Due in June/July/August 2015

[kitkat18]

Your poor friend, So very cruel ! thinking of you and her X

[Junie]

How absolutely terrible. I feel so sorry for your friend.

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[bluebonnet22]

Ugee - I'm so sorry for your friend. I can't imagine what she is going through. My thoughts are prayers are with you and your friend.

[missxo143]

Ugee, sooo sorry to hear about your friends baby

[tarasue]

Ugee- how horrible!!! That's devastating! Prayers for you and your friend.

[Ugee]

Thank you everyone. It's such a terrible nightmare! She is being induced today as doesn't want to wait till it happens naturally. She said she found out last week at a paid baby bond scan that her little girl had gastroschisis (bowels outside body) and that they missed it on her 20 week scan!!! She should have been having weekly scans to keep an eye on her. She was waiting for referral for a c section in a hospital that deals with this sort of thing since finding out. She was shopping yesterday and thought her baby was quiet so went to hospital and that's when they found no heart beat.

Always remember to count your kicks, and think this time for myself I will go to a paid scan after my 20 week one to make sure nothing is missed.

[3BoysBlessed]

Oh, Ugee, I am so very sorry for such a loss by your best friend. In these cases, it really Feels like a family event and I just cannot imagine how you and her family must feel. Gods blessings to everyone and my deepest sympathies

I am also sorry that so many of you are feeling so sick. I really hope that you all feel better soon. I'm also sorry for the comments of others about your pregnancies in your real lives that are so callous at times. It just makes me so upset that people do that to anyone.

I'm always thinking of you all and I try to keep up on your posts as best I can. Now that the holidays have passed, I will check in more often.

I'm still letting things sink in and it feels surreal that we have a little girl coming, after so long. I have nonsensical fears about the maternal fetal blood test somehow being that 0.0001% but I know that is so irrational. I'm excited, but scared to show it. I don't know if that makes any kind of sense. I guess I'm afraid to express too much, yet. I also have a feeling of guilt for the women I know both online and in real life who have experienced a loss or who have several boys and no daughters or vice versa-many of whom are done having children. There are 10 families who are in our sons' hockey association and school who have three boys each and only two of those families happen to have a girl ( we all have joked it is some kind of 3 boy phenomenon in our area). Most of them are done having children...so I feel like I must be so careful in telling them we are expecting a girl. I just know how it feels and don't want anyone to feel that ache in their hearts that I've felt. Although, when I've had loved ones and friends who've had both genders or desired genders, I've felt genuinely happy for them when that one arrives, but it isn't easy al of the time. I know it's not always so for everyone, though. It's just a sensitive issue and I am trying to be considerate of others, yet I may be over-thinking it.

Well, I'll stop rambling now and thank you all for listening. I hope that this year brings good things to all of you.

[belleboi]

ugee, how terrible. I'm so sorry for your friend.


I'm joining you ladies on the miserable train. My unisom I take every night starts wearing off in the midafternoon of the next day, so I have about 5-6 hours where I am trying to not to vomit...and it's even harder bc the only thing that keeps me from being sick is EATING something. So I'm having to force plain greek yogurt, or something as bland down (that still has protein), while trying to let it come back up, LOL.

Also the exhaustion! It's almost 1pm here and I could lay down for a 3 hour nap easily. Luckily my husband has been home the last few days, so my mom duties have drastically minimized...but when non-holiday life starts back up, I have no clue how I'm going to do this. Although I know there were millions of women before me in this situation, and there will be millions after. It's good to have some perspective!

Husband told me he had a dream this one is a boy. He's been very neutral about having girls or boys, he doesn't treat either of our girls different because of their gender. He's out throwing the football and playing baseball with them just as if they were boys (we are actually signing our 5 year old girl up for flag football in the spring) so I know everything's going to be ok if this one is a girl too. She will be just as loved and cherished. When he told me about his dream, though, I started getting really excited. I'm having to tamper down my feelings though, as I KNOW dreams are just dreams. I guess it's another of those "waves of panic" I was talking about earlier. I love having this forum to talk about these feelings...I just know my other friends and online groups wouldn't understand. So, today I'm feeling thankful, hopeful, sick, and scared...not in that order

[Linzshine32]

Hugs to all of you experiencing or having friends experience a loss.

Hugs to all of you still sick! I know how much it stinks and my heart goes out to you!!

I finally told my boss. It feels good to not have it be a secret anymore but I do feel guilty for finding out the day before I started a new job. I told him that I had stopped trying to conceive the day of my interview when I knew I was taking the job. It was too late. I know this baby is a blessing and meant to be and that it will work out as it should. I told him I'm not taking 12 weeks leave and I'll be back to work and this is my last kid. Hopefully in the next 6 mo I can also prove how dedicated and serious I am!!! I just hope he doesn't start treating me differently. I'm the office manager for his dental practice.

Finally I scheduled an ultrasound for 15w1d at a private gender determination office. I can't wait but I'm also super nervous. I just feel like I need to know as soon as I can WHO is inside me. Boy or girl. If it's a girl I will be over the moon and glad to start shopping early. If it's a boy I need to prepare myself for losing my girl dream and embracing the boy plan for me. I know it won't be easy but the more time I have to adjust the better managing I can do of gender disappointment. All of my nub guesses have been girl so it's really hard to not get my hopes up! But I'm trying to stay grounded. 17 Days!!


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[Nahri]

So sorry for your friend ugee. That is such a huge thing to miss at the 20 week scan when they are supposed to be looking for things like that. I can't even begin to imagine how she must feel being so close to due date with this loss!