Uk ladies

[motherofboys]

It's not usually who I am either and I'm so scared that I will always feel this way. I think I'm suffering with depression again and I don't know whether my GD has got worse because I'm feeling like this, or if the GD has caused it to return.
Truth be told I want to delete everyone who has a daughter, but I can't just delete them all from my life so I have to suck it up and deal with it.
Everyone says one day we will have granddaughters but it isn't the same. I see so many women moaning about their mother in laws (even the ones they actually love dearly) getting on their nerves by wanting to do too much with the grandkids, wanting to do their hair and buying them cloths that they think are ugly.

[foxymrsg]

Ah ladies I hear you, I am the same just hate feeling these feeling towards others and wondering how they get what we want so easily!
I'm scared about my sway too, I've purchased a personalised plan to help but know it's obviously not a guarantee, In my heart of hearts I know I'll be fine with a third boy,.....it's other peoples opinions and snidey comments that im dreading! Whatever the gender tbh and far too many people have an opinion on how out should live your life! It just gets me down you know!

[motherofboys]

I know what you mean, other people cant just not comment on your family make up and anything to do with your life really. People just don't think, which is stupid because they obviously assume that you must want a girl but then make upsetting comments about not having a girl and don't think you'll be upset. Mental

[hopper]

Oh the comments are the worst!!! I was grocery shopping earlier, DH with me and DS2 Sat in the trolley (DS1 was at Montessori) and the checkout girl asked me how old DS2 was. I said almost 14 months and she said she has a little girl at home who is almost 18 months but not as chatty as my little man. I jokingly said that DS2 is a right character and always chatting and trying to annoy me and she said "oh yeah, that's boys for you! I was so glad when I found out I was having a girl!" Then she says "Oh and you have 2 boys is it? Oh God I'd say the only way you'd go again would be if you were guaranteed a girl!" Seriously?!?!?!?! A random checkout girl says all this to me just when I am at my lowest longing for a daughter. Thanks for that, I have been in terrible form all night!!

[foxymrsg]

What an awful awful thing to say!! I know people don't think but sometimes I think they know what they are saying! My ex manager sat there last year and proceeded to say to everyone how boys are horrible and smelly and not as wonderful as her princess daughter! Needless to say I didn't sit and listen to that and went to town on her! My collegues backed me lucky enough and as one has all girls and would have loved a DS backed me all the way telling her how smelly girls can be too! lol!
She deliberately said it to get my back up but i think she was surprised when I retaliated! lol

[hopper]

I think I was just shocked hence why I didn't say much at all. I don't get all this "boy hating" that goes on, for some reason I think girls are the more desired gender in my area. I wouldn't trade my boys for ANYTHING, some people just need to learn to have respect!!

[motherofboys]

Urgh I've had someone tell me out right that society values girls more because girls are straight up more worthy. That men are only needed for sperm and can then move on but women are needed to carry the child and nurture it until it's old enough to look after itself. That's why people 'don't cars' about letting their boys go out to play by themselves and worry less about their boys. Because they are not as valuable, then said "that's not to say anyone's boys are worthless" erm actually yeah that is what you said, you basically just told me boys are second class citizens and not as good as girls. Of course she only has 1 daughter.
I also sat at a table with 3 women, all of whom had 1 daughter each, and they all told me how glad they were they got a girl first because the second ones (when they eventually have them) gender didn't matter now they had their girls. If they had had a boy first they would have been desperate for a girl second. Like they don't care if they ever have a boy.
But I know that people with all girls get it back about how they must want a boy.
I'm finally watching the first 2 episodes of this series one born and probably wasn't a good idea lol

[foxymrsg]

Lol obem will just make you soooo much more broody lol! I need to watch tonight's yet!
Omg that's a horrible thing for that woman to say!! Honestly I feel it too it's like having boys is doing something wrong! I idolise my boys and same as you both would never trade them! It's how people perceive boys that help cause GD I think! Wish people would keep minds open and mouths shut!!!

[motherofboys]

Well one born certainly didn't help me lol I didn't see tonight's though. They seem to have decided to put everything I want to watch on at the same time on Monday and Tuesday nights and left the rest of the week empty lol I'll probably watch it on 4OD tomorrow.
I agree, mind open mouth shut. I know one thing though, I try to be so much more careful with my words now. And IF I ever did have a girl I would be very conscious not to over do the Facebook pink. I'm thinking of deleting another person because all she does is talk about how naughty and horrible her 2 boys are and how perfect her daughter is.


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[foxymrsg]

OMG no way! I always honestly think, no know I'd never feel any different about my boys if I had a dd how must her poor boys feel? Breaks my heart!