TTC Pink Chit Chat Thread - August

[Yuzu]

Melinda, thank you so much! I was feeling rather miserable, then I read your post. You're exactly right. I'm going to keep trying. I've even considered adoption. I'll have my little girl.

[happyheart]

Hi ladies. Sorry to change the subject so rudely, but I had to share this with someone.

I got a psychic reading from an English lady, Kate, who I found on Ebay. She had a high rating. I'm not really the kind of person who 'believes' in psychic readings, but I was feeling a little desperate yesterday. I was allowed to email her three questions and she answered at length. I had to give her my full name and birthdate. That's it.

I'm frankly a little stunned. My questions were: am I going to get pregnant soon, should I move and if I do get pregnant what wil the gender be? I didn't mention anything else.

She wrote me today and basically said that I would not get pregnant without some intervention, though I wanted to do things 'naturally.' Well, that can be inferred by my age. Then for question 2 she said I was the only one in my family who wanted to move, and that I would probably do so in 16 months, but not back to the metro area where I wanted to go. That's 100% true. Then she said if I used some kind of intervention I would have a BOY or even twin BOYS since twins run in my family. She said she knew I wanted a girl, and that I had other boys, but that I would never have a girl.

Okay. How did she know twins run in my family? How did she know I wanted a girl? How did she know I wanted to move to the metro area? I'm trying to be logical here, but I'm flummoxed! And a little bummed.

Hi there

Even thought she hit some things right on with you... she is reading your energy and I truly believe that our energy is always changing... Please do not worry about the fact that she said you would never have a girl.

[zanacal]

Sorry if I was insensitive Yuzu, I'm afraid I don't really *do* psychics and so on. I kind of steered clear of it, not necessarily because I don't believe (I've never thought it through enough to have an opinion) but because I don't want to know! Anyhow, I can see how upset you must have been to have it spellt out that way and I'm glad that the other ladies have been able to reassure you. I love Melinda's idea about changing tactics rather than changing direction completely! {hugs}

[XXdreaming]

Ugh I hate the ob/gyn lol not just because I am here for my well womans exam which we all hate lol but just seeing all these cute preggo ladies is making me want to be pregnant asap and I need to take my time for that perfect sway lol so jealous of these beautiful well rounded bellies

[mandicane]

What have you ladies all decided with regards to regular BD/release or abstaining?

Abstaining won't work for us as DH has a very high sex drive and he says no.

We were going to DTD every day with a spermicide condom then have one attempt 'au naturele' once I got my +OPK but now I'm thinking there are too many uncertainties with the spermicidal condom - I've read that it may increase pH in the vajay and increase risk of infections, so now I'm leaning towards keeping clear of spermicides.

However, I liked the idea of only one attempt because I thought it would be less stressful (only having to think of EVERYTHING once) and that it would definitely mean low sperm count - but if we're not using the spermicidal condoms do we use normal ones or nothing at all or try to have 'relations' every day but not necessarily always DTD. You see, it's complicated already!!

I'd love to hear what you're all planning and what your thoughts are.

Hi Zanacal...I'm doing frquent BD (have been for the past week) for my attempt. A few times my husband has done it on his own, iykwim, but starting yesterday we have been BD w/o any protection. I want to get pregnant right away and I don't really care about timing so I'm going to be BDing from now everyday through O (which should be this Saturday). i thought about doing one attemp for lower sperm count and all but I just have this feeling it will take me forever to get pregnant. At this point I would love a girl but I just want a healthy baby. My girlfriend gave birth to a baby boy the other day and when I held him I realized that ANY baby would be a blessing for us. It would be nice for my Ds to have a brother too. That being said, I think you're attempt sounds good. Maybe you could do one attempt and go easy on the other sway factors like antihistamines, J and D, sylk and/or rephresh? Just a suggestion. GL!

[Mochagirl]

That's pretty much what I'm doing too, mandicane. AF just ended, and DH has been releasing every day since it started (though we missed one day a couple of days ago). Now we'll start dtd unprotected or releasing every night (we'll be at my mom's house on the weekend, so it will be easier for him to release discreetly there than for us to DTD) until I know O has happened, which should be about a week from now. The last 2 months we had a 1 day cut off, but I think this time we'll bd through O.

I know that atomic doesn't suggest abstaining to people over 35, and I fall into that category. I also don't like to leave everything to one attempt. After 3 months on this diet, I want to get pregnant NOW!

[XXdreaming]

Ugh so I go to gyn for well womans tell about cramping I have been having and since m/c they wanted to do blood work again and another u/s and the u/s tech was asking me if this was planned and I said no(it was a surprise pregnancy), then she says I see in your chart you have 4 boys, I was like yes ma'am and then she asked me if I was getting something more reliable for bc (since I told her we were using otc spermicide) and I said no I wasn't and besides I hate bc never found one that didn't screw me up and she said well you haven't tried essure, I am like what???? That's permanent, she said yes I figured since you have 4 kids already you were done, I said uhh you assumed wrong, and then she said well after 4 boys the odds of a girl is low more like zero honey, and then went off about what statistic said and blah blah, after I got over my shock I told her well its really up to God isn't it, and who said I didn't want another boy! It was quiet the rest of the exam, when I got out to my car I cried and then it pissed me off so bad I am bound and determine to prove her wrong and then rub it in her face lol so now its on! Lol I just got to wait until af next week so I can start lol but wow that u/s tech just talked way to much and cross the line big time, I should of stopped her way back at "getting something more reliable" its non of her dern business if this was my 15th BOY!

[LadyScarlett]

What have you ladies all decided with regards to regular BD/release or abstaining?

Abstaining won't work for us as DH has a very high sex drive and he says no.

We were going to DTD every day with a spermicide condom then have one attempt 'au naturele' once I got my +OPK but now I'm thinking there are too many uncertainties with the spermicidal condom - I've read that it may increase pH in the vajay and increase risk of infections, so now I'm leaning towards keeping clear of spermicides.

However, I liked the idea of only one attempt because I thought it would be less stressful (only having to think of EVERYTHING once) and that it would definitely mean low sperm count - but if we're not using the spermicidal condoms do we use normal ones or nothing at all or try to have 'relations' every day but not necessarily always DTD. You see, it's complicated already!!

I'd love to hear what you're all planning and what your thoughts are.

Sounds like a lot of us are doing about the same thing. We decided to do frequent BD unprotected, have been since Friday and I O this coming Friday or Saturday. I was going to do a 2-3 day cutoff, but I'm thinking I will BD through my +OPK if the DH can handle it. LOL he is grumbling when I won't let him go to sleep! Been using the Rephresh (1/2 tube) every 3 days and so far my PH has stayed below 5 consistantly, even with the frequent BDing. FXed!

[XXdreaming]

I plan to bd everyday from af to o, the timing has never worked for me on getting a girl, and I want to get pregnant asap lol and have a good girl sway but since timing has been thrown out because it was from the fact that x and y weren't equal, and since proved they are equal enough to not make a difference then the whole timing thing doesn't matter (I don't knw I read so much my brain hurts lol and if I didn't cross informations then I think that's right lol) so bd for us everyday af to o

[zanacal]

First of all - OMG Melinda, what a cow! I'm sure you've read tonnes more than her on the subject anyway, no doubt she was repeating whatever was written in her one text book on the subject ... and you're absolutely right, who said you didn't want another boy?! I can't believe she tried to offer you a 'permanent' contraceptive. What an assumption! That was very unprofessional and I'd complain about it (unless I was trying to keep my testosterone low ). Big {hugs}. There are plenty of women who have several of one sex before having one or more of another. WE know that so you just ignore that insensitive job's worth ok? {hugs} P.S. If you should find yourself pregnant with twin girls make sure you have to go back and see her and rub it in!!

Thanks all for letting me know what you're doing with frequent BDing. I'm not concerned about timing either but I am concerned with lowering sperm count because I got pregnant so quickly with each of the boys. I'm not confident that I'll get pregnant with one BD but I feel like if I got pregnant straight away with another boy and I'd BD'd several times then I'll assume our sperm count was still too high, so I'll give it a couple of months then forget about the condoms. I decided we'll use regular condoms (not spermicidal) and Rephresh. Right now, getting pregnant with a girl is more important to me than getting pregnant all together. Don't get me wrong, I'll take (and love!) another boy if that's what's to be but we wouldn't actually be trying again if we already had a mixture of sexes. That sounds terrible and I doubt myself all the time because I'm sure we WILL end up with that 4th boy but when I think that I do actually get excited at the thought of it so I know it will be ok. I love something DoulaMama (I think!) said once, that the third boy was sent because he was meant to be hers and if #3 had been a girl she wouldn't have tried again and he wouldn't have come. I think this is such a beautiful idea