Any blue swayers TTC in dec 2013

[Boysway]

Dh and I went back to the drs. Testosterone level was 7.0. Although the level is below 8 Dh needs to be 40 in order to qualify for the TRT So, Viagra it is. I have just asked atomic for advice on how to alter dh's diet to increase testosterone and lower Estrogen.

[Ewpnx1]

Boysway i think muscle building exercises help with testosterone levels..But not sure how much time you both get. Yes diet should be easier and do the trick.Does Viagra increase testosterone?

[Boysway]

I wish dh would do exercise. He had good intentions but always seems to find something to get distracted. The problem is he likes me to come along. I should be exercising as well but it's near impossible with doing all the nightshifts I do. Viagra only opens the blood vessels to make 'things' work. If only he would apply himself to lose weight. He is just getting heavier and heavier.

[oncue]

I think Viagra is a good start, as long as u guys can DTD it's hopefully going to mean a BFP sooner. I'm not sure, but does protein powder or any 'bulking' products help increase testosterone?

[Boysway]

Protein will help but I think the bulking up products would only put more weight on him because he doesn't exercise. I'm starting him on pomegranate juice to try and reduce his estrogen level. I want to get him on zinc as well, just waiting to hear from atomic as to whether that's a good idea.

[Boysway]

I spoke to atomic regarding the zinc. He can't go on any more as it will sway pink. All good for pomegranate juice though Dh started that today.

Probably tmi but, I bought dh's tablets today. Hopefully they work fingers crossed this means I'll actually be in with a chance at a bfp next month Who knows when I'll ovulate though. It looks like I ovulated on CD 15 this cycle which is not the norm for me. I usually ovulate around CD 18-21.

[Ewpnx1]

Boysway it seems you have quite things in control.You figured out and you working on them. Thats what happened with us. Once we found sperm count was low we worked on it and that month only we got lucky..so good luck )

[Boysway]

Thanks Ewpnx, now all I need is for dh to finally take a pill

WARNING. VENT COMING UP.

Maybe I'm being selfish. I know dh's confidence is very low and he hasn't been feeling 100% lately. But, we haven't bd in two months! This feels like a one way street. I'm giving him the vitamins to help his body, I'm the one who said he should go to the Dr. All he does is fill his expanding stomach with crap food and beer. I told him he shouldn't drink beer when he needs to take the Viagra (it can make the Viagra ineffective).

When the taking of Viagra was brought up dh reminded me how tired and crappy he felt yet, he felt well enough to have a few beers

I honestly felt like the beer took priority over us. I know it will sound terrible but I don't want him near me when he does that. I don't just feel angry, I get angry Dh knew there was something wrong last night. He was pestering me to find out the problem last night and this morning.

I want to let it all out and tell him but I know it will hurt his feelings and further shoot down his self confidence. He kept saying to me he felt he did something wrong. I honestly feel like chucking in this whole thing. I don't just mean the swaying either. I mean trying for a baby full stop!

If he can't be motivated enough to help himself or help me around the house. How can he help and support me when I'm pregnant (if it ever happens) and when/if a new baby comes along.

[oncue]

Hey Boysway, this may sound like a stupid idea haha but does ur DH get more aroused when he is a bit tipsy/drunk? Maybe if he does u Cld use it to ur advantage and and get a bit frisky?? I know after a few drinks my DH is annoying and always looking for action hahaha so Cld that work? I guess if it doesn't work with the Viagra that Cld be a drawback? Sounds like he is aware that something is bothering u, so maybe chatting to him about it in a nice way Cld help too. Fingers crossed there's a solution xo

[Mamato3?]

I think that the best way to go now (eventhough I know how frustrating it can be) is you sending positive vibes towards him.
I mean that I strongly feel that men always look to us like we are their mothers, besides all the other roles we have to play, and rightnow he is in a tough spot with the issues he is having. He feels not man enough for you and his family cause that's the way men interpret these problems....
I think that a) you must try to be as positive and supportive and joyfull as possible, at least when around him and b) I think that if you finally succeed with a pregnancy his ego will rise and he will start feeling confident again and his whole attitude during family life will improve..
I wish you all the best and keep the faith !!!