August Thread for TTC Blue - Chit Chat!

[ELP]

Daisy-no you can't take too much folic acid. You pee out what you don't need.

3Pink-wow!!! Now that's a lot of money to have a baby!! OMG If DH had his full 3 years in at his job, they'd cover 90/10 after the deductible. Who knows the deductible may go down then too! He's only been there a year and kinda wants to wait on another baby but I don't lol.

I'm pretty sure my doc said 3 is the limit on the c-sections. It has a lot to do with scar tissue and stuff. I will definitely ask him again though just to be sure. I would like 4 babies but it would be a LONG time before I could convince DH of that!!!! LOL!! I think the only reason he agreed to 3 is because we have 2 girls. If we'd had a boy last time, I'm pretty sure we'd be done now!

Another issue with the insurance is DH wants me to get a tubal while in surgery. But I told him that's just more money we'll have to pay out then. I said why don't you just get snipped. It'd be way cheaper and less invasive/side effects. My sisters fiancé got it done and said it's not bad at all!! But I'm going to TRY to get on Medicaid this time but doubt we'll qualify. But if I do (and doc says no more babies), I'll end up getting my tubes tied for sure!

The medical costs just sounds so strange to me from the UK, we honestly don't realise how good we have it here. The mediacal insurance sounds so confusing??If anyone has a minute could you post a brief description of how it works please. If you had no insurance and your husband had just started a job, if there was a nasty accident or someone in the family became suddenly gravely ill, what would happen?? In the UK we just go to the hospital, receive all care and medicine for free, then fingers x'ed just go home!

[ELP]

Lola, nightmare on the wrong tests!! MAybe its a sign so that when you do get the right ones those lines are gonna be unmisable!!!!

I've also seen a lady over on IG who had had about 10 sections! I think it all comes down to scar tissue doesn't it!!

[3Pink1Blue]

Elp- if you have no insurance and don't qualify for govt assistance you don't go to the hospital/dr's unless you absolutely have to because you'll be footing the whole bill yourself. A lot of dr's/hospitals won't even treat someone who's uninsured.

[WashingtonPromise]

I took a dollar tree test this morning....BFN.

I wish AF would just come. It feels like I am pg though, I wish the symtoms would just go away (or get a + on a test). I even woke up Sunday morning at 3am starving, after trying for an hour to tell myself I wasn't hungry, I got up and ate a Lara bar. I had a normal dinner the night before and a snack before bed. I just don't know about this crazy cycle. I am not even cramping or anything, my temp was still up this morning, and I have bad nausea. I have had the dollar tree tests work in the past... I just don't know what to think. My LP has always been 14 even when BF. Normally I just test and get a + or have AF on day 13-14.

Sorry to rant, this is just so weird for me. Today we started school, so not the best day to be having a mood swing.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks ladies.

[ELP]

Elp- if you have no insurance and don't qualify for govt assistance you don't go to the hospital/dr's unless you absolutely have to because you'll be footing the whole bill yourself. A lot of dr's/hospitals won't even treat someone who's uninsured.

This is soo scary! SO what would people do?? Are medical bills high? Say with the credit crunch a payment had been missed and their was an accident, maybe a broken leg, then this would be a nightmare situation wouldn't it!

[ELP]

What dpo are you atm WP??

[LolaInLove]

Hey ladies. I am SUPER SAD. BFN this morning, and I really don't feel pg at all. My boobs are not sore at all, and when I'm pg, they would be huge heat balloons already. I felt like this would be it with the Clomid. I am not sure what to do now, I guess try again. I don't know what the problem is. All of my testing checked out perfectly. SIGH.

And I had a vbac also, I am a huge proponent of them, it is a MUCH better birth experience, easier recovery, and way cheaper. Alexis, when you do get pg, let some of us ladies tell you our stories, you will see that the doctors and medical system aren't always right. There is no reason in the world why you couldn't try for a vbac third time around if you wanted to. You would not believe how much better the whole having a baby thing is when you don't have major abdominal surgery to deal with as well. Of course, no judgement at all, I just hate how the US medical system treats pregnancy and childbirth.

When I had DD1, I did whatever my doctors said. I ended up having a 33 hour back labor with a posterior baby, and then being put in an assembly line for a section. I was the 3rd of 4 lined up. I am surprised they didn't line us up in the hall in our beds. My doctors did NOTHING to help me labor better, to help her turn, nothing. When I had DD2, I went to the medical school library and checked out books and read on websites and talked to women who had vbacs, and I learned my rights as a patient and a pregnant women. Since I had moved to a new town between the two, I went to the "best" all-women practice here, and when the doctors told me I was endangering myself and my baby to try for a vbac, when they shook their heads at me like I was a stupid hippie or something, I told them to F OFF and went to a different practice where they had midwives who were laid back and also hired a private doula to help me throughout pregnancy and birth as well. She taught me methods to "spin" my baby if she was posterior again, just simply positioning of the body, and she taught me how to get through labor naturally. Anyway, I ended up having an amazing birth, although I labored for 14 hours and caved and got an epidural at the last minute because I was so tired and in so much pain. But it was HEAD AND SHOULDERS above a c-section in terms of birth experience, and I was up and walking in an hour, it was amazing. I highly recommend trying it out if you have any inkling of a desire to do so. Odds are very high (and NOT what the doctors tell you) that all will be just fine. Just remember that doctors A) make more money when they do sections, B) have easier schedules and don't have to run out in the middle of the night for labors, and C) have lower malpractice insurance premiums because they don't do vbacs. (Which is bogus because there are more bad things that happen from sections than vbacs.) MY DOCTOR who is awesome (as referenced in my other post about wanting her to come over as a friend and deliver me, which she would probably do) told me because she got so fed up with the whole OB/maternity bullcrap with practices and hospitals and insurance that she dropped it and unfortunately for me, just does GYNO only now. Anyway, that is my story!!!

[LolaInLove]

I took a dollar tree test this morning....BFN.

I wish AF would just come. It feels like I am pg though, I wish the symtoms would just go away (or get a + on a test). I even woke up Sunday morning at 3am starving, after trying for an hour to tell myself I wasn't hungry, I got up and ate a Lara bar. I had a normal dinner the night before and a snack before bed. I just don't know about this crazy cycle. I am not even cramping or anything, my temp was still up this morning, and I have bad nausea. I have had the dollar tree tests work in the past... I just don't know what to think. My LP has always been 14 even when BF. Normally I just test and get a + or have AF on day 13-14.

Sorry to rant, this is just so weird for me. Today we started school, so not the best day to be having a mood swing.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks ladies.

I'm sorry, WP. I know exactly how you feel.

[WashingtonPromise]

So sorry Lola. When is AF due?

I am 14dpo.

[LolaInLove]

So sorry Lola. When is AF due?

I am 14dpo.

I am 10dpo, and usually get AF on 14dpo. So, I guess on Friday. I am wondering if I should hold out a small glimmer of hope, but I doubt it. I am bad at getting my hopes up when ttc. I've been doing it way too long now. Yours should be here soon, yea?