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    Yes I have - and over time the therapy helped me counter my negative thoughts and change my mindset. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) specifically. Even walking down the street is different for me now. It took a while, and I'm not cured or anything, but I'm healthier now. It's like breathing fresh air after years of low-grade poison.

    When I told my therapist he was quite good and non-judgmental with GD/GDe issues, he said he sees a number of LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender) patients -- and he's very familiar with perceptions around gender. So that could be one thing to look for when looking for a therapist.

    Example good CBT books if you can't get to a therapist soon - the top one I highly recommend, it's the first homework my therapist gave me:
    Colorado Counseling: Recommended Cognitive Therapy Books

    I blogged a little about talking to my therapist too:
    http://genderdreaming.com/forum/blog...cussed-gd.html
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    Cycle #1 late 2013: 17 eggs, 12 mature, all fertilized, 4 EB batched
    Cycle #2 early 2014: 9 eggs, 8 mature, all fertilized, 2 EB.
    Day 5 aCGH testing. 1 normal XY (1st cycle) and 2 normal XX (one from each)!
    Summer 2014 SET #1 - zero beta
    Cycle #3 late 2014 - 13 eggs, 11 mature, 10 fertilized, none made it to testing.
    SET #2 - Cancelled
    SET #3 - Cancelled


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    I've downloaded that first one onto my kindle, probably a good time for a refresher for me! Since ttc#4 and the mc, ttc again, sticky bfp drama, feeling awful with pg illness, believing it was ds4, rollercoaster, disbelief and the extra worry now its actually my longed for dd, I've gotten into negative thought patterns to protect myself again.... Thanks for reminding me it doesn't have to be that way, its a choice! X
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs_Incredible View Post
    I've gotten into negative thought patterns to protect myself again.... Thanks for reminding me it doesn't have to be that way, its a choice!
    EXACTLY

    These thoughts are ultimately in our control. It doesn't always feel that way, but that perspective is what therapy can help you integrate into your daily life. Including how we perceive others' comments, one of the biggest GD drivers.
    2 sweet, beautiful boys, 6 and 2
    for getting my
    DW 39, DH 41
    Multiple
    Cycle #1 late 2013: 17 eggs, 12 mature, all fertilized, 4 EB batched
    Cycle #2 early 2014: 9 eggs, 8 mature, all fertilized, 2 EB.
    Day 5 aCGH testing. 1 normal XY (1st cycle) and 2 normal XX (one from each)!
    Summer 2014 SET #1 - zero beta
    Cycle #3 late 2014 - 13 eggs, 11 mature, 10 fertilized, none made it to testing.
    SET #2 - Cancelled
    SET #3 - Cancelled


    Dream until your dreams come true - Hopeanddreamg's avatar

    Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about. - Sir Winston Churchill

    Your dream doesn’t have an expiration date. Take a deep breath and try again. - KT Witten

    You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination. - Ralph Marston

    http://gender-dreaming.com/forum/blogs/ocean/

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