January 2WW

[tweedledeedum]

Thanks for the welcomes!

Sage - yup, swaying pink again. I did an intense sway two years ago and this one is definitely lighter! Trying to stick to a few keys and hope for the best! (vitex, one attempt, loose diet, fiber, diet drinks, refresh)

[2boysJustOneGirl]

Lone behold AF has arrived. I suppose only good and righteous people deserve a pregnancy right after a loss. Not me. I deserve a miscarried baby girl and a lifetime of misery. Sometimes I seriously wonder what I did to deserve this.


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[bluebonnet22]

2boys - I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My first AF after my loss was extremely painful for me. We tried to get pg right away after my loss as well and when AF arrived it stung so much. AF is a terrible reminder you aren't pregnant and you have every right to be angry and upset. I did get pregnant right away after that first AF and if your heart is in it I urge you not to give up.

Study: No Need to Delay Pregnancy After Miscarriage

Reading this article gave me much comfort and and gave my husband and I the push to keep trying for a healthy baby. I probably conceived TWO boys after my loss, so I'm in no position to give swaying advice at this time. I wish you all the best and know that so many on this site are cheering you on. I hope you get your sticky pregnancy soon!

[XXforhubby]

I am so sorry 2boysjustonegirl! That is gut wrenching! I am keeping you in my prayers!


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[sageviolet]

Thanks for the chart input, Maiden!

More hugs, 2boys! I miscarried in Sept. 2011 then conceived in Nov. I wanted a baby so much and was stuck battling Lyme disease. It was so hard, but I was determined not to give up. In mourning my loss, it really helped me to hand sew a new set of curtains that look like stained glass for the room I hoped would someday be a nursery. Is there something you want do to honor the life of your angel baby? I also found comfort reading "Heaven Is for Real" and you might like it, too, if you're Christian.

One more week until I test. No early tests this time, I just want to know for sure, or as sure as possible, lol, so I won't do it until immediately before af. Temp is good today, chest very sore, and increased cm. I'm 5dpo.

[Junie]

Lone behold AF has arrived. I suppose only good and righteous people deserve a pregnancy right after a loss. Not me. I deserve a miscarried baby girl and a lifetime of misery. Sometimes I seriously wonder what I did to deserve this.

Sweetie you didn't do anything!!! I know it is so hard right now- for me mornings are the worst when I wake up and realize I'm not pregnant anymore. However for me it helps to focus on the good things- now that you have AF you don't have to have any fears about your lining and can TTC without worrying. You know you can get pregnant with a girl- so that means there is nothing stopping you from conceiving a healthy baby girl this cycle. Please just try and hang in there. Big BIG hugs from me.

Right now I am mainly worrying that my levels will take weeks or months to go down and I won't even get the chance to TTC. I never ever ever wanted a Dec baby but this has shown me that planning these things is pointless.

[EmileeJane]

I am sorry to hear AF started 2boysjust1girl. I don't have much advice except maybe this gives you a little extra time to process the loss of your baby. I know you'd probably rather not. I tend to want to move quickly past painful times in my life rather than feel it. I am sending good thoughts and hopes that your body heals quickly and you can TTC again soon.

Junie- I am so out of the loop, did you also suffer a miscarriage? Sorry for all of your losses.
I can empathize with you on the lack of control. I haven't suffered a loss but have had long set backs with my body during this process. I thought I would conceive the 1st or 2nd try and now I'm 6 months in. I also did not want a Dec baby. I was hoping for a late spring/early summer baby. Now I am crossing my fingers for a 2015 baby! I'm trying to get back on a positive thinking track . It gets hard when people around you are pregnant or get pregnant without trying. ((Hugs)) to you all!

[Junie]

EmileeJane- We suffered a loss on my B-day on Thursday. I consider that CD1 and am back on a relaxed form of LE, and in a good week we will start BDing every 4 days. I know just how you feel with control the lack of control. This whole process can be so frustrating but I do think it is easier if I try to stay positive. I won't ever get these days back so I should try and enjoy them and live them to the fullest. Much easier said than done though!

[essnce629]

So sorry that AF found you 2boys. I think it's really hard to get pregnant that cycle immediately after a loss as the body is trying to get back on track and things are delayed, etc.

I had my miscarriage back in October, so 3 months ago now, and it was such a dark and depressing time for me. I cried daily for weeks and it doesn't help that DH says we are done and that he wants to get a vasectomy. He hasn't yet, but insists on using condoms or pulling out and every time we dtd I just want to cry as I pretty much have zero chance of getting pregnant, let alone getting a girl. I've pretty much dropped all swaying as I try to get healthy again after finding I have extremely low ferritin, MTHFR mutation, low cortisol, low magnesium, and low vitamin D after swaying for a year. I believe that my miscarried baby was a girl too, as I had a pretty strong kitchen sink sway. It's only been in the last couple of weeks that I'm starting to feel normal again and not super depressed all the time. Miscarriages take a huge physical, hormonal, and emotional toll on women. I have no idea how women go on who have suffered multiple losses. It was the darkest time in my life and I never want to go through it again. (((HUGS))) and I hope you get your healthy baby girl soon.

[Junie]

@essnce629 I just want to give you a huge hug. What are your husband's reasons for wanting to stop?? I really really hope that he changes his mind. How terrible to end your journey like that... Do you think he could come around?? I'm not religious but I will pray that things change for you as reading your post made me feel so sad for you.

My cheapie was much lighter today. Still 2 lines but I am hoping that by next weekend they are gone. I really want to start having sex again as I have spent the last 10 weeks feeling awful and now I feel relatively normal and really miss my husband but of course I absolutely don't want to get an infection so I am going to try and wait one week.

For those of you who had miscarriages, how long did you wait to have sex?

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