ttc a girl

[sassy86]

Thank you although the problem is my husband is away until Sunday night and will have abstained for 8 days as he has been away, I'm due to get a pod opk on Monday/Tuesday so should I have him release on his own first or just have 1st attempt Sunday eve and 2nd attempt on Monday evening?
Thank you

[mydaughter]

Hey Sassy, I havn't been online for quite a while because I experienced the same sad thing you did! I just wanted to wish you all the best of luck, hoping the next month is your month with a sticky little pink one!

[mydaughter]

and I might be wrong but if you expect the +OPK on monday/tuesday, so you are due to ovulate on wednesday/thursday
I would recomment monday and then thursday maybe?
So you are very safe in the fertile window with both attemps, and don't need a 3rd attempt on the day of pos. OPK?

[sassy86]

Hi thank you for your response in sorry you went through the same thing I wish you lots of luck for next time. It's difficult isn't it to know what to do when I conceived ds we were dtd every 3/4 days, I would of been happy to stick to one attempt but dh wants to add an attempt I'm just concerned that as he has abstained that when we do our second attempt we are going more into a boy sway, I'm wondering whether to use the first batch but maybe before we have our second attempt have him release and dump that batch or is that more boy friendly I'm just really unsure what to do.

[atomic sagebrush]

I personally recommend every 3 days to maximise/balance both pink sway and conception odds. I think E4D + attempt at positive OPK has too much potential risk to sway blue.

I personally do not think that e3d has enough assistance in the conception department (you could easily end up with an attempt days before O that yields nothing at "go time") and hence stick by my e4d plus one recommendation.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you although the problem is my husband is away until Sunday night and will have abstained for 8 days as he has been away, I'm due to get a pod opk on Monday/Tuesday so should I have him release on his own first or just have 1st attempt Sunday eve and 2nd attempt on Monday evening?
Thank you

First attempt as soon as he gets back, second attempt at positive OPK whenver it may be.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi thank you for your response in sorry you went through the same thing I wish you lots of luck for next time. It's difficult isn't it to know what to do when I conceived ds we were dtd every 3/4 days, I would of been happy to stick to one attempt but dh wants to add an attempt I'm just concerned that as he has abstained that when we do our second attempt we are going more into a boy sway, I'm wondering whether to use the first batch but maybe before we have our second attempt have him release and dump that batch or is that more boy friendly I'm just really unsure what to do.

Don't have him release and dump it, it's just going to cut odds of conception. We still get quite good resuts with two attempts, it's really not so much of a compromise as you might think.

[sassy86]

Thank you again for your very helpful response so going by previous months I will get my first positive opk on Tuesday so going by that I will bd Monday evening and Tuesday should I do any more or leave it at that?
Thank you so much

[atomic sagebrush]

No I'd leave it at that.

[sassy86]

Hi all just a little update, dtd on Monday evening after 9 days abstaining (not planned but hubby was working away) and then got my first pos opk on Tuesday at 2.30
So dtd again that evening, so I can't do anymore now I just hope it's enough i had a couple of concerns....dtd 2 nights in a row I know that's not great for pink but dh was insistent that we give it two goes especially after having a mc I'm October. Also I still had quite a bit of ewcm even after antihistamines and Benadryl ���� I hope I'm still in with a good chance of a pink sway.