Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017

[cosmosis]

This is our first together so I really wanted to surprise him. Otherwise, I would have made him squint with me lol. He did help me on our last cycle though. I'll tell him today XD


How about those of you with older kids, when do you share the news with them?

[Butterflies buttercups]

My eldest (almost 6) wanted to see what all the fuss was about when me and hubby were squinting ! He said let me see mummy and I told him to read the clear blue words and he said it and was so excited - he really wants a sister he doesn't want another brother hahaha !!
My youngest doesn't really get it he's only 2.5 but we've babied him so I think he will struggle with it all a bit xx


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[Butterflies buttercups]

Just wants to express how I feel today :

My friends partner seems to think I'm pregnant as we cancelled a social event last weekend and ever since my second son he has always said things like when r h having another one , what u gonna do if u have another boy, I'm so lucky I've got one of each I'm having a vasectomy soon , sod havin 3 kids and so on... which has made me feel terrible especially last year when I was anti depressants from My GP for GD...
I've realised today that this is my last baby (out third) and the minute I find out it's a boy at my scan or harmony test I will feel very upset I can imagine my heart will sink as the reality sets in , it's ok il obviously love him but will not enjoy the comments during the next 20 odd weekends after a gender scan whilst this boy is still growing inside of me so I think I have come to a decision to stay team yellow / green (find out at birth ) because at least that way there is a glimmer of hope that it could be a girl???

I'll have a c section anyway so will be house bound for a week so we won't need a pink / blue pram or accessories we can shop online for next day delivery that day he or she comes into the world if necessary - we've realised we don't use the nursery until 6 months anyway so no rush to do that we can just paint it white for now and buy a cot and go neutral for a while until they arrive ...
I feel this will help push the comments away as I won't know what I'm carrying and also my depression won't be during my pregnancy - and maybe il just fall in love at the birth wether it's a boy or a girl ...
Sorry long post needed to share
Xxx


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[Burakoam]

Crashing for butterflies..

-huge hugs- it's ultimately up to you what you think is best but if you have a history of depression in and after pregnancy it may be best to find out and deal with it early. It can be tricky because if you are told boy at the end of a long/hard 9 months it can go either way... you could fall instantly in love, or fall into a pit of depression so severe you don't bond as easily or well with your newborn son. I say stay open to either option for now and make a final decision as that 16-20 week mark hits.. wishing you the best of luck either way hon and ALL my pink dust..

[XXforhubby]

I agree with Burakoam, Butterfly. While I haven't struggled with depression, I did have postpartum depression with my DS1 only. That is why I choose to find out what we are having, because I don't know if I will have PPD again or not. I really struggled with it with my DS1 for 6mo, and I could not imagine feeling GD and having it be amplified because of the PPD.

Know we will be here for you! You will not be alone in this!

(((Huge Hugs)))



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[Butterflies buttercups]

Thank u so much for your advice and support - I was totally against a surprise but the more I think about it the more I like the fact there's always 'hope' until baby arrives - but then again like last time I could be recovering from a c section Aswell as being depressed which is also a bad combo - I have a while to decide so il keep u all posted - I just felt really sick and upset earlier about the pressure of telling people I'm pregnant this early when it's meant to be an exciting time - I just got all my midwife letters through the post for my two first appointments in two weeks time and my scan coming up so I am feeling excited again tonight - thanks again this site is great




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[Inforthree]

Thank u so much for your advice and support - I was totally against a surprise but the more I think about it the more I like the fact there's always 'hope' until baby arrives - but then again like last time I could be recovering from a c section Aswell as being depressed which is also a bad combo - I have a while to decide so il keep u all posted - I just felt really sick and upset earlier about the pressure of telling people I'm pregnant this early when it's meant to be an exciting time - I just got all my midwife letters through the post for my two first appointments in two weeks time and my scan coming up so I am feeling excited again tonight - thanks again this site is great




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It's a tough decision. I toyed with not finding out with this one, in the end, I knew my hopes would be high and didn't see the point in prolonging false hope. I felt like I would have father to fall. I also had some PPD with DS2 so I think combining that with GD would be really tough. Even though it's cliche, time does help, and I think GD is most painful right when you find out. But then again I've never been surprised so I can't speak to that.

I had my blood draw so the wait is on!

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[cosmosis]

@BB, I agree with burakoam. Stay open to both scenarios for now, don't pressure yourself to make that decision right now.


I told DH today I feel much better! We're gonna wait to tell DD for a few months. I'd like to plan out a special way to surprise her as she's been waiting for this since she was old enough to ask!

[Boy mama]

I'm in the same boat as you. Three boys and due October 4th. Nervous for my first scan tomorrow as we had a miscarriage in November right around this time.

[Boy mama]

I lost a baby in November and due October 4th! Praying for healthy girlies!!