ttc a girl

[sassy86]

Hi we have had the scan it's a boy

[atomic sagebrush]

how are you doing, sassy??

[sassy86]

Hi ya I have felt quite upset about it today but I can't change it I just have to look forward to his arrival I went a bought him a couple of outfits which made me feel a bit better, and dh husband has agreed to try for dc3 so I'm going to try everything and get the plan from you this time to follow.....
This was my last away after the mmc, would you mind seeing if there was something I could of maybe changed
Dh had abstained for about 10 days due to being away so we dtd on the mine day evening very shallow release no big o and jump and dump and the following afternoon I got a pos opk so we tried once more that evening dh released outside of me before we dtd so I think we were lucky to full pregnant as I didn't think there was any sperm left, he had a 1 or 2 ciders every evening our diet manly consisted of eggs, chicken, rice no salad or vegetables or fruit but we did have a few cheat days as we wanted it to be a bit more laid back after our mmc in November
I'm not sure if we swayed correctly maybe next time I should try a cut off as both my boys were conceived round ovulation
I'd like to thank you again atomic for all your support

[atomic sagebrush]

Eggs, chicken, and no vegetables are really much more of an IG type sway and not so much LE so that is one thing I'd change up a bit to possibly stick in the limits for protein, fat, and cals and be getting a majority of protein and fat from vegetable sources, not animal.

I would have just one attempt next time, dropping the shallow release in order to up odds of conception with the one attempt.

Timing doesn't sway, it can certainly be something you could try if you felt like it, just be sure it's 2-3 day cutoff and no longer than that.

Wishing you every joy with your new little man!

[sassy86]

Thank you for your reply atomic ok great I'll get the plan from you and go by that, may j ask what is the reason you wouldn't do any longer than a 3 day cut off? With my first ds we bd I guess every 3/4 days and this one I had two attempts one before pos opk and one eve of pos opk

[atomic sagebrush]

Because the odds of conception are very poor and it doesn't sway anyway. So you end up going on month after month not conceiving, and then either you waste away to nothing on diet and end up stopping ovulation and have to practically sway blue via diet just to get it going again, and/or people panic and start doing everything in their power just to get pregnant (again which is often a blue-ish sway) and get opposites. It is much better to focus on doing the stuff that actually works - LE Diet longer than 12 weeks plus fiber, coffee, and alcohol if you want, cardio exercise 60 min 6-7 days a week, one attempt in fertile window and get pregnant within 3-6 months tops instead of chasing things that do not work at all and only cut odds of conception to practically nothing.

[sassy86]

Ok thank you for all your advise, we are going to try again in about 18 months so it will be our last so I really wanna do everything I can for a dd when would you reccomend me purchasing the plan off of you?

[sassy86]

Also do you think 1 attempt is better than frequent bd everyday from af, just a bit concerned as with ds1 we only had one attempt in my fertile window but looking back my diet wasn't great
Thanks again

[atomic sagebrush]

yes, I think one attempt or every four days is miles better than BD every day thru O. I do not ever recommend anyone try that method.

I do think that buying a plan helps alleviate the "control-freakiness" that can undermine otherwise good sways but I would never have the temerity to recommend anyone purchase one!! LOL. If you think it will help, but I just feel weird about recommending things that I profit off of.

[sassy86]

Lol, I do want to give it my best shot and really understand more about my diet so I think it definitely may help me by purchasing the plan :-) I feel like I need to spend more time reading through and understand it all. Would I need to go complete vegetarian or can I eat meat as long as it's under the calorie intake? How long before I start trying would you reccomend me getting the plan and what does it include?