Anyone had to convince their husband?

[1moregirl]

Yes a lot of us had to convince our hubbbies and LOTS LOTS of us had hubbies who wouldn't help a sway.

I pretty much just convinced my husband to not try, but not prevent, and prayed like a madwoman while I did LE Diet and God smiled on me. Hubs wasnt super thrilled about it but he adores her and never complains at all any more.

That's lovely Atomic...that your husband just adores your little girl. You see, I know my DH would be exactly the same if we had one last child, no matter what the gender. Last time when we conceived he wasn't thrilled at all, but he quickly got used to the idea and when we miscarried he was genuinely upset and cried with me during that last ulstrasound. I envy ladies who have such supportive husbands who agree happily to 4 or more kids.

[atomic sagebrush]

Do you think that may be at least some part of why he's reluctant, 1more?? I know that is one thing my husband took very seriously. He felt like we had our first two to adulthood safely but he worries a lot about something happening to one of our little ones because he doesn't think he could handle it (emotionally, I mean)

[Little Lunasa]

I also had to work hard to convince my hubby to ttc a third. Our two boys were 7 and 9 and in my husbands head that was it, we were finished. He was 44 so not thrilled at facing all the newborn stuff again. But fast forward to now and a super cute 18 month old who has her daddy wrapped around her little finger and he wouldn't change a thing!


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[atomic sagebrush]

AAA LL nice to "see" you again! OH your avatar! What a doll!!!

[Beau82]

I'm in a very similar boat! I have 4 awesome little boys and when my youngest was about 6 months old, I started having those feelings. My husband was adamant about being done as soon as we found out via ultrasound that #4 was a boy. I begged him to not book the vasectomy until I was positive we were done. I'm the same as you, I just don't "feel done". And I really think I would be ok if the next was another boy if I knew I did all the swaying that was possible for me. I feel like I would regret it if I never actually tried/swayed for a girl.
I talked to my husband and he agreed that we wouldn't do anything permanent just yet, we would just "be careful". My youngest is now 17 months old. I haven't pushed the issue but I have made little comments here and there just so he knows that I still want a 5th. Giving him lots of time with my sister's sweet little 2yo girl and our friends' daughters has helped He has come around for sure but he hasn't officially said "let's start trying". I've noticed that he's been wearing the boxer-briefs I bought him a lot more lately though so maybe that's a step!

My advice is to have a heart to heart with your husband and just let him know that you aren't ready to say never yet. Offer to take birth control if he really persists. My husband said no but I did offer to do that much so that he wouldn't have to worry too much every time we had sex.

[mummyoffour]

He was not all for it in the beginning. He felt like he was done but i told him i still felt that i needed to try one more time. He was up in the air a few months but then we talked more and here we are. Our youngest was about 5 months old at the time. Initially he kept worrying about the chances of it being a boy and i could still feel the same way etc. But ive given it my all and if i don't get a dd after 5 kids then its just not meant to be. Hes relaxed a little at the idea that it could be a boy so thats reassuring but im crossing everything.

I certainly feel like this is our last baby now. With cars and bedrooms etc but even in my heart. Im too exhausted to do this again 😂

Mum to 4 Boys awaiting her Princess

Well I really hope my husband will come around to the idea eventually like yours did. our youngest is only 2 months old at the moment so i don't want to try again for awhile. How did your scan go?

[mummyoffour]

Yes a lot of us had to convince our hubbbies and LOTS LOTS of us had hubbies who wouldn't help a sway.

I pretty much just convinced my husband to not try, but not prevent, and prayed like a madwoman while I did LE Diet and God smiled on me. Hubs wasnt super thrilled about it but he adores her and never complains at all any more.

Atomic did you have to convince your husband too? Did it take much? I think if I can convince him I will do the same, do what I can do to help sway and then just hope for the best.

[mummyoffour]

I also had to work hard to convince my hubby to ttc a third. Our two boys were 7 and 9 and in my husbands head that was it, we were finished. He was 44 so not thrilled at facing all the newborn stuff again. But fast forward to now and a super cute 18 month old who has her daddy wrapped around her little finger and he wouldn't change a thing!


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This is how I know my husband would be too if we have another. He would never regret any child we have, i know he would just love them no matter what! How did you convince yours?

[mummyoffour]

I'm in a very similar boat! I have 4 awesome little boys and when my youngest was about 6 months old, I started having those feelings. My husband was adamant about being done as soon as we found out via ultrasound that #4 was a boy. I begged him to not book the vasectomy until I was positive we were done. I'm the same as you, I just don't "feel done". And I really think I would be ok if the next was another boy if I knew I did all the swaying that was possible for me. I feel like I would regret it if I never actually tried/swayed for a girl.
I talked to my husband and he agreed that we wouldn't do anything permanent just yet, we would just "be careful". My youngest is now 17 months old. I haven't pushed the issue but I have made little comments here and there just so he knows that I still want a 5th. Giving him lots of time with my sister's sweet little 2yo girl and our friends' daughters has helped He has come around for sure but he hasn't officially said "let's start trying". I've noticed that he's been wearing the boxer-briefs I bought him a lot more lately though so maybe that's a step!

My advice is to have a heart to heart with your husband and just let him know that you aren't ready to say never yet. Offer to take birth control if he really persists. My husband said no but I did offer to do that much so that he wouldn't have to worry too much every time we had sex.

Its so nice to see other people are in the same position as me. I hope your husband will come around as well! Im the same at the moment, I'm not pushing it, but I feel like at some stage I will need to have a proper talk to him and tell him exactly how I feel about it all, but he knows I still want another so Im hoping as our youngest gets bit older he will come around.
If we could just guarantee a girl next I know for sure he would go for it!

[netti02]

Well I really hope my husband will come around to the idea eventually like yours did. our youngest is only 2 months old at the moment so i don't want to try again for awhile. How did your scan go?

Another boy joining the clan so totally going to save on recycling clothes. Its a shame its the last baby but doesn't mean the next would be a girl either 😂

Mum to 4 Boys awaiting her Princess