Atomic - advice needed please.

[atomic sagebrush]

DTD on ovulation does not sway blue anyway.

[Girlfriend]

If you aren't getting pregnant then hubby needs to drop the daily release FIRST before you try ading attempts!!

Hubby is not releasing everyday, we have been having sex on day 6 then day 10 and then I would wait for a positive (which has been on day 14 some months and other months day 16 and have sex the day of the positive)
So we are kind of doing every 4 days atm but when we get close to O I wait for a positive OPK before having an attempt. Not sure why it's not working yet???

[Girlfriend]

So if I have sex every 3 days do I still check OPK sticks and wait for a positive before having an attempt?

Can you tell me everything ELSE you're doing??

Please do not have sex every other day. Either do every 3 days or every 4 days plus one attempt at positive OPK and not every other day. Not only may it sway blue, but it isn't great odds of conception either.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think you were asking me if you should add it in or not on the previous page. So don't add it and drop it if you were doing it, is what I was trying to say.

I think you should either do a true every 4 days or every 3 days from now on. Don't try to time it for a certain result, and keep going AFTER you think you ovulated.

[atomic sagebrush]

So if I have sex every 3 days do I still check OPK sticks and wait for a positive before having an attempt?

i don't want you to wait for a positive before having attempt. That may be what's hanging us up here.

Just do a true e4d or e3d. You can do OPK if you want to or skip them if you want to. If you do continue wiht them, you have the option of adding an attempt at positive OPK in addition to the pattern you're doing (I'd try that with e4d for now and NOT e3d) so then you'd end up doing e4d plus one attempt at positive. I think the most important thing for you is that you don't try to hit a certain timing with e4d, and also keep going after positive OPK.

[Girlfriend]

i don't want you to wait for a positive before having attempt. That may be what's hanging us up here.

Just do a true e4d or e3d. You can do OPK if you want to or skip them if you want to. If you do continue wiht them, you have the option of adding an attempt at positive OPK in addition to the pattern you're doing (I'd try that with e4d for now and NOT e3d) so then you'd end up doing e4d plus one attempt at positive. I think the most important thing for you is that you don't try to hit a certain timing with e4d, and also keep going after positive OPK.

Hi atomic
Thanks so much for your reply, I'm trying to get my head around your reply above and having sex every 4 days disregarding what the OPK stick are doing. So if I did that and say had sex on days 6, 10, 14, 18, 22 of my cycle. If I Ovulate on day 17 I'm never going to pregnant. And for this reason what I have been doing is having sex on day 6, 10, and then waiting for a pos OPK before I had sex again. Doing that I was thinking that I was having sex closer to O and their for increasing my odds of conception. I'm happy to try it your way but I just wanted to understand it - because I feel if I just blindly have sex every 4 days I could potentially be reducing my odd even more.

My cycles fluctuate between 27-31 days so I usually ovulate any where between days 13-16.

[atomic sagebrush]

I get what you're doing and why, and so I again offer the possibility of having an ADDITIONAL attempt at positive OPK TOO. I do want you to do e4d though. sometimes we outwit ourselves and may end up actually worse off.

Every 4 days DOES NOT reduce your odds even more. You actually can get pregnant from CD 14 attempt on CD 17.

The thing is that yeah, that might be the pattern in one month, but then the NEXT month things would change, and you'd end with a perfectly timed attempt. Whereas if you're outwitting yourself and trying to time it a certain way, but something is misleading you and you're doing that wrong, you'll be doing it from now till the cows come home.

Or, if that's not floating your boat, you can do e3d or e4d plus one more at pos OPK instead. I just want to be sure you're in with regular attempts, that's all, because something's not working here.

[Girlfriend]

Thanks atomic - that makes sense now.
I was wondering I was reading your thread about alcohol and was wondering if I should start dring sider, every night from now? I'm on day 7 of my cycle today so is it 2 late to add that to my sway?
Maybe I should also start running every day 2? I can see exercise sways big time. Up to now I have been going to the gym 3 times per week but I haven't been last week as I was sick ��

[maidentomother]

I would add both alcohol and cardio for an hour minimum daily ASAP as it may take you a while to get pregnant. Going to the gym just 3x a week sways BLUE so being sedentary is better thsn that.

[atomic sagebrush]

We don't know how the alcohol works and it may be that it's around O anyway that matters so not too late.

Yes I'd have you up at least to 4 days a week. 3 is def. in the moderate range that could possilby sway blue.