Due in Mar/April/May 2015

[stephk]

Primal I think you could be pink shopping soon yay

Kitkat I will be on the lookout for your news on Friday

No my DH doesn't know yet because I dont know lol. The anomaly scan is tomorrow and he has told me to find out. I said I won't call him after but I'll tell him when he gets home so I can see his face. I'm so glad I know it's a girl though cos his family have been unbearable with the "we need a girl" comments!

[PrimalMamma]

StephK My mother-in-law has been a nightmare, but for the opposite reason. She has 4 sons no daughters & is a terribly bitter & jealous person. So she doesn't want us to have a daughter. She says it's because she thinks boys are better & girls are "unnecessary" but I know her well enough after 12 years to know that she's just bitter. Even my father-in-law (they're divorced) said they both wanted a daughter which is why they went back 4 times. She is also strangely religious, involved only relatively recently in one of these pseudo Christian cults. So yesterday she sends me the most INSANE message which I will post here so you can see what I mean about her being a nutcase!! Honestly, now I hope the baby IS a girl just to spite her!!

"Really a boy would be better all round I think, easier for everyone and much better for the boys to have a little brother rather than to confuse things with a sister. Either way, the health of the baby and mother is what is most important and God will give unto you a blessed baby of His chosen gender, perfectly designed. Amen. :-)"

I'm so wildly angry about it.

[LittleBabyJones]

It looks like a girl, you can definitely tell at 13 weeks as well. that's awesome so happy for you!

[odd]

Steph...ur hubby doesn't yet know the gender??? Wow, u r good ))

Primal, we must have the same mother in law coz that sounds exactly like mine..ugh!!

[PrimalMamma]

Ugh you have my pity Odd! Brings a new meaning to "Monster In Law" doesn't it?! She has 4 adult sons, her husband has 6 adult children & they are estranged from all of them. Between the 2 of them there are 9 grandchildren, 7 of them they have never met, the other 2 (my boys) are only able to see her supervised by us & we do not allow them to see her husband whatsoever as we suspect he may have molested some or all of his children. They only live one street away so it is a really foul situation.

[hotdogz&boyz]

Yes, because it's wildly confusing for your boys to have a little sister versus a little brother. You know, that pink onesie can really cause problems for older brothers. There have probably been thousands of older brothers in therapy because they had little sisters instead of little brothers.....(insert GIANT eye roll here).

But I feel ya. My MIL is also a complete whack-a-doodle. She says the opposite kind of stuff though. She desperately wanted a daughter (has two sons) and has rooted for every grandchild she has had (4 for us and 1 for DHs brother) to be a girl. But the funny part is that she doesn't give two seconds of care toward ANY of her grandchildren. Heck, she didn't even meet Dhs brothers baby until a few weeks ago (he is 4 months old!) But she always makes rude comments about how she figured we "could produce a couple of granddaughters for her" and how "it would be a shame if this was another boy." I actually find it a little vengefully delightful to produce so many boys My SIL is has a son, we have two (and I do suspect a third on the way, although def not for sure. Just a hunch). So my daughter is her only granddaughter. And she acts like she doesn't exist too. So at least the treatment is fair. Haha!!

[PrimalMamma]

Yes Hotdogz, terribly confusing, all those pink onesies and - gasp - a VAGINA! How will my children cope if this baby IS one of those girl-monsters!? No boy in the history of humankind has ever had a baby sister & come out unscathed! 😜

I get frightfully defensive of my sons too, every "FX this one is a girl" comment makes me bristle... Yes I want a daughter but that is my desire to carry not anyone else's, & my boys are awesome so another boy would be equally fantastic.

And how bizarre is your MIL's behaviour? You would think she would be showering unequalled affection on her single granddaughter. I'm glad she isn't for your sons/nephews sakes but it doesn't make sense that a girl is the holy grail & yet she doesn't pay her any attention. Odd.

[stephk]

Omg I cannot believe your mother in laws- primal I hope you have a girl too just to spite the horrible woman. I can't believe she wrote that. People really should keep such thoughts to themselves, they don't realise (I hope) the effect they have on you, and also your children if they can also hear it.

[PrimalMamma]

I'm SO sorry Steph I thought you wrote that message for some reason but it was Hotdogz! I will edit it now! I'm sure your mother in law is not a nutter like ours!!

[PrimalMamma]

Kitkat I can't work out how to post to babynub.com I've been trying since Tuesday & there doesn't seem to be anywhere on the site for me to start a new thread, even after following the directions in the "help" section.

Oh well. I wish I could stop nubsessing I swore I wouldn't but it's all gone out the window I'm trolling the Internet day & night for nub pics & can't even sleep properly. I hope it settles down soon! I've still got 5 weeks til my morph scan & I will be a nervous wreck by then. I'm actually regretting having the NF scan done at all now.