August Thread for TTC Blue - Chit Chat!

[begonia]

Jen I meant to comment on one of our other threads but I am so excited you can feel the baby already! I read that the more pg you have the easier it is to feel so I'm also hoping I will get some early flutters. Nothing settles an anxious Mama more than feeling that baby move so I am really happy that yours is giving you that treat!

[b3blue]

Oh wow, B3, that is exactly what I'd love to do. I'll have to pick your brain about it more, especially the hypnobabies thing, if and when I get pg. What a great story, though! Did you have a midwife at your house?

Alexis, I have only had a medicated vaginal birth, but it was a piece of cake. I felt no pain, just a wonderful sensation of the baby coming out and just felt with it and powerful, like I did that, ya know? I would love to try a natural one, and I know it does hurt, but there are ways to work with/around the pain. I just didn't have enough gusto left after 14 hours of hard core labor....and my ex-dh (who was DH at the time) was SO unsupportive, he just wanted me to get it over with. He hated all the baby stuff so much.....so I think if I try it this time with my now amazing and supportive DH, I can do it. It's kind of like something for me to conquer, kwim? It will be my last, too, and as I get older (I'm 35 now), I find that the most amazing experiences in life are the ones that forced me to look inside and face a fear, things that made me take a stand for myself, and things that I didn't think I could do. You can do it, Alexis! I swear, I am not just saying this, any mom who has had both will tell you, vb is WAY better and is like half the price. I left the hospital about 24 hours exactly after I had DD2 and felt great. When I had DD1 with the section, I felt like a mac truck had run over my midsection and couldn't even stand up straight. I barely remember any of it from the morphine and all. And during my section, the cutting doc cut her cord when making the uterine incision and blood squirted everywhere. So, I'd rather have a nice vbac anyday than risk a section again....it is WAY riskier, for real!

Pick away! Yes I had a midwife. I would never do unassisted as there's far too many variables that could happen for which I am certainly not prepared for. We lived a mile from the hospital too so that made me feel totally comfortable but after having done it now I'd be fine being further away.

[b3blue]

Jen I meant to comment on one of our other threads but I am so excited you can feel the baby already! I read that the more pg you have the easier it is to feel so I'm also hoping I will get some early flutters. Nothing settles an anxious Mama more than feeling that baby move so I am really happy that yours is giving you that treat!

I didn't feel my first until 22 weeks! 15 weeks with my second was amazing, I could not believe it.

[b3blue]

b3: Is hypnobirthing anything like The Bradley method?

Nope. The Bradley method is husband/partner coached childbirth. They teach ways to cope with the pain. Hypnobabies, and also Hypnobirthing (different method) teach you to interpret the pain differently so as not to feel it. A lot of the pain you feel is fear of the process itself. Getting yourself into a deep relaxation allows you to simply feel waves of pressure. I didn't think it would work at all and would always fall asleep to the cd's. But when the time came, I was up and talking, getting my hair braided, giving DD a bath all while my water had broken and I was contracting regularly. Contrasting with my first birth where I didn't make it to 2 cm before I screamed I couldn't take the pain.

[b3blue]

I guess part of the home birth too is that I read a lot and people seem to think that home birth is the best and hospitals suck stuff and I just want to tell people that there are risks in anything. The attitude is what I struggle with and had it myself. I would recommend a licensed well recommended midwife. The unattended is way to scary I think, although I know someone who did it.

I totally get that too. I actually might have a hospital birth this go round as we're in a sort of flux where I'm not totally comfortable here. We're staying in my family's 100 year old house while ours in on the market 3 hours away. It needs an insane amount of work and I just don't really want to live here, much less birth here! There's a birth center about 45 mins away that might be a good compromise but I have no problem just showing up the hossy near pushing and calling it done. I'm so very sorry to read of your loss and that you're going through so much right now with your family. I hope things calm soon.

[begonia]

b3b your hypnobirth thing has me all kinds of interested! I am going to consult google on that; I'll definitely be a hospital kinda girl but I would LOVE to go unmedicated. I made it to 8cm last time and was soooo close but caved and got the epi.

I need to go look in my journal and see when I first felt the girls! How soon we forget ... oh I can't wait for those flutters though, they really help with the bonding for me. Much moreso than the nausea ;-)

[ELP]

iluv, I hope you feeling ok. You sound like your in a reel rotten place in your life atm, you need some luck to come your way don't you How long will it be before you can get back into your house? That will help 1000% won't it Your space, your home and rules.

[ELP]

I've never really gave any concideration to a home birth myself, mainly because going to the hospital is the only day I get without the kids and DH lol, and thats true If I was at home there would be a constant ****** of 'MUUUUM' calls for sanwiches and butt wipes that it would be more stressful than a hospital car park delivery! Plus they bring you tea and toast in the hospital afterwards! What luxury!!

[Princess of Pink]

I am fully for a hospital birth just to have my own time with baby away from the rest of the crew...even if it's just for 24hrs. I have had all 5 girls all natural with no drugs (other than gas with DD#4...because she was a huge elephant...9lbs at 37 weeks), and get to birth the way I wanted. Here is Australia if you go public midwives deliver you (4/5 of m girls were born this way)...and private you get looked after the whole birth by a midwife and your Ob comes in for delivery. At home would be nice but it's also a comfort knowing technology is right there just incase you need it!!

[SpicyTunaSushi]

I've never really gave any concideration to a home birth myself, mainly because going to the hospital is the only day I get without the kids and DH lol, and thats true If I was at home there would be a constant ****** of 'MUUUUM' calls for sanwiches and butt wipes that it would be more stressful than a hospital car park delivery! Plus they bring you tea and toast in the hospital afterwards! What luxury!!

So agree about the tea and toast. Amazing, the best toast ever!