TTC Blue Crew Grads

[3Pink1Blue]

Foxy - He actually hasn't talked to dh since he found out, all he did was "yell" at him via facebook that we said we weren't going to find out. No congrats, nothing. What can I say, he's an ass but it sounds like you know just what I'm talking about lol

[Cheekymoo]

ELP- oh I'd love to see my dd's duplicate lol and please oh please find out

Baby- thanks! It took me a while when I found out dc3 was yet another girl. I looked up stories of u/s being wrong and even paid for a second one to be sure. I will admit even though I knew I refused to believe till she was born. Within a few hours I was in love but still got a little sad every time I walked past a baby with the "It's a Boy" sign in their bassinet. 4 yrs later she's my little buddy, we're closer then I was with the others she doesn't know or remember I didn't want her to be a her. Don't feel guilty for being upset no matter how long it takes to shake it.
My bil laughed in dh's face when he found out dc3 was a girl while they were having a boy. I hate people who need to feel superior.

How bout you Cheeky, finding out soon?

Well theres a chance to find out on Monday...possibly but I don't think it will be a def 100 % either way if anything is seen...and the doctor will give me a referral for my 20 week scan which i will come home and book straight away!
But I must say I REALLY believe I am having a girl...I try to imagine it being a boy now and I just can't because something keeps going 'yer it COULD be - but deep down i don't believe it for a second it just isn't..... '
Don't get me wrong i would love to be totally wrong about this but I have had such vivid dreams etc and it is always a she and it just feels sooo definate!

[3Pink1Blue]

I was positive I'd hear girl, I hoped but could not ever imagine after 9 years I'd actually hear boy. I firmly believe you dream what you want or fear most so dreams and gut instincts cannot always be trusted. My fingers are firmly crossed that you'll hear boy

[begonia]

Just remember those trashy little 'females' are only the tip of the iceburg, the rest of the girls are at home with us, safe and cared about xxx

Excellent point

[begonia]

Spicy I agree, I wasn't a bad teen either. I had no one really looking out for me but by nature was a good kid, I really wanted to be successful and just tried to make decisions based on that goal. Some of it is nature, some is nurture, I'm hoping my girls have a good nature

Foxy, how do your teens feel about you having more babies? I've always wondered that about big families! FIL was one of 10 and I always liked the idea (we won't get anywhere near there, I reeeeally think 3 is my max) because he and his siblings took such good care of each other. His thought was that in big families the sibling relationships are stronger, because they learned to rely on each other more since there were only 2 parents, but 9 other kids!

[begonia]

Awww Jen/Skrimpy those girls are gorgeous!! Thank you all for the lovely words of encouragement. Been feeling bad for a couple of days because i've lost interest in the baby...i heard myself speaking to the baby saying "just bear with mommy for a bit while i mourn the son i'll never have". Feel awful for feeling like this but i know it will pass in time. Hope baby understands

I went through this too Baby, the losing interest. Everytime during the day that I tell my DD's I love them (which is often, I probably overdo it and they'll be super embarrassed that I continue it even when they are teens, LOL) I make a point to pat my belly and say it to DD3 too. Even though I can't say I really am 100% there on it, I know I WILL be, you know? Fake it til you feel it sometimes isn't a bad motto.

And ITA on seeing the men everywhere! For me it's the boy babies, good heavens, they are EVERY WHERE I GO lately! I keep reminding myself the women longing for girls probably feel the same but in reverse. But seriously... if it's supposed to be so much easier to get pg with a boy why, why, why in 3 times haven't I done it once?!?!

[begonia]

ELP- oh I'd love to see my dd's duplicate lol and please oh please find out

Baby- thanks! It took me a while when I found out dc3 was yet another girl. I looked up stories of u/s being wrong and even paid for a second one to be sure. I will admit even though I knew I refused to believe till she was born. Within a few hours I was in love but still got a little sad every time I walked past a baby with the "It's a Boy" sign in their bassinet. 4 yrs later she's my little buddy, we're closer then I was with the others she doesn't know or remember I didn't want her to be a her. Don't feel guilty for being upset no matter how long it takes to shake it.
My bil laughed in dh's face when he found out dc3 was a girl while they were having a boy. I hate people who need to feel superior.

How bout you Cheeky, finding out soon?

This was me with DD2 Jen. I didn't believe it. My scan with her was at 16w4d and I did the exact same thing as you ... googled to read stories of women who had incorrect scans, and then of course still hoped against hope she would come out a he I HATE gender desire. It sucks.

[begonia]

Well theres a chance to find out on Monday...possibly but I don't think it will be a def 100 % either way if anything is seen...and the doctor will give me a referral for my 20 week scan which i will come home and book straight away!
But I must say I REALLY believe I am having a girl...I try to imagine it being a boy now and I just can't because something keeps going 'yer it COULD be - but deep down i don't believe it for a second it just isn't..... '
Don't get me wrong i would love to be totally wrong about this but I have had such vivid dreams etc and it is always a she and it just feels sooo definate!

I agree with Jen on the dreams, Cheeky. I never had gender dreams with either of my others but this one, before I found out, I dreamed 2x that it was a boy. But in my gut I just couldn't ever let myself believe it, as much as I hoped. I clung to things like the urine pH being high just HOPING that for once an OWT would be true for me. Not the case, obviously.

So anyhow ... don't worry about the dreams. Really the only thing that'll tell you for sure is your scan, and you've got a great shot at this being your son. Don't lose hope. Is 3 it for y'all or would you go for 4?

[babydes56]

Cheekymoo, have faith this could be your boy. I too dreamt i had a boy but obviously didnt turn out that way. I find the odds of having a boy after 3 girls is higher than after 2 girls.

3P1B, your BIL is an ass i cant believe a man can carry on like that towards his own brother! I'm glad you've proved them wrong, something i wanted to do to a few people i know.

B, do you think you'll try again?

[3Pink1Blue]

This was me with DD2 Jen. I didn't believe it. My scan with her was at 16w4d and I did the exact same thing as you ... googled to read stories of women who had incorrect scans, and then of course still hoped against hope she would come out a he I HATE gender desire. It sucks.

My u/s was at 21/22 wks and I still didn't want to believe it. I hate gd and feeling guilty that you can't just be happy with what you have. My worst fear is that my girls will learn about my gd and think, even for a second, that I didn't love or want them or that I love or wanted this one more.