Uk ladies

[Babybeaublue]

Definitely. I was actually surprised at how many people wanted all one gender. I guess because my ideal is a mix I just assumed that's what everyone wanted.
Oh and I have a lady doggie too, she keeps the others in line lol

[Kittybear]

I torture myself daily looking at other people's family make up (especially if they have a pp) and wonder how they did it so easily I don't know anyone in RL with 2 boys (apart from my DH who is part of just 2 boys but that doesn't really count lol) and I do worry that I'm somehow going to be ostracised by the girl mums (even the ones that have a boy as well as a girl) that I grew up with and I made whilst pg whith DS1
Just yesterday at work a colleague (an older man who has 2 girls himself) asked if I was having a girl, to which I said 'no baby is a boy' and gave a big smile and all he said was 'are you ok with that?' WTF is wrong with people? I said of course we were happy. My DH thinks that my GD is all in my head (and maybe he doesn't get the same sort of comments as a man) but he really doesn't get how much is perpetuated by other people's/ society's fascination with gender xx

[motherofboys]

I don't think it's as bad for a man (with other peoples comments) when you get a 2nd boy because everyone seems to think that men want boys. I know more people who's hubby's have had the "oh poor you, you going to try again?" When they have 2 girls. Society thinks you have to want the same gender as yourself, and that you should have a pp so you can have 1 child for each partner to be close to and so gender specific activities. I do find now we are have 4 people have actually started asking DH if we will try again for a girl. But in the early days it was like "go you! 2 boys, well done mate!" But he has wanted a girl since before I did.


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[Mrs_Incredible]

Imagine his shock if your said "no we wanted a girl so putting this boy up for adoption!!" idiots. Hes your baby and that makes him perfect!!!
When we were told at 12 weeks number 4 looked like a boy i was saying to dh, how hard can it be to get one girl!? Just 1. When people all around me seem to get girls so easily? I was having internal tantrums at the unfairness of it all. However getting told girl is so much less believable than being told boy! I'm still anxious about my 20 week scan in case they find a dangle xx
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[motherofboys]

Ha ha yeah that would be an awesome answer to stupid questions like that!


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[Mrs_Incredible]

My dh really wanted a girl. He has 4 sons including our 3. At gender scan for our second he'd bought a pair of pink booties as a surprise. When we got in the car after the scan he gave me them and said "won't need these now" looking a bit sad. First time i realised he wanted a girl as much as me. We always imagined 2 kids. He agreed to ig sway for our 3rd. The ups and downs of swaying, douching, timing and 2 losses etc brought us closer. Although he didn't believe it would work. Ds3 is the light of his life, he's been totally hands on with him. Getting him to agree to #4 was a bit of a rollercoaster. He's 40 this year and had his 1st at 22. He did it for me. And i love him for that. I felt very torn about it but knew I'd regret not having our 4th. I got cold feet wondering if it was a selfish decision that would put too many financial pressure on us, and the boys missing out when we already have 3 lovely boys. Having a girl actually changed everything. It shouldn't but i feel now it will be so good for the boys to have a girl in the house. The financial restraints are almost offset by giving them a different gender sibling. Makes me sad to think I'd feel differently initially had it been a boy. Although that would be gone once he had been born. It stops being all about gender once they arrive because they're your child and that's all that matters and is separate from that longing for a girl xx
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[Babybeaublue]

Mrs I, you have my feelings down to a T
My dh had to put up with my IG sway too and now I'm telling him u can't have this you should have that again lol

[motherofboys]

It's so nice to hear that your dh had 4 boys then a girl Mrs I. I struggle to get mine to believe it's possible. Maybe that's a good thing though, because he is ALWAYS wrong. Every single time he thought we would have a girl, and up until being told "it's a boy" each time he would use the name we had picked out for a girl and says "when SHE is here" maybe if he thinks we will have a boy he will be wrong again and we will finally have his girl.
It's so weird it was his desire for a girl that really made me want one, and now I can't make him understand my desire, it's like his accepted that's how it's going to be and moved on, and now he has accepted it he can't understand why I haven't. And why I'd be willing to try all this swaying stuff when I won't happen.

My walk today almost killed me again, I usually walk around my village or to the next village, well today I decided to walk out of the village the opposite way to usual and go into the next village in that direction. Lots of little hills, finishing in a massive hill. Then on the way back I got stuck behind a couple with a little (around 2 year old) girl, so walking very slowly. Couldn't help thinking why did it have to be a girl and not a boy. With her big blue eyes, curly blonde hair, little summer dress, frilly white socks and proper little shoes.
I walked so hard in the way home I got a stitch lol


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[Mrs_Incredible]

Motherofboys I think men can compartmentalise in a way we can't. Dh will admit to wanting a girl but if we didn't have one then so be it. No emotion, no upset, just (infuriating) calm. Although he tries to get where my need comes from he can only get it on a basic level as he didn't allow himself to imagine it could ever happen. However, when he found out this was a girl he was completely speechless .... As in "does not compute" type shut down. I got it on video and he watched it a load of times. He said it was like watching someone else, almost like an out of body experience

Well done on your walking, I just can't do hills!! I bet seeing that little girl motivated you tho xx


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[motherofboys]

I dunno if the universe put her in my path to spur me on or taunt me LOL
That is so...funny/ cute/ priceless the way your dh reacted to hearing girl. Perhaps you are right, and he can separate those feelings. Like he told me before our scan with ds4 he was scared in case it was another boy. But once it was over with and we knew he was all excited and going on about what it would be like with 4 boys. I guess like when we say we are not sad for the child we do get, but we are sad for the child we don't get.


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