guess is a possibility. In in the 2ww now & keep staring longingly at the girls clothes knowing I'll probably never get to buy them. It's hard. Big hugs. Chin up xx


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[stephk]

mum ive only just seen this post now, I am really sorry that you have been feeling down. And with good reason to, you are not getting the support you need from your family. I do agree with QueenB3, I think you should just let your DH do whatever he wants in the gym (he probably does anyway if you are not there to supervise). This is just another aspect that you may be trying to control which is not good for the sway anyway and its causing arguments between you and your DH. As for the diet I have been pretty bad myself for the past 3 weeks, Ive done my best but the restriction was getting too much. So I can only imagine what our DHs must go through when we are imposing these restrictions on them.

I think if I was you, I would let DH do what he wants (but let him know his comments and behaviour are affecting you and he needs to be more sensitive about it), do your best from here - you are only on CD3 now? So have 2 weeks to do the diet again, give it your best shot - and what is meant to be will be. Dont overthink what will happen if you are successful this time or not, save thinking about that for later. I hope this will be your month and will be praying for you.

[atomic sagebrush]

Aw hun. Huge hugs!!!

It can be hard to stick with the diet. I think after 4-5-6 boys it's mighty tough to believe we can ever have a girl, IKYKWIM, and that makes it hard to deny oneself.

I honestly don't have any real advice, this is one of those crystal ball situations where I just can't say what is best. What do you think will be better/easier for your family as a whole??? Aside from swaying??

[SamS_TTCPink]

Thanks atomic.

I still really have no idea what to do. I tried to talk to DH about it last night and I said I think I want to attempt this month but it seems he has changed his tune and now wants to wait. He doesn't think we have been "good enough" on the diet and exercise etc to get a girl this month.

I really can't wait til you get that crystal ball Atomic! I need to know what to do and if I'll ever get my girl! 😉💜

DS1 (almost 16) showed my a video last night of parents telling their 3 young children they were going to have another baby and the kids crying saying they don't want another brother or sister. He said that's how he will react if we ever get pregnant again. 😕
The other kids can't wait though and keep saying will you hurry up and have another baby! 😊 I think they just really want a sister though and if we do have another boy, they will love him to bits but will still be pushing to try again. Lol!

[SamS_TTCPink]

I was a bit annoyed by something on FB today... A lady on a parenting site was complaining about her MIL and how she's too in love with this girls new son. She was saying she takes him off her and kisses him all the time.

Anyway, there were so many comments about the MIL not being her mum and how as she's not her daughter she shouldn't be so involved and how this lady needs to put her foot down with her MIL.

Now, my MIL hates me (as do my own parents so it doesn't matter much) but it made me so sad that if I never have a daughter and am always just the MIL to my grand kids mothers will I have to be "not as involved" in my grand kids lives because the mums not my daughter??!?

And I did think about how my mums mum was always more involved with us then my dad's parents but they were very involved in their daughters kids lives, and my parents are more involved in our kids lives (not in the best way) then my MIL and FIL who by their choice have very little to do with them. And then I was thinking about others I know and how it's the same. The maternal grandparents are involved but the paternal ones aren't as much if at all.

Is that my future?? And all because I don't have a daughter and so lose the "right" to be involved in my boys kids lives?? 😞

I want a daughter so badly to have the mother & daughter relationship I never got with my mum, and I know if I don't get a girl I will always feel like that part of my life is missing, but this would make it even worse if I was always having to be on the outer to any grand kids I get. 😢

[myurkanin817]

I'm in the same boat. I want a girl so bad bc I don't think we'll have the money for a second... But I can't even stick to the diet. I'm seriously so disgusted lately.... I hope you feel better & just remember you're not alone!!!

[Luvmyboys]

I just wanted to pipe in and tell you that my MIL is very involved! She sees my kids every week and my mom only sees them on holidays. They both live about 5 miles away! I think the difference is MIL makes an effort. Of course, I would love it if my mom was around more, but my boys have their nana. thought this might help you feel a bit better knowing it can happen.