Update on me

[essnce629]

I've kind of been off of the boards since having my fibroid and endometrioma surgery back in mid July. Unfortunately, my DH went ahead and got a vasectomy on Friday against my wishes so it looks like my dream of having a daughter won't be coming true. I am devastated and so so sad. I started counseling as soon as he scheduled it because I felt like my life was spiraling out of control. The therapist asked him to postpone the surgery or at least freeze his sperm for my peace of mind. He ended up rescheduling the procedure once (was supposed to be last month) but decided against freezing his sperm because he didn't want to pay for it. We were supposed to start couples therapy last week but he couldn't make it and our first session is this Friday, although it's obviously too late now that the vasectomy is already done. I know it's wishful thinking but I can only hope that I still have a tiny chance in the next 12 weeks or so to get pregnant before his sperm count is down to zero. So reading stories about pregnancies after vasectomy have kept me from completly falling into a deep dark depression. I waffle between being so so angry at him and so so sad.

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[purple]

Sorry essnce this must be really hard for you right now. It seems so unfair. I hope you are able to somehow stay positive. Hugs xx.

[GirlieCat]

Essnce, I am so sorry for you. I can't even image being in your situation or how you feel. That is heartbreaking. So sorry.

[Faithinpink]

So sorry Essnce, that is heartbreaking reading this sending you a big hug . Xx
Take care of you !!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh my God, essnce, I am so sorry. I kinda feel like kicking him right in the vasectomy right now. And I am totally wearing Doc Martens.

I do want to tell you that it is possible for them to go in and get sperm from the testicles but obviously since he's done this, it's not a likely thing - but it is a possible one. A friend of mine ended up doing this.

I don't have any advice for you. This is just one of those times where I'd love to have the magic words to undo what was done but I don't. Just know that we are here for you and are all of us outraged and heartbroken for you.

[BrightSky]

So sorry to read this essnce, sounds like a tough time for u both, I hope u make it to councilling and it helps. I know it may not be the way you are thinking at the moment, but I also have a friend who became pregnant through ivf and taking sperm directly from the testes as her partner thought he was 'done' having kids. Anything is possible xxx

[netti02]

Oh my......im so sorry for you essnce. I hope the therapy can help somewhat.

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[Pbn3]

Hey just letting you know I sent a pm which I'm assuming you've already gotten 💜

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[trifecta]

I'm so sorry, Essence. That must be so hard. I'll be thinking of you.

[Pink Pony]

Thinking of you Essance xx