Due in Mar/April/May 2015

[PrimalMamma]

Great news sweet mummy!!

[essnce629]

Yay Sweet Mummy! Awesome news!

So so sorry for your loss Blessed. Life seems so unfair at times. Take care of yourself. (((HUGS)))

[Mrs_Incredible]

Thanks Mrs Incredible! Have you had your baby girl yet? Sorry if I missed the big announcement xx

hi hon, yes Eva arrived safe and well 5 weeks ago today, thanks for asking. She was 6lb 7.5 at 38 weeks. I didn't do an announcement, just updated my due date group (which only has a few ladies!) should do an announcement. After the section it was a lot rougher recovery than the 3 normal deliveries with the boys, but the actual section wasn't as horrific as i imagined. We still have moments every day where we still can't believe we have a baby girl. She is perfect and so like my youngest son as a baby. We are all totally in love with her, my eldest loves to sit and hold her. It still feels like a dream xx

[Mrs_Incredible]

Blessed I'm so sorry to hear about your dad! Praying for you and your family through this difficult time xx

Sunflower I got my results back this afternoon - baby is normal and healthy I feel so blessed but so guilty...wishing all the mamas on here going through hard times lots of hugs and prayers xx

fantastic news!! What a relief

Blessed, so sorry about your dad, hugs xx

[PrimalMamma]

I'm struggling along & feeling terribly guilty for it with all the baby losses, threat of foetal abnormalities and now the loss of Blessed's Dad. Logically gender is such a minute, inconsequential, selfish thing to worry about. And yet, I'm still nubsessing and looking at my photos over & over. I'm fearing the tech was wrong about the baby's nub. I feel like I keep seeing little things popping out under the nub in other people's nub shots, and that is what that thing is in mine. Someone posted a 13 weeks nub shot this morning in the ultrasound forums & it looks very girlie, and right under the nub is a lump that looks exactly like the bit the sonographer told me was my baby's nub. I haven't shared any of our thoughts about gender with our boys but for some reason both of them are convinced they are having a sister, they keep calling the baby "she" & "her" and are absolutely adamant it's a girl. I feel like it will break everyone's heart if it isn't. I keep staring at the potty shot too, & comparing it to girl & boy potty shots of the same gestation & I can't decide if my baby's protrudes a bit more or a bit less. The thing I'm really hating is that I feel within myself that this baby is a girl. I know that is caused by a combination of hope & of the girl guesses I've received. It is in no way Mother's Intuition but I feel like I'm bonding with a little girl, which I find terrifying because if the baby ISN'T a little girl then I feel like I won't feel bonded to the baby. I can't sleep properly or concentrate at work & I absolutely cannot afford to pay for a scan. I'm so sorry again to everyone who has experienced a loss & I understand if you all hate me for being so selfish.

[kitkat18]

No one thinks you are selfish primal mamma, its what brought us here the desire for one gender over another so I am sure everyone is completely understanding. I'm not sure there is anything I can say to make you feel better. All I can say is how hard those weeks for me leading up to the scan, it was hard to control my crazy!
I too googled and nub obsessed during work hours and had countless dreams about nubs yes weird!!!! I think all you can do is try and distract yourself, picture both outcomes and take a lot of deep breaths. Hoping the next few weeks fly by for you sending virtual hugs XX

[Sweet mummy]

Primal please don't feel selfish about your feelings! I am so glad you are speaking up about how torn your feelings are because society expects us to conform to and just be "happy with what we have" but even I wrestle with the fact daily about this baby's gender and I didn't even get a scan picture with a nub to obsess over. I can just imagine how it must be driving you crazy!

Anytime I feel worried or start stressing I look at my DS2 - he literally melts my heart and I immediately know if this is another boy I will love him just as much! I declared I will never feel gender disappointment again because this little boy will never know his mummy wanted a girl (if God decides this baby is a boy).

Sadly we did not find out gender with the CVS as they charge £190 for that privelege so we will wait patiently for our 20 week scan. I feel so calm now...is that weird? Kind of a "living in ignorance" sort of thing. Possibly because almost NO one knows about this pregnancy? We are telling the in-laws this weekend as we won't see them again until next year because we are going to my parents for Christmas and New Years. We will tell my parents when we see them too. Maybe it is because no one knows and I haven't had to deal with the "Oh it is probably another boy!" comments that it all seems surreal? I'm sure the reality will set in once the bump gets bigger and the comments start flying...then the depression might hit sigh!

[QueenB3blue]

Sweet mummy so glad everything turned out ok!

Blessed I am so sorry about your father. I lost my dad 3 years ago to cancer. It was just awful seeing him fade away. I was pg with ds3 which I named after him. Please try your best to take care. Hold tight to your memories of him

Primal I feel so bad that you are giving yourself such a hard time. If I had the extra money I would send it right your way to get your early scan!

Just wanted to stop by and check on everyone. Hope you all are doing well

[PrimalMamma]

I ended up ringing about a scan yesterday but I was right there is nowhere that does them here without a medical reason & the closest place that does is Brisbane which is 1300km south (16 hours drive). That kind of helps in a funny way as I know there isn't anything I could do even if I did have the money. I'll just have to wait. Scan is Xmas eve.

[PrimalMamma]

This is the photo comparing my baby & the "questionable nub" against the very girlie baby with the lump under the girlie nub that looks like what my sonographer said was the nub. Does that even make sense? Lol. But you see what I mean, those things are identical, whereas the girl baby has a long flat nub on top & mine has that "boy nub" that the sono swore black & blue wasn't the nub at all. The only thing to keep in mind is my baby was 13+6 so if the baby is a girl the nub would have started to retract back more than the other baby which was 13 weeks exactly. And the "boy nub" is sticking straight up at 90 degrees which is not really natural I guess. Still. I am worried.image.jpg