January 2WW

[XXforhubby]

Tarasue- I think you'll be a great girl mom! I think the best thing to do is always be honest. You can tell her about your struggle when she is old enough to understand and not effect her negatively. I agree about watching actions/words to a point. You do have to be honest and kids always KNOW when you are not! Maybe talk to your doctor and counselor for advice too. I would also let the pediatrician know too, privately, so he/she can be aware too. We all have vices though, that could potentially effect our kids. We just never know what they'll pick up! I think good communication and fostering acceptance early on in their childhood has a dramatic impact.

I am a high school science teacher, and this is what I have noticed over the years, before and since becoming a parent. You'll be great and deserve a girl just as much as anyone [emoji8]!


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[XXforhubby]

I just want to give you two a hug! 2boys and Tarasue- you most definitely deserve a girl! The fact that you two are aware of your weaknesses is what sets you apart from those that don't. You'll be mindful parents to these girls and make new and different mistakes with them. Hugs [emoji8]!


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[tarasue]

Thank you xx and 2boys. It's nice to have you guys to get my fears and frustrations out without being judged to harshly.

[XXforhubby]

Well I have finally gotten to a place of peace. Tonight, while playing with my boys a sense of calm and peace overcame me. I can totally be satisfied with just my boys. I love them SO much! I am glad this happened. I'm sure we will still try and have well timed BDing, but I can finally say I will be ok with just my boys.

I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! Perfect timing too, since I am 3dpo!


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[tarasue]

I get feelings like that too xx, I love my little family, why mess with that. Then I see a diaper commercial or a couple in church with a new baby and I'm back to square one:/

[Junie]

So normal Tarasue! I also had feelings of contentment when it seemed like DH might not come around but especially after losing the baby both DH and I are as sure as we can be that we want a third and I think it would take quite a bit for us to give this dream up.

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[maidentomother]

Junie, the thing about IF, especially the way I do it, is you can eat any foods, as IF only describes WHEN you eat, not WHAT you eat. I don't consider IF a diet at all and I completely agree with you about diets (with the exception of swaying, but that's a very special circumstance). IF is a lifestyle for me, and the way I usually do it doesn't involve calorie counting or avoiding any foods. I spend much less time thinking about food when IFing.

2boys & tarasue - you both have every right to daughters and there is no reason you won't be fantastic moms to girls. The fact that you are concerned at all proves that. Bad mothers don't worry about their parenting skills. Plus, there are SO many mothers of both genders who don't deserve to have children at all (my own mother, for example) so obviously who gets children and which gender is not based on justice or fairness. As far as I can tell it's utterly random.

[XXforhubby]

I get feelings like that too xx, I love my little family, why mess with that. Then I see a diaper commercial or a couple in church with a new baby and I'm back to square one:/

I get that. I'm totally good though. It is surreal still, but I am ok with JUST my boys [emoji4]! I only wanted boys, when I agreed to ttc DS1. I got my wish! I feel grateful for that. We will keep having well timed BDing and acupuncture, so I won't ever wonder what might have been down the line. But the yo-yo emotions of ttcing won't be there and that is a BIG relief for me!

Come on BFPs! Who's due to test soon?


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[Junie]

Maiden- I know you are so mindful of your health and diet that I totally believe you when you say that for you IF isn't a diet.

I'm having a bit of spotting again today (TMI WARNING) and it is a bit mucusy and I'm wondering if it is CM mixed with old blood. It would fit on my timeline and the Dr. said everything looked great so maybe I will be ovulating soon...

[tarasue]

Xx- I hope to hold out until Monday to test, Monday is 10dpo. I almost tested today & I know 7dpo is way early, I peed in the cup but ended up throwing it out w/o testing.