where did "dtd every 4 days" come from?

[swish]

Hi ladies, for what it's worth I conceived both of my boys dtd every other day up to ov and maybe the day after, I'm not sure!! I also had a boy friendly diet and snacked a lot! Gl to you all!

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you swish!!!

[gizmo77]

thanks! since i havent had a prob last 2 times getting pg ill assume that this time (watch it wont be as fast tho) and plan to only dtd once closest to O, having my DH release via sex and condom 3 days prior. that way ill have 1-2 days give or take closest to O. this will be harrd for me, bc im not big on OPKs, dont understand them and not accurate enough for me. my body signs tell me more. but ibought a pack anyway and will use them for sept and oct cycles. thats the plan.

[atomic sagebrush]

Sounds like a great plan!! Good luck!

[gizmo77]

I have heard a theory (this is not MY theory and I do not believe this to be true but I have heard it around often enough so I know some people believe this) that some members of IG actually prefer to have a really complicated-to-the-point-of-impossible sway so that it is very difficult to do it right and then they will not be blamed for opposites.

I suspect it's more that the natural tendency of humankind, when coming up with a system for doing something, is to try and include everything and to make everything "perfect" to the point of being undoable in the real world. Like when you try and make a chore chart for your kids to fill out and you end up including so much stuff that the kids simply can't do it all and you can't keep up with monitoring it all, then on the day that Cub Scouts meets and the baby is sick, everything all falls apart and it's just not possible to keep it up on a day to day basis. (or am I the only one who's ever done that?? )

Anyway, I think the gals on IG have always tried very hard to help come up with the perfect sway and make it as good as they can with the info that they believe in. But sometimes, good enough is good enough and it doesn't HAVE to be perfect. Trying to make it perfect only makes it impossible, KWIM ???

interesting you say this bc i personally prefer to have strict guidelines and 'this way or bust' mentality. i like the discipline. however with IG i found some inconsistencies or lack of further info, etc. esply wheen theyd keep saying eat your cereal eat your cereal, then in the next sentence dont you dare touch milk. i was like..what? eat the cereal dry then? there was no information to justify them beingstrict. im not really bashing IG, but also with things like the minerals. now, atomic, if what you say about variety = boys is correct, certainly IG doesnt think so. the items they list are very not filling, and not much variety at all. i now know they meant cereal with 2% calcium rice milk or coffee creamer milk (your favorite food atomic), and just suggestions of what foods to eat, but almost EVERYTHING has calcium or magnesium in it. after all the research i did, i dont see how it is possible to be on that strict of a diet esply for months on end!
maybe i just dont WANT to tho.
but mostly i also think like ppl on here, that boys have been born for centuries even before the invention of coffee creamer.

now, i am using some of IG but mostly high everything, but its defly NOT a strict IG sway.

i agree with you on IG lords possibly making it the diet impossible on purpose...?

anyway, thank God for zivic-bubac wh brought me here.
sorry for off topic-ing.

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree with everything you say and I can't see how cutting out entire food groups could help with getting pregnant at all!!

[SpicyTunaSushi]

But, you do see a lot of 'boy moms' commenting that they eat a lot of this, and not a lot of that. So, for example, salty foods, since we all agree on that one. We don't know how much salty to eat, so IG created guidelines for that. I think it is helpful in a way.

I wish I had eating more protein- like someone said eat 100g a day. I now feel like I might have hurt my sway (though happy to have another dd) as a result. It is difficult to tell someone 'eat a lot of salt'. It is NICE to have some guidelines.

[SpicyTunaSushi]

But, you do see a lot of 'boy moms' commenting that they eat a lot of this, and not a lot of that. So, for example, salty foods, since we all agree on that one. We don't know how much salty to eat, so IG created guidelines for that. I think it is helpful in a way.

I wish I had eating more protein- like someone said eat 100g a day. I now feel like I might have hurt my sway (though happy to have another dd) as a result. It is difficult to tell someone 'eat a lot of salt'. It is NICE to have some guidelines.

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, my goal when I designed this swaying section was to give people an option to the IG style sway and I hope that is what I have done. If I at times have erred too far in the other direction, so be it.

[SpicyTunaSushi]

No its fine, this site is REALLY helpful. Balanced. I did find IG things helpful too. I think I saw on Begonia's sway that she was eating about 100g protein a day- and I thought wow, that is way way way more than me. So that number helped me know that maybe I wasn't eating as much protein as a thought.