Gynae scan today...strange comment re ovulation

[atomic sagebrush]

BD when ya can, if ya can.

[maidentomother]

I would definitely attempt as soon as you get a trur positive, if DHis willing! The BDing prior really doesn't matter much.

atomic, you explained the singular occurrence that is O regardless of number of eggs released soooo much better than I did, thank you!

[1moregirl]

Thanks Atomic and Maiden. We BD last night, but with a condom. He was adamant about that (eye roll). I bought some new OPK tests yesterday from a pharmacy (forelife brand. I'd never heard of them til now) and took one this morning (not fmu) and it was negative, even though the second line was almost as dark as the control line, it's still considered negative. However, I do think O will be in next day or two as I have had lower back pains this morning and a bit crampy in tummy which is what I usually get before O. I'm really at the stage now where I am just sick of thinking about all of this and preparing for it and trying to talk DH into it and I just want to DO it and see what happens. If only fate would intervene and the bloody condom would just accidentally break or have a hole or something. obviously I'm not going to do that as I really just want him to be on board for a try. I have also told him it may not even work. I may not even get pregnant or, if I did, it may end in another miscarriage. Yet I need to at least try one more time. I don't want to go to a fertility specialist or do HT because I've already been blessed with 3 children and I don't want to go to extreme lengths to have another baby. If it will be, it will be...if not, then I will accept that it was only ever in God's plan to bless with me 3 and I will then move on to the next phase in life of enjoying the kids a bit older and going back to work. Sorry for rambling on. I just don't have anyone else to talk to about all of this and DH doesn't really like to listen to it.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ok. Just a thought, but have you ever heard of the story where the guy is in a flood and praying for God to save him and then 3 boats come along and he won't go on the boats, then he drowns and goes to heaven and he's like "God, Dude, seriously, what gives?" And God is like "I don't know what you want from me, man, I sent ya 3 boats." Well, it works the other way too sometimes where God is trying to tell us something (as in, hubby really, really isn't down with this) so maybe the plan is already in place, the signs are being sent from above, and you may be waving the boats by without getting the message, KWIM. YOU KNOW I totally understand and I have endless sympathy for ya, I really truly do, but you have to ask yourself is the marriage worth giving up over this. And for all I know, it is. As you know I was in somewhat of a similar position and at that point in time honestly if I'dve had to pick between marriage and baby it would have been a pretty tough decision (cause my marriage was rocky then and even though I really really really love my husband a lot, I wasn't sure how invested I was in saving it any more because it didn't feel a lot of the times like I could save it) and I was ok with chancing it. But if you have a good marriage otherwise, he's easy to live with and good father and blah blah blah...then you're gambling with something that you may not want to be. It just may be one of those times where you can't really have it all, you can't have both. I mean this from someone who really does totally understand.

[more pink]

Wow Atomic that's exactly what I've been through I too wanted another girl a sister for my daughter and I did everything I could I mean gave it all to happen but it didn't happen !I had the same situation as 1 more girl DH was totally against it we had so many fights and arguments then I thought it's not worth it to gamble what I already have with something that might never happen in my case get another girl I got God's message im alot happier and content because we can't have it all in this life and literally counting my blessing for having at least a girl when u know other people are struggling to get pregnant. In my case Im 36 he's now 50 so it's his age that was the problem as he kept saying it's not fair for this this baby to have a very old father and he said that he might not live longer for this new baby. . Plus our family dynamics are already good why disturb and mess everything up so I respected his opinion and closed the baby chapter :-) felt so much relief as in no more testing no more what to eat when to ovulate blah blah
In your case your age I think plays a major factor for your husband not wanting another baby understandable . You have a family make up that a lot of people would love to have :-)
As Atomic mentioned maybe that's your sign that your DH doesn't want any more babies maybe that's the best decision you'll take by closing down the baby factory ;-) and get ready for the next chapter with your growing children :-)

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[1moregirl]

Thanks Atomic and More Pink. I totally get what you are both saying but last time when I swayed I gave it everything I had and I was devastated when the pregnancy ended at 10 weeks. Its soooo hard when you are trying to teach your kids that if you've got a dream and you really want something badly you just there and make it happen. This last baby to me is a dream, I don't want anything else right now except for this so for me to give up on it right now is difficult. I have my heart set on one more try. If it ends the same as last time then I won't put myself and my family through it again. I will except it and move on but to not try again and forever wonder....I'm not easily defeated. If I want something badly enough and my heart is set on it, then I work really damn hard to make it happen. I want to be able to tell our little girl one day when she is older that yes honey...we really did try sooo hard to give you a sister but it didn't happen and you have two beautiful brothers to be thankful for as many kids out there don't have a brother or a sister. Der going to put it all on paper for DH to try and understand where I'm coming from. But thanks for the advice.

[Faithinpink]

Hey 1moregirl I'm hearing ya , ((hugs)) maybe if you and your family can take a trip somewhere nice like country , soak up the nice fresh air and relax. Try and take a break from all the baby ideas atm .. Hug your husband tell him how much you appreciate him cause a unhappy man makes an unhappy home .
I know your hurting and I feel for you ... Take it easy xxxxxxx

[atomic sagebrush]

keep us posted.

[1moregirl]

Hasn't happened but I'm not giving up.