Angry at SO for failed sway/GD?

[cheriex333]

Has anyone displaced their GD onto their SO? I am still struggling with GD (as evident from my other posts, although not as severe anymore). However, past few days I've been so pissed at my DH because I feel that he did not do his part for our boy gender sway. I stuck to the diet exactly, timing, etc. I told him all he had to do was stop drinking alcohol, which sways girls, and he kept drinking the entire time!
Even today he said he would continue drinking and doesn't care. UGH!! I wanted to punch him in the face. I am so PO bc I feel that had he just practiced self restraint I wouldn't be going through this GD right now.

[ahorn586]

Although, I've never suffered from GD because I've never done a sway yet I understand where you are coming from. I kind of feel like my DH will not doing anything on his part for our girl sway. I do understand why you are upset though because you did so much in the hopes that your sway would work and all he had to do was to stop drinking alcohol for a few months. I do get your frustration and I wish you the best!!!

[Serendipity]

I'm really angry with my dh. Logically I know it's not his fault, but emotionally I have a lot of anger that if I hadn't met him I might have my daughter right now. I don't want to feel this way

[Throwaway_panther]

I feel for you. I lobbed some really hurtful things at my SO, and we didn't TRY for a sway (I only discovered the concept after I was already several weeks pregnant). I full on said, "Why couldn't you give me a son?" which was really hurtful to him, especially since we had gone into this ultimately wanting a baby (though I harbored very intense desires for a boy).

I also feel for you since my husband has since placated me with, "Yes, we'll do whatever you want to sway for a boy after this," but has balked at wearing boxers, and I know will have an issue resisting alcohol.

Ultimately, what I can say is: the alcohol didn't affect your sway. Not really. These are all guidelines, and there has been many a boy not only born to alcoholics, but to people who were full on drunk when conceiving, to men that drink regularly, etc. I know that doesn't make it any easier for us, considering we're doing everything we can to exert some form of control on a process that is, ultimately, random.

I think counseling or talking to a professional would be helpful; I've been doing so even before pregnancy, but it's been pivotal to air out my often illogical vents to my therapist rather than my SO, who's deeply hurt by any comments I would lob at him.