August Thread for TTC Blue - Chit Chat!

[iluvmyman]

3pink- at least bil can't be all over it haha! I so hope you have a boy in there!
yeah DD1...she will be 14 in a couple weeks and she is not helpful or anything like that. Sometimes I asked her to hold DD4 and she got angry even at the baby! So I guess she think if we have more I ask her to help (which would be normal, I think bigger kids can help out and all kid have to learn chores anyway ) and she just don't like to do anything to help .
I only asked her sometimes ! Not like every day !

My 16 year old is the same way. I think some kids are just more maternal then others. DD1 sees the other kids as an inconvenience really, that messed up her life. there was a 9 year age gap and it didn't bode well for her to "lose" her parents attention. She refused to see DS2's birth and was full of attitude. We have 1 picture w/ her in the room after he was born looking like a sour puss. I don't think she ever held him. She's not happy about this pregnancy either, which it just so incredibly sad to me. Especially after the loss of her little brother. I told her she's better tread really lightly. Don't get me wrong, she's a good kid, just tells me all the time she never wants any.

WP - GL to you on the O.....go BFP.
Lola- you know I'm praying for you
Alexis - Such a Hooray from me on the BFP!!!

[3Pink1Blue]

Iluv- I think you're right about it being the gap. Dd1 was 2 yrs 9 mo when dd2 was born, she doesn't remember life without sisters. ita about the maternal thing too though lol My oldest would make a better mother today at 9 then my bil gf is at 22. I remember one day at the zoo where she ran from stroller to stroller to look at all the babies, I don't think she looked at a single animal lol

Flava-that's got to be tough, I dread the day mine stop being helpful. Don't get me wrong they aren't ubber helpful now but they usually help when asked.

[LolaInLove]

3PNB, glad all went well at the u/s! I am already super excited for 9/23! I just love gender u/s, and it is almost more fun (albeit more of a nail-biter) with us swaying gals. And YES I totally kwym about the fertility gods, LOL. To be honest, it would have eaten me up if they were having a boy. And I think the ex is having massive gd, he has been a huge a-hole lately, trying to make our girls do really boyish stuff, like triathalons and fishing and crap they hate.

Iluv, have they given you any timeline for when they may have an anwer? I am so sorry you are having to deal with that, but just know that the odds of "lightning striking twice" have got to be incredibly slim. xxoo

I am going to become a full-time alcoholic when my DD1 is a teen. She is already full of sass also, even though she is a sweet kid and loves her sister, she is a mad perfectionist and doesn't like it when people crimp her style. She'll be great with a baby now, but I bet she'll be a PITA about it later on. She is a moody kid. Iluv, I would have wanted to beat the fool out of mine if she acted like your oldest at DS2's birth, that would have made me livid. I guess you gotta chalk it up to those teen years and hormones and insecurity and such. I guess I was a bit of a nightmare myself. See, this is why we all want a boy, LOL!!!!

[begonia]

HI!!! I have to go read bunches but figured I'd just start by saying hi. It's been such a crazy day that I'm finally now getting on even though I have been DYING to know about Alexis (saw on the blue crew grad thread!!! yay!!!!) and Jen's scan!

Off to read ...

[begonia]

Alexis YAY YAY YAY! Will you find out or wait?!?!

WP too funny about DH and his hair! He must have it cut short to notice it growing fast. FX you caught the egg this month ... all that EWCM sounds PERFECT for a little boy!

Flava here's hoping DD1 turns it around and becomes a helper; 14 is old enough to do so much but gosh, if you're not even asking her to do much I can't imagine why the attitude. Hormones for sure though. Being a teenage girl is tough. Still! She should be Mama's helper!

3PNB so glad the scan went well; sounds like a FUN little baby you've got in there! Can't wait to know what it is! And how sweet about your DD checking out all the babies at the zoo. That is adorable. My DD1 is a great big sis now, but had no interest in babies (other people's or ours) and I expect she won't care one way or another about the next one til it starts talking. Once DD2 was more of a "person" who could interact with her, DD1 took right to her and has been amazing. But before that she pretty much ignored her, LOL. Better than poking her in the eyes We were at a friends yesterday with a 6 month baby girl and DD2 was VERY into her, so that was fun... I'm hoping she will like having a baby around. OH and glad the fertility gods smiled on you by giving BIL a girl; FX they smile even bigger to give you your DS!!!

Iluv I get what you're saying about DD still being a good kid in spite of the attitude about siblings. We are who we are, KWIM? And maybe she's just not a kid person. FWIW I was not at all a kid person until maybe college, and even then I didn't think I'd ever want any. I bet you're right, the age gap makes a difference. I'm so sorry there's still so much left unanswered with DS2. Closure would no doubt be such a relief for you.

Lola that just sucks that the ex is such a ... eh, why waste the words. Glad your girls have a stepfather who values women so they can learn men aren't all that way. I like the instead cups for you this go 'round! Changing it up can't hurt and those bad boys are a PITA but absolutely can help with conceiving, so I think it's a smart move on your part. WHOO HOO for makin' another May baby!!

AFM my scan is bright and early in the am which is perfect, got a sitter for DD2, DH and I can drop DD1 at school and then get it done. I've got some anxiety but I'll feel sooooo much better after and will post ASAP to let everyone know how it goes! Thanks for all the healthy baby prayers. This group is the best

[begonia]

Oh, Kris, could just be a mistake on your scan re: the 2nd tri notation. That makes no sense otherwise. Maybe call and ask?

[iluvmyman]

3PNB, glad all went well at the u/s! I am already super excited for 9/23! I just love gender u/s, and it is almost more fun (albeit more of a nail-biter) with us swaying gals. And YES I totally kwym about the fertility gods, LOL. To be honest, it would have eaten me up if they were having a boy. And I think the ex is having massive gd, he has been a huge a-hole lately, trying to make our girls do really boyish stuff, like triathalons and fishing and crap they hate.

Iluv, have they given you any timeline for when they may have an anwer? I am so sorry you are having to deal with that, but just know that the odds of "lightning striking twice" have got to be incredibly slim. xxoo

I am going to become a full-time alcoholic when my DD1 is a teen. She is already full of sass also, even though she is a sweet kid and loves her sister, she is a mad perfectionist and doesn't like it when people crimp her style. She'll be great with a baby now, but I bet she'll be a PITA about it later on. She is a moody kid. Iluv, I would have wanted to beat the fool out of mine if she acted like your oldest at DS2's birth, that would have made me livid. I guess you gotta chalk it up to those teen years and hormones and insecurity and such. I guess I was a bit of a nightmare myself. See, this is why we all want a boy, LOL!!!!

We weren't happy w/ her at all, it was such a shame to have her act that way. I can't say she wouldn't act similar again though. maybe a little better but she's looking at it through very immature and selfish eyes. She was at all of the other kids births and now says how it has traumatized her, which is such crapola.

Teenagers are tough in such a different way then little kids and I would advise as much as possible when they are young (especially those crucial 1st 5 years) to establish your authority and tolerate no back talk or disrespect at all. Don't get caught up in arguing with the either. Of coarse, it's no guarantee they won't pull major attitude but it helps them to know when u mean business, especially when they start challenging you and you can't really back anything up. Your whole parenting way has to change w/ teenagers. All they want is your love and affection and time, but they like have this attitude and mouth and body language that says I hate you (might even outright say that), don't touch me and don't bother me. Then they are so over sensitive and you get to hear about all the ways you don't meet their needs of love, time and affection and how you've wronged them. You just want to pull your hair out or have them move out to grow up and have some experience beyond their self-involved world. I'm pretty intolerant of any back talk or attitude but she still does her darndest to push every button I have. I do regret not making her do consistent chores and learn to do things to the best of her ability all the time no matter what.

Lola, I'm not sure we'll ever know. Its possible that the coroner won't talk to us because they might pursue a case against our doula or he is just really really busy. The coroner plain won't return my calls and you don't want to push too much cuz you're hoping the case will just go away against our doula. We have to rely on internet searches and guess work. We could also pay I guess for an independent examination of the findings to get some more info but will probably be a lot of money, I don't know where to start and my DH doesn't want to know any more. In case we were at fault or could have saved him I guess. That info is just going to hurt us I guess and not help so he doesn't want me to pursue anymore and stir the pot so to speak.

It's such a crappy place to be, but I tell you I'm very thankful for this new one growing as it adds some hope and joy. Fear too. Don't get me wrong I'm not wallowing in self pity at all, but I wish I believed in the lightning theory but it's a sinful broken world and it can happen. The hope of coarse is that it doesn't. I also had to realize(i still break down at times though) that any one of us could be taken at anytime and I have to relinquish that control. My brother died of a brain bleed at like 30. You just never know.

Anyway, I'm like a big downer today. Sorry 3PNB that the little one didn't cooperate for you today but another U/S is around the corner. Yay!

My DS1 is so sweet w/ the babies like that too. He's just always loved babies and took DS2's death the hardest out of the kids. DH let me have this one partly because it's so important to DS1. He just has a gentle spirit and way different like that then my other ones. I got pregnant too w/ DS1 when DD2 was 19 months. She pretty much ignored him when he was born and he just has always been. DS1 will actually be kind of a pain when this 1 is born cuz he'll be all lovingly up in his business and bugging the baby all the time. We'll figure it out, its better then him resenting and DD2 will probably ignore the new baby for the most part. Dynamics are so funny.

[TTC5]

Alexis congrats!!!!!


AFM - have had a rough day today and need some prayers that everything is going to be ok. Found a large lesion on dd's scalp... took her to dr today and 3 different drs checked it over and they said it looks like a ketosis but they have never seen a child with this before. It has literally appeared and grown in less than gosh, 5 months. We have been referred to a specialist for Monday to rule out anything sinister. Please pray for her, she is only 8. I am terrified :'(

[Plum3]

Arrgggh, ladies I am having trouble keeping up with you all these days. Still reading along though

Alexis, congratulations!! Awesome news.

TTC5, your daughter and family are in my thoughts. I can't imagine how scared you must be. Do you mean keratosis?

[TTC5]

I am not sure how it is spelt sorry something to do with solar spots?