August Thread for TTC Blue - Chit Chat!

[iluvmyman]

LOL, Lola, get a life. You are only 10dpo and you know better than that. He he he! I don't have sore boobs really at all anymore. I have had no sore boobs w/ this pregnancy at all yet so don't worry about that. I did have that feeling like you were fighting off a cold feeling and I was emotional. Do you know the percentage of one time shot working on the clomid? Don't you give up quite yet.

I have read through everyone's posts while I've been gone and they were cracking me up.

3PNB, the little waving hand brought tears up and I like the thoughts that he's saying I'm OK here mommy, don't worry. I'm sure this entire pregnancy will be very emotional and I would expect you to be all over the place. I didn't enjoy my last pregnancy so try to take some time to sit and feel and enjoy.

The home water birth was amazing. I am still an advocate, just be prepared especially w/ a unassisted that you are ready to deal with the outcome if something terrible was to happen and you understand what distress and other things really look like so you are prepared to go to the hospital right away. I think home birth is amazing but birth can be dangerous at home and in the hospital both. I don't want to be a downer though, I loved it.

I went to SoCal to see my sisters before 1 of their kids goes to school on Monday. I didn't have a great time though and I knew I shouldn't have gone. I was way too tired and emotional to be there. I told my 1 sister who is getting crazy into Old Testament law and she talks to me about it constantly. I hate it. No Christmas, Easter, birthday's they are eating Kosher, no birth or marriage certificates or ssn's or anything that's normal really. I find it frustrating in the fact that they are pulling further away from family and people. I told her that I would no longer talk to her about it. She is pregnant and was very upset since we talk about everything. I told her that she needed to get used to it. It's just like homeschool, home birth, hollistic meds, you stop talking to people about it unless they are open and intested. If not, the treat you like you are a fool.

My other sister has such out of control parenting issues that I just get very frustrated w/ her selfish child-centered parenting that is detrimental to her kids. Her "most perfect, beautiful, awesome" son didn't want to go to the dentist and would get upset so in 4 years he's never had to go. He refuses to eat all but a few things and very particularly at that and now has 1 tooth disintegrating and the top front 4 have to be capped. He will need to go under anesthesia now since she let him make the rules. I told her she needed to go to a pediatric dentist and let them know. If they can deal w/ children with autism and such they can deal w/ her over the top momma's boy. there are just so many things that she's unwilling to see that she is causing harm to her children. She is so hard on her girls but her precious son, you'd think he walked on water. I just don't get it. This is why I shouldn't have gone.

I picked a fight w/ DH last night and slept w/ my son pissed about something he can't even do anything about, just mad at being stuck in certain places in life. I got so frustrated w/ DD1 that I was boiling inside the day I left for SoCal. I called my sister while I was driving to vent and was all kinds of worked up. My eyes had been blurry all morning and then I started having trouble coming up w/ the words I was trying to say. I think I had too much blood working from being upset. I am just the most crazy, hormal pregnant person ever. I'm shocked my DH has let me have 5. I'm insane and I don't even like myself.

I have so much to do to get ready for the school year on Monday and the house is soooo horrible I can't even tell you. Why can't I just have a normal life where I'm at home w/ my kids in my own house and not living in my hoarding mother's (parents) upstairs. I can't have a normal family life and now i have to work 3 days for the fall instead of 2. Now 3 days of my week is spent at someone else's house. I really should go, I'm not in a good place and need to start being thankful. I think I'll take the kids to the park for a break.

Oh yes, and I told both of my sisters I was pregnant. #1 I needed them to know why I was being such a b*#$@ and #2 one of my sisters was already on to me since I said and did the same things to hide my last pregnancy. When I told her I wasn't having starbucks she was on to me. I told DH there was no point in hiding it and it wouldn't be a surprise anyway. The friend I work for is on to me too since I've had Dr. appts. Not as much fun but I don't feel like telling everyone yet.

[LolaInLove]

Iluv, man, I love you, girl. Thanks for the slap in the face. And thanks for making me feel better re:symptoms.

Your sisters sound like nutjobs, sorry you have to deal with that. But, good for you for sticking up for yourself....it IS indeed to hard to talk to people about stuff that you know they won't be open-minded about. However, it seems like sister #1 REALLY has gone off the deep end. They don't even have ss#s and such? Wow. I didn't know you could do that unless you lived in the bushes somewhere.

Good point about home birthing, for sure. I guess it is safe to say there is always a risk. I get freaked out a bit thinking about that, but I guess you just have to identify how problems look and be willing to abandon your hospital-less mission and go do what you gotta do. Are you going to HB this baby?

I know what you mean about getting frustrated at not being able to have a "normal" life. Everyone goes through the transitional and difficult phases....and man, how many people are with this crapola economy??...but I think it's hard to not have days or even little periods where it really pisses you off. I know it's cliche to tell you to relax and all. I wish I could just give you a hug. I know it sucks. Just keep up hope that you will be out of there soon enough.

xxoooooo

[iluvmyman]

wp - fwiw I took a dollar tree test with fmu the day af was due and got a bfn and then got light a very clear bfp on a frer later that day.

elp - lots of people are bankrupted by that very scenario. Hospitals will work out payments with you but if you're stretched already it can really kill ya. My bil and sil have no insurance so they just do not go to the dr, they take the kids but they never go unless they absolutely have to. It's really sad, many americans haven't been to a dr in years.

Lola - sorry about the bfn hun but 10dpo there is definitely still hope! A good friend of mine had a home birth after a c-section (babe was transverse) and raved about the differences. She's done but said she's do the vbac again in a second!

I still have Dr. bills from when I didn't have insurance. They might still be in collections.

[iluvmyman]

Your right Lola, I keep trying to pretend I have no symtoms, so if I get another BFN I will be expecting it. I ask DH to pick up a test on his way home....typical DH answer "What kind?" me, "I have no idea....at cheap one would be good" DH, "Well, let's just do the wait until AF test, it's really cheap"

LOL! Did you refrain from smacking him?

[iluvmyman]

Iluv, man, I love you, girl. Thanks for the slap in the face. And thanks for making me feel better re:symptoms.

Your sisters sound like nutjobs, sorry you have to deal with that. But, good for you for sticking up for yourself....it IS indeed to hard to talk to people about stuff that you know they won't be open-minded about. However, it seems like sister #1 REALLY has gone off the deep end. They don't even have ss#s and such? Wow. I didn't know you could do that unless you lived in the bushes somewhere.

Good point about home birthing, for sure. I guess it is safe to say there is always a risk. I get freaked out a bit thinking about that, but I guess you just have to identify how problems look and be willing to abandon your hospital-less mission and go do what you gotta do. Are you going to HB this baby?

I know what you mean about getting frustrated at not being able to have a "normal" life. Everyone goes through the transitional and difficult phases....and man, how many people are with this crapola economy??...but I think it's hard to not have days or even little periods where it really pisses you off. I know it's cliche to tell you to relax and all. I wish I could just give you a hug. I know it sucks. Just keep up hope that you will be out of there soon enough.

xxoooooo

Luv you too! I had to give you a hard time Lola, I just had to! They are hoping to move into the bushes somewhere, so just give them some time. We all screw up w/ our parenting but DS2's doing some things that's shes so unwilling to see. Oh well, you just feel bad for the kids and for her extra stress.

I think it would be irresponsible of me to do a HB at this point and I don't think I could handle it if something was to happen again. No widwife would touch me with a ten foot pole at this point anyway. I want to in soooo many ways. It was amazing and amazing for the kids. Hopefully they can still be in the room but we'll have to have someone waiting in case the kids need to leave. The hospital I'm in, the rooms are on the smaller side so it will be hard. I want my children there and someone to video. The doula might want to be there too that attended our birth but DH is pretty particular. I'm of the more the merrier approach.

I guess part of the home birth too is that I read a lot and people seem to think that home birth is the best and hospitals suck stuff and I just want to tell people that there are risks in anything. The attitude is what I struggle with and had it myself. I would recommend a licensed well recommended midwife. The unattended is way to scary I think, although I know someone who did it.

[WashingtonPromise]

iluv: I completely understand where you are coming from. Your right anything can happen when it comes to birth, you have to be prepared and even more so if doing a home birth. Did you have a midwife? Nope didn't smack hubby...yet....he is on his way home Sometimes I am glad I have all brothers....you want a close bond with sisters and if they flake, I think it would make it very hard. Luckily you have a nice family to come home to.

[WashingtonPromise]

b3: Is hypnobirthing anything like The Bradley method?

[iluvmyman]

iluv: I completely understand where you are coming from. Your right anything can happen when it comes to birth, you have to be prepared and even more so if doing a home birth. Did you have a midwife? Nope didn't smack hubby...yet....he is on his way home Sometimes I am glad I have all brothers....you want a close bond with sisters and if they flake, I think it would make it very hard. Luckily you have a nice family to come home to.

We had a doula there who had been through all of her training minus taking the midwifery test for her license, since taking the test wasn't available until after the birth. The symptoms my son was showing no one had the experience to tell that he was in distress. Had we been in a hospital w/ more people and knowledge, things might have been different. Hard to be 100% about that, but seems he would have had more of a chance and caught earlier. There are still risks at a hospital, but in this case, things might have been different. God could have saved him, so I think he just wasn't meant for this world and I'll see him again soon. The guilt is hard to deal with and I have to just understand what happened is rare. Like I said, I'm pro home birth but people can get cocky about it too.

[begonia]

I guess part of the home birth too is that I read a lot and people seem to think that home birth is the best and hospitals suck stuff and I just want to tell people that there are risks in anything. The attitude is what I struggle with and had it myself. I would recommend a licensed well recommended midwife. The unattended is way to scary I think, although I know someone who did it.

ITA with this. We have a family member who lost their 2nd baby due to not getting to the hospital in time after a complicated home birth. The mother herself was quite lucky to live I think it is admirable when women go for it, I understand the desire for sure, but I know she regrets her decision still... that said, her 1st was a home birth that went well so she felt confident in her choice at the time. To each her own on this type of thing IMO. I'm quite comfortable in the hospital myself

Iluv I missed you and am glad you're back! Sorry to hear of the family drama. A friend of mine has a brother who has chosen to live Old Testament style. It is ... intense; until she told me about it I hadn't heard of that at all. for all you have going on right now.

Weirdly today I've been feeling pretty good about potentially having DD3. Last week the idea was making me miserable. Good ol' pregnancy hormones, gotta love them. Today they made me eat McDonalds chicken nuggets, which normally I have absolutely no desire for, ever. Even my kids don't like McD's. But they were exactly what I needed, LOL!

[3Pink1Blue]

Lola- I'm so scared of the homebirth, I've had 2 births that needed intervention. I like the hospital/midwife combo, peace in my room, technology down the hall lol

B- yep same pal

Elp- b's right, I'll clarify. They won't turn you away in an emergency but can refuse to treat you in a non-emergency situation.

Alexis- fear not the vaginal birth, quick healing and you feel back to normal within days.

Iluv- thanks Hun, I'm starting to relax a bit and feel happy. The bigger the belly gets the happier I'm starting to feel, the little kicks aren't hurting either
My sil does things with her kids that are hurting them in the long run. It's so hard to sit and watch but not always worth the fight.

WP- all brothers huh, yeah you really miss the drama of being close to a screw-up sister. Enjoy it lol Have you studied Bradleys? I love it!