Due March/April/May 2017

[baby2016baby]

Same here. Part of me wants to know and part doesn't. I get stupid comments all the time like " thats alot of weddings to pay for" "can you imsgine the hormones in your house in the teenage years" and to my husband in front of me " I feel sorry for you, totally outnumbered by women". i cant imagine if this is a 4th girl. Especially as every one knows we want a boy so bad. I can't really go under the guise of "it's what we wanted" I really want to wait till we know gender before telling anyone but that may prove physically impossible. I need time to accept it without the stupidity of peoples naive comments.

[jenren]

Same here. Part of me wants to know and part doesn't. I get stupid comments all the time like " thats alot of weddings to pay for" "can you imsgine the hormones in your house in the teenage years" and to my husband in front of me " I feel sorry for you, totally outnumbered by women". i cant imagine if this is a 4th girl. Especially as every one knows we want a boy so bad. I can't really go under the guise of "it's what we wanted" I really want to wait till we know gender before telling anyone but that may prove physically impossible. I need time to accept it without the stupidity of peoples naive comments.

I'm not telling anyone but close friends that we are having another boy. Not even family. I hated the comments I got while pregnant with ds3 and I don't want those negative comments associated with my pregnancy. People are very thoughtless and rude when it comes to the things they carelessly say

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[baby2016baby]

That's a good idea jenren. I might wait till after delivery. Say we haven't found out, regardless of the sex. They don't think. I remebervseveraly family members visit me in hospital and first words as I was holding newborn dd3 were "oh well you can always try again" grrrrr.....

Are you at peace with your 4th boy? Has it sunk in? I recall it taking a while with my dd3. In fact I didn't believe the bloods so had a scan too. I think it was then I realised and accepted it pretty quickly. After a while I couldn't imagine anything else xxx

[jenren]

That's a good idea jenren. I might wait till after delivery. Say we haven't found out, regardless of the sex. They don't think. I remebervseveraly family members visit me in hospital and first words as I was holding newborn dd3 were "oh well you can always try again" grrrrr.....

Are you at peace with your 4th boy? Has it sunk in? I recall it taking a while with my dd3. In fact I didn't believe the bloods so had a scan too. I think it was then I realised and accepted it pretty quickly. After a while I couldn't imagine anything else xxx

Yeah I'm at peace with another boy. I didn't have disappointment over another boy I just have a feeling of sadness over never having a girl. Dh and I will likely foster to adopt a girl later in life. For now we will have our boys and ignore people's stupid comments

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[purple]

We told some more family today and my FIL is still going on about wanting a granddaughter but I ignored him. My neice really wants a girl cousin but she is 11 and only has boy cousins so I understand... I told her I didn't have any control over it though.

My boys both want a little brother but I'm sure they will be ok either way.

I'm not sure what would be worse.. knowing it's a boy and pretending not to know and getting all the 'are you hoping it's a girl?' questions or just telling people it's another boy and getting stupid comments like 'well you can try again'. I don't think you can win!

[Magical22]

Same here. Part of me wants to know and part doesn't. I get stupid comments all the time like " thats alot of weddings to pay for" "can you imsgine the hormones in your house in the teenage years" and to my husband in front of me " I feel sorry for you, totally outnumbered by women". i cant imagine if this is a 4th girl. Especially as every one knows we want a boy so bad. I can't really go under the guise of "it's what we wanted" I really want to wait till we know gender before telling anyone but that may prove physically impossible. I need time to accept it without the stupidity of peoples naive comments.

This is why I'm getting the NIPT and I'll announce with the gender at the same time to try an avoid hurtful comments. Hugs


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[baby2016baby]

That's fantastic jen. Im glad you have a plan. Adopting in the UK is quite difficult. I know as we looked into it alot before having any children. The hoops they make you jump through and the fact due to all the meeting and stuff you don't get the baby untill 9m + put us off a little. However if it meant we get out dream we would revist as an option. I might be more temped to try pgd first.

I agree purple I don't think you can win. If I knew it was a girl and people were banging on about "this must be your boy" etc I think I'd snap!

Yeah that's a good plan magical.

I wish everyone could get what they want but I know the world doesn't work like that xxx

[3'sacharm]

I spoke to my dad on the phone after my booking in appt and said we should get a scan date soon to which he replied "oh, you'll get to find out if this ones a girl then?" Gah! No we won't, it's too early, but talk about putting the pressure on. And he won't hide his disappointment when it's ANOTHER boy either :/ I'd like to leave it as a surprise at birth but I doubt hubby will let that happen, he always wants to find out during pregnancy. My eldest son wants a sister but my youngest wants a brother; I'm sure this will be my fourth boy though, I don't think there's really many discernible differences between this pregnancy and my others, other than gaining weight and a bump VERY early on, I'm usually a very late "show-er" x

[Brandles]

Hey everyone!!! Looks like I've only been able to come on here once a week... Sorry, things have been so crazy busy around here. I tried to read up on all the posts, but might be nearly impossible to comment back on each one. But please know I am thinking about you all and I hope as more genders start rolling in we get the news we all want to here.

Jen, I feel the same as you about telling everyone the gender... I already have a little girl and 3 boys... and everyone knows how much I would like my daughter to have a sister... I just have a weird feeling this is a boy and I am not looking forward to hearing all the comments and apologies.

I am dying to find out what I am having and my Dr isn't having me come for my m21 test until 9/19. I will be 11+2 then and I just can't wait that long. lol!! So in the meantime, just for fun I pulled out this handy-not-so-handy Chinese gender chart that a Chinese OB that I once worked for gave me. Looking back... it has been true for ALL my children, even one of my miscarriages that we know was a boy... and says I am having another boy. PLEASE someone debunk this theory! lol!!!

Now, before any of you go and do this, just make sure to use the month of conception and know that it's not necessarily your LMP. For example, I always assumed my daughter was conceived in August... but looking back on the dates it actually says September 1st - 7th... making her a girl on the chart and not a boy if I had conceived in August. I checked with friends and theirs all seem to be right for the most part and a couple friends were off a couple kids.

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[Burakoam]

Brandles- can't say wether it's right for my first cause it starts at 18 and I got pregnant with her at 16 but I can tell you for my two others if that chart was right they should have been males. However it depends on how you read the chart... I always heard you are supposed to use the age you are going to be that year... So even if you are 26 as an example, if you have a birthday that year where you would turn 27 then you go by 27 as the age of conception... So if I do that then yeah it says they Should be girls. Thing is that it never specifically wth any of these charts says "add a year" and it's sort of silly

What's funny is in this case wether I use the chart as is or add a year it says this baby should be a boy... Guess we will find out