Best sex positions for babies of a particular gender, or just getting pregnant!

[zanacal]

This thread makes me giggle (what a child I am!) because it's really difficult to discuss without giving away way too many personal details! I'm thinking woman on top for now because it should be over with quite quickly, I don't enjoy it and gravity will be working against us Like you, I'm not sure I could trust DH to release shallow - he'd either forget or fall out or something and then I wouldn't be pregnant at all!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm glad I read this thread because I keep thinking that surely missionary position gives deep penetration and when I googled 'positions for getting pregnant' this was top of the list! I read on IG that missionary with straight legs for DW and DH(knees not bent iykwim) is how you get shallow penetration but that's also how I get the big O so that's a bad idea. (Incidentally, I also read somebody giving advice on IG that jump and dump was an OWT because you dump both x and xy sperm!!). Woman on top is the position I keep reading to avoid if you're having difficulty getting pregnant - do you think that's a good idea even if you're unable to control the deepness of the penetration? I will be doing a lot of other things to sway and if I jump up quickly I'll lost a lot of the swimmers. I think we'd wake the children up and end up with lots of bruises if we tried to DTD standing up at our age - and I'm not sure it would be over with very quickly iykwim! The other thing I'm wondering about is getting DH to release himself but to finish in me but I worry that would ruin our chances of getting pregnant at all - gosh, there really are so many opportunities for TMI here aren't there?!

Hey, this is a no-TMI zone! Some days I suddenly realize what I am discussing and I slap my hand to my forehead in shock!!

I think woman on top is good for pink even if you're unable to control the depth. I'm not totally sure how much I believe the "depth of penetration" matters anyway (for swaying, that is) because sperm do not swim at the speed of light LOL...you're going to lose the vast majority anyway when you do a J and D.

I think whatever gives you the least amount of tension is the way to go! No matter what, a J and D is going to help so even if you end up with a deeper penetration than you intended, don't stress!!

[atomic sagebrush]

does it matter if penetration is deep if he finishes shallow, though?

I really don't think my DH could (would want to) do shallow penetration as he gets too enthusiastic (sorry!)

It ~may~ matter because deep penetration spreads the CM throughout the VJ, possibly enabling more sperm to survive to make it to the egg. But if you're using jelly/antihistamine, that isn't going to hurt your sway any.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh PS - I totally agree about the shallow penetration and DH! NO way is that one happening!!!

[zanacal]

Something is bothering me which is rather personal - I may have mentioned it in a joking way before but I've genuinely wondered in the past (before I even knew about swaying and I'm not sure I remember what my reasoning was!) and I'm wondering again now if part of the reason we have boys is that DH is well endowed. (OK, I've just remembered, my reasoning was Shettles based!).

In particular, if we DTD around ovulation time I seem to feel as though he's actually touching my cervix - which is odd given that my cervix is high when I'm ovulating but that's how it is. (I also get the feeling that my insides might fall out when I'm ovulating - sorry, the best I can describe it!) Anyhow, is it possible that he's by-passing my CM all together and depositing directly into my cervix? I had planned to not worry about getting him to release shallow but to do a JND (and I think perhaps both those things, as we're only planning to DTD once unprotected, is overkill) but if this isn't a crazy concern then I wonder whether the shallow release should be our objective and that I shouldn't worry about the JND.

Any thoughts appreciated

[XXdreaming]

We can't do deep penetration, no rear entry, when he on top I have to use my hands for spacers lol, I guess he is large or I have a shallow vagina lol so more than likely all sex probably results in sperm deposiited deep inside, so maybe the standing one would work better? He won't do shallow penetration he does get carried away lol, warning tmi- could you lack of better words here whack him off and then release at very entrance of vagina?

[zanacal]

I have considered that very thing melinda, it just doesn't seem like the thing to do to actually get pregnant iykwim? I like the idea of spacers - perhaps I could build something

[queen-of-harts]

Melinda,your lack of better words made me laugh lol

[XXdreaming]

Melinda,your lack of better words made me laugh lol

At the time I seriously could not think of any other way to say it lol

[atomic sagebrush]

Something is bothering me which is rather personal - I may have mentioned it in a joking way before but I've genuinely wondered in the past (before I even knew about swaying and I'm not sure I remember what my reasoning was!) and I'm wondering again now if part of the reason we have boys is that DH is well endowed. (OK, I've just remembered, my reasoning was Shettles based!).

In particular, if we DTD around ovulation time I seem to feel as though he's actually touching my cervix - which is odd given that my cervix is high when I'm ovulating but that's how it is. (I also get the feeling that my insides might fall out when I'm ovulating - sorry, the best I can describe it!) Anyhow, is it possible that he's by-passing my CM all together and depositing directly into my cervix? I had planned to not worry about getting him to release shallow but to do a JND (and I think perhaps both those things, as we're only planning to DTD once unprotected, is overkill) but if this isn't a crazy concern then I wonder whether the shallow release should be our objective and that I shouldn't worry about the JND.

Any thoughts appreciated

No, that's not possible. He could certainly be depositing NEAR your cervix but even at O your cervix is only open like a fingertip. Plus, the cervix is where CM comes from to begin with, so if you're taking supps for acidity, antihistamines, diet, etc. you're getting hostile CM right from the cervix itself.

I do agree that doing BOTH shallow penetration and JND with a one time BD, is probably overkill esp. if you are doing other things to sway like jellies and antihistamines.

AT the risk of stirring up a tempest in a teapot, you are actually right that a well-endowed man ~could~ be more likely to father sons. But not for the reason you are mentioning. Bigger testes = more sperm and testosterone plays a part in the size of a man's genitalia. And this is just a general tendency, not something you can tell by looking at anyone, and there are many other factors as well like genetics, overall health, etc. My DH is normal size and no shortage of boys here!!! (Somewhere my husband just had a cold chill. It's for SCIENCE!!!)