Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2016

[lala22]

She won't disclose right now. She's so heartbroken. It was her first baby and he took a year to conceive. She was so excited to find out if it was a boy or a girl and instead found out he won't make it. [emoji22]

Oh geez...heartbreaking. To each their own but if it wasn't something I could have known about earlier I would have wanted to which is why I always get testing done. I understand why people don't but that's just gut wrenching.

[Quinn31]

Oh geez...heartbreaking. To each their own but if it wasn't something I could have known about earlier I would have wanted to which is why I always get testing done. I understand why people don't but that's just gut wrenching.

I guess her office doesn't do any real testing unless you're high risk. She didn't know any better but I'm sure she'll be different next time.

[lala22]

I guess her office doesn't do any real testing unless you're high risk. She didn't know any better but I'm sure she'll be different next time.

Is she in the states?

[Quinn31]

Is she in the states?

Yeah, I think she had an early ultrasound but they didn't see anything.

[dpike00]

She won't disclose right now. She's so heartbroken. It was her first baby and he took a year to conceive. She was so excited to find out if it was a boy or a girl and instead found out he won't make it. [emoji22]

Agh!!! That's horrible. I hate that these things still happen to people.

I have a friend whose baby died a week before her scheduled c-section. This was also her first and she had several miscarriages in between. It's almost a year out and she is still doing really bad. There are some good support groups out there but sometimes another child may be the only way to help ease the pain.

[lala22]

Agh!!! That's horrible. I hate that these things still happen to people.

I have a friend whose baby died a week before her scheduled c-section. This was also her first and she had several miscarriages in between. It's almost a year out and she is still doing really bad. There are some good support groups out there but sometimes another child may be the only way to help ease the pain.

What?! A week before her c section? God I just can't handle the thought even..miserable awful and unfair. Poor thing.

[lala22]

Yeah, I think she had an early ultrasound but they didn't see anything.

I thought they were required to offer state testing which includes a blood test. Maybe that's just a California thing. What a crappy thing to go through.

[twointow83]

I thought they were required to offer state testing which includes a blood test. Maybe that's just a California thing. What a crappy thing to go through.

I didn't get any testing other than the usual pap/blood (standard not chromosomal)/ultrasound until after my first loss.

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[Quinn31]

I thought they were required to offer state testing which includes a blood test. Maybe that's just a California thing. What a crappy thing to go through.

It's possible and I'm not entirely sure. I know she asked her dr about testing and was told she wasn't high risk. She might not have understood what was offered. I think I actually declined testing with my first because I was naive. It feels so unfair because in this group of friends we've had several late losses and a friend give birth to a daughter with serious disabilities. Everyone has such a negative and scared outlook on ttc and pregnancy now.

[Quinn31]

Agh!!! That's horrible. I hate that these things still happen to people.

I have a friend whose baby died a week before her scheduled c-section. This was also her first and she had several miscarriages in between. It's almost a year out and she is still doing really bad. There are some good support groups out there but sometimes another child may be the only way to help ease the pain.

That really is heartbreaking and horribly unfair. I had an acquaintance (friend of a friend) go through something like that and she's still working through her grief. I'm so sorry your friend had that experience. I've heard a couple women say they didn't feel better until they had their next child. We were just discussing how little we knew when we had our firsts. I'm thankful I didn't realize all that could go wrong.