August Thread for TTC Blue - Chit Chat!

[SpicyTunaSushi]

Jen I meant to comment on one of our other threads but I am so excited you can feel the baby already! I read that the more pg you have the easier it is to feel so I'm also hoping I will get some early flutters. Nothing settles an anxious Mama more than feeling that baby move so I am really happy that yours is giving you that treat!

I felt my first at 14-15 weeks! It was so clear!

[SpicyTunaSushi]

Yea, you are right about that, lots of women get them later. I just don't FEEL pg anymore, and I bet I'm out. I feel like being hopeful for myself with this cycle at this point is just, well, pointless. However.....3pnb, you will find this interesting also, purplepoet said on the August 2ww thread that her doc said many early bfps are a sign of multiples of pregnancies that aren't viable. I may test again in the morning, but if another stark white bfn, just going to wait for AF. WP, I normally get AF late late on 13dpo and the full bleed on 14, so I could that as my CD1 for the next cycle. Hmmm, well, you never know! And for you with so many symptoms (and clearly you are fertile, lady!), maybe you are just going to get a late one like 3 did this time around!

Remember, I didn't get mine until 11 DPO with no symptoms at all. It was strong on 11 dpo, and negative and no hint on 10 dpo. I didn't get sore breasts until at least 14 dpo.

[WashingtonPromise]

iluv: we have added your family to our prayer list. Try not to feel guilty, I know easier said than done. No one deserves the pain you went threw.

b3: I may have to look into hypnobirthing. I have heard of it, but never researched.

Yes, I did the Bradley method with the last 2 births.....sooooo much better than the other 4.

Funny story.....

I woke up this morning at 5am to go potty and was not hungry. Of course, I thought to my self.....well AF must be coming and the symptoms are gone . Well as soon as I got back into bed my stomach started growling like it was eating itself and DH even asked me if I was going to get up and feed my "black hole". So, no AF and an over active stomach. What a weird cycle!?!? I just wish this cycle would end, so I could start the next one or get a BFP. This is so weird considering I always have a 28 day cyle if not BFing.

How you doing Lola?

[Flava]

We had a doula there who had been through all of her training minus taking the midwifery test for her license, since taking the test wasn't available until after the birth. The symptoms my son was showing no one had the experience to tell that he was in distress. Had we been in a hospital w/ more people and knowledge, things might have been different. Hard to be 100% about that, but seems he would have had more of a chance and caught earlier. There are still risks at a hospital, but in this case, things might have been different. God could have saved him, so I think he just wasn't meant for this world and I'll see him again soon. The guilt is hard to deal with and I have to just understand what happened is rare. Like I said, I'm pro home birth but people can get cocky about it too.

iluv-I was in the hospital when my friend had her baby . her doc ( a woman) did not made it to the birth and only the nurses was there. Was there with next baby too , doc just run in to catch the baby then she was out of the room. So again only the nurse was there . She was almost out too but checked the baby 1 more time and he was getting a little blue not breathing good. So she grabbed him and started stimulating him and called other in.
So you see just because you are in the hospital it doesn't mean everything is perfect and safe. Do not feel guilty!

[LolaInLove]

We had a doula there who had been through all of her training minus taking the midwifery test for her license, since taking the test wasn't available until after the birth. The symptoms my son was showing no one had the experience to tell that he was in distress. Had we been in a hospital w/ more people and knowledge, things might have been different. Hard to be 100% about that, but seems he would have had more of a chance and caught earlier. There are still risks at a hospital, but in this case, things might have been different. God could have saved him, so I think he just wasn't meant for this world and I'll see him again soon. The guilt is hard to deal with and I have to just understand what happened is rare. Like I said, I'm pro home birth but people can get cocky about it too.

Well, after reading this, I TOTALLY see where you are coming from. You have a good peaceful attitude about it, Iluv...although I am sure you had your moments of being VERY VERY angry with God and a lot else. I would. It just sucks that you had to be one of the ones that had something go wrong with a homebirth. I know I've told you how my heart breaks for what happened, but I also want to tell you that even though I don't know you IRL, I have a tremendous respect for you for all you have been through and how strong you seem to remain. God will give you this next one, I just know it. xxoo

[LolaInLove]

Remember, I didn't get mine until 11 DPO with no symptoms at all. It was strong on 11 dpo, and negative and no hint on 10 dpo. I didn't get sore breasts until at least 14 dpo.

Ah, THANK YOU for reminding me of that, Spicy!

[LolaInLove]

iluv: we have added your family to our prayer list. Try not to feel guilty, I know easier said than done. No one deserves the pain you went threw.

b3: I may have to look into hypnobirthing. I have heard of it, but never researched.

Yes, I did the Bradley method with the last 2 births.....sooooo much better than the other 4.

Funny story.....

I woke up this morning at 5am to go potty and was not hungry. Of course, I thought to my self.....well AF must be coming and the symptoms are gone . Well as soon as I got back into bed my stomach started growling like it was eating itself and DH even asked me if I was going to get up and feed my "black hole". So, no AF and an over active stomach. What a weird cycle!?!? I just wish this cycle would end, so I could start the next one or get a BFP. This is so weird considering I always have a 28 day cyle if not BFing.

How you doing Lola?

WP, no AF still? Aren't you 15dpo now? OMG. You must test tomorrow morning. Is this really unusual for you?

I am 11dpo today, and this morning, I stared at the FRER as I did the peepee dance for a minute when I woke up and decided to give poas a miss today. I will try it again tomorrow. I just chickened out, to be honest. I needed a day of not being upset about it if another bfn. With ttc for so long, I've just seen too many bfns, and they still bum me out! I am really a better candidate for waiting till AF is due and then testing, but I just can't help myself since I got 2 bfps at 10dpo with my m/cs this year.

Plus, I needed a day of just being happy that my a$$ho!e ex and his wife found out they are having a GIRL yesterday, HAHAHAHA! My oldest talked on the phone to him and said he did not sound happy about it! And, how ridiculous is this, he has apparently been going on and on about how he hopes it is a boy, etc, all summer. I am sure it made my girls feel just wonderful about themselves. But, God has a great sense of humor. Give the misogynists all girls. I love it.

[jane]

I'm pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Took a clearblue digital as af hadn't come! Wow,I'm shaking,I'm soooooo happy,thanks for all the help and encouragement,hope it goes ok now,will post this on 2ww too.:-)

[Flava]

DD4 was also a home birth with 2 midwife .(vbac) Yes it did hurt a lot I had back labor and she came out with her right hand up next to her head , BUT I did not have 1 tear on me . No cut , nothing.( adn she was my biggest baby) I had a cut with DD1 and 2 and they say after you had one it's hard not to get it again because you don't stretch so good anymore from the scar.
Now this maybe true in the hospital where ppl yelling in you face to push and counting to 10 but not when you have a midwife who is telling you to take you time go slow and helping you stretch . (you don't need to push like crazy and for sure not till 10 sec. don't know who came up with that but it's stupid)
Anyway I did all this because DD3 was a c/s had no choice with that I had placenta previa . ( if they would say like you need a c/s because baby is big or other bla bla things I would have said no of course) but of course can't say no to PP.
So they wanted a c/s with DD4 for no other reason just because I had 1 before. Ummmm no thanks that's no reason for me. So I left them and went to a birth center. But after a c/s you can't give birth there ( stupid law for sure) only at home so they come to your house and bring everything to you.
Ok so that was me.

[LolaInLove]

Wow, love all of the birthing stories and experiences! You know, I am very comfortable in the hospital also, I just see all of those lovely shows and documentaries with homebirths and it just seems so awesome....and I'm sure it is. I have this birth fantasy about having a lovely homebirth with some chill jazz playing and my girls there. Reality is, that I have kick your ass inside-out labors that are LONG, so it would be a bit hectic. And Iluv and a lot of you make excellent points about the safety and risks. I guess it is up to the risks you are willing to take. I would like to at least have a natural birth, but I am not good with the pain. I'm like you with #1, B3.....it was kicking my butt in no time, and by the time I got to transition, I was having back to back contractions, no break in between whatsoever, and puking and to boot, was angry with ex-DH for being such an unsupportive arse the whole time.