Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017

[WelcomeBaby]

Sigrid, I kind of stumbled upon your postings and wanted to let you know that for me it was similar - I had bad, bad gender disappointment from when I learned I was expecting a boy up until his 1st birthday or so. So it took me really, really long to overcome it. And you know what, now I wholeheartedly agree with the ladies here who shared these beautiful details about their little sons!! My boy is the funniest, cutest, most humorous child, very affectionate (hugs and kisses all other kids every morning when we arrive at his daycare center ), sensitive, entertaining, curious and literally 293742093 more awesome things that I never expected!! So I'm sure that when your baby is here you will soon discover a multitude of adorable characteristics and traits that make him totally lovable, and totally your son.
And who knows, he might get a little sister in the not too distant future!

[sigrid86]

Dear Sigrid. Just want to pop by and say I am sorry your sway did not work. I hope you will feel better soon and come to acceptance. I am the proud mother of 3 sons. All 3 are lovely, caring and very different in personalities. I have a very strong and special bond with all of them, specially my youngest. I feel so gratefull to have these 3 children in my life. I am sure you will fall in love with your son as soon as he is born. Try to think of him as a unique human being/child and not only as a he. Of course gender matters, but the most important about the child is it's personality. A girl is no garantee of a stronger bond betweeen mother and child. That being said I also completely understand your desire of a girl. But Hey maybe you will get her one day. Is PGD and option for you in the future?


Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]

Hi Dreamsister,
Thanks a lot for the support! And congratulations on your baby girl! I hope I'll feel better soon too...with what we've been through last year I'm also aware that I need this child a chance and try to enjoy this pregnancy because he deserves it as much as if it was a girl. So I hope the feelings will go away soon. Maybe when I'll feel him?
It's so nice to hear that you have a strong bond with all 3 of your sons. I know I should look at him as a personality. Sometimes I think that my girl would maybe be a real bitch And your right, a girl isn't a guarantee for a better bond. I just need to remind myself a lot of that!
Did you go HT for your DD now?
PGD is really an option now! If you have more info about it, please let me know (I see you're from Europe too).

Thanks a lot

[sigrid86]

Sigrid, I kind of stumbled upon your postings and wanted to let you know that for me it was similar - I had bad, bad gender disappointment from when I learned I was expecting a boy up until his 1st birthday or so. So it took me really, really long to overcome it. And you know what, now I wholeheartedly agree with the ladies here who shared these beautiful details about their little sons!! My boy is the funniest, cutest, most humorous child, very affectionate (hugs and kisses all other kids every morning when we arrive at his daycare center ), sensitive, entertaining, curious and literally 293742093 more awesome things that I never expected!! So I'm sure that when your baby is here you will soon discover a multitude of adorable characteristics and traits that make him totally lovable, and totally your son.
And who knows, he might get a little sister in the not too distant future!

Oh WelcomeBaby, that's really so nice of you!! It scares me a bit that it lasted until his 1st birthday I'm afraid that I won't feel a lot of love when he'll be born.
But it's great to know you overcame it and that you're so fond of your son. I can really feel your love for him, that's beautiful! I so hope that I'll be just like you (or maybe feel it a little bit sooner even ). It's nice to hear these stories, so really thanks a lot to make me feel a little better

[gymone1]

Hi Sigrid,
I just wanted to add to what everyone is saying. I had a little boy in 2015 - when I found out that it was a boy I cried for days. It just didn't feel real because I felt like a girl mom. It takes a few weeks for it to sink in but just remember that every baby is perfect and for a reason. Once I started to accept we were having and boy and picked out some cute boy clothes it got so much easier. Now our little boy just turned 20 months and is the light of our life! He is so sweet, smart, and funny! He LOVES his mommy and I get so many hugs and kisses. All the girls at daycare push and bite him but he just goes about his day being the nicest baby around! We swayed for a girl this time because I had always hoped for a boy and girl but now I am really nervous about having a girl because being a "boy" mom is so easy and fun. While I was thrilled to hear we are having a girl, I know if the answer was boy this time there would be no tears. Having a little boy is the greatest gift a mom can have! I feel your pain but I hope in a few weeks you will realize what a wonderful "boy" mom you will be and I KNOW when you see him you will be totally in LOVE forever.

[sigrid86]

Hi Sigrid,
I just wanted to add to what everyone is saying. I had a little boy in 2015 - when I found out that it was a boy I cried for days. It just didn't feel real because I felt like a girl mom. It takes a few weeks for it to sink in but just remember that every baby is perfect and for a reason. Once I started to accept we were having and boy and picked out some cute boy clothes it got so much easier. Now our little boy just turned 20 months and is the light of our life! He is so sweet, smart, and funny! He LOVES his mommy and I get so many hugs and kisses. All the girls at daycare push and bite him but he just goes about his day being the nicest baby around! We swayed for a girl this time because I had always hoped for a boy and girl but now I am really nervous about having a girl because being a "boy" mom is so easy and fun. While I was thrilled to hear we are having a girl, I know if the answer was boy this time there would be no tears. Having a little boy is the greatest gift a mom can have! I feel your pain but I hope in a few weeks you will realize what a wonderful "boy" mom you will be and I KNOW when you see him you will be totally in LOVE forever.

Hi gymone, I really get the shivers hearing all these beautiful stories. And it's great to know I'm not alone with these feelings. So many others feel just the same. It gives me hope that all of you found the strength to overcome these thoughts. It's a good tip to pick out some baby clothes, hopefully that'll make it better.
That's funny, I also have friends who first wanted a girl and after their boy they didn't care anymore. Some even wanted another boy It's amazing how a little human being can change your life and make you feel so loved. I really hope I'll be feeling it too.
Thanks a lot for the amazing support!

[Butterflies buttercups]

Sigrid I think u have been given some fantastic feed back from the boy mums on here so I don't have much else to add but I have two boys and it is lovely - they are caring smart and so funny - my two are the best of friends Aswell it is awesome having boys so don't fear u will fall in love with him I'm sure when u see him!!

I have swayed for a girl after my two boys and praying it's worked but I honestly think il be in the same boat as u as I just feel it's a boy and my sway is more similar to some failed sways than successful ones
I've prepared my self already hat I'm prob having three boys and I don't think we will ever got HT now due to having three kids already but at least that is an option for u in the future
Xxx


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[Throwaway_panther]

Oh WelcomeBaby, that's really so nice of you!! It scares me a bit that it lasted until his 1st birthday I'm afraid that I won't feel a lot of love when he'll be born.
But it's great to know you overcame it and that you're so fond of your son. I can really feel your love for him, that's beautiful! I so hope that I'll be just like you (or maybe feel it a little bit sooner even ). It's nice to hear these stories, so really thanks a lot to make me feel a little better

I just wanted to say -- don't be scared of that, either. It could happen, and I was convinced I'd have horrible bonding and poatpartum depression with my daughter, and I bonded completely at birth. It's truly amazing how quickly my whole world changed once she was born, and I think that could really happen with you, especially since you'll be getting a healthy baby ♡

[BabsNMK]

Hi BabsNMK,

I'm really sorry that you didn't get your girl either. I can imagine the pain is pretty immense! Are you all the time feeling jealous of girl moms? I just hate that I'm so jealous of girl moms and that this may never go away...
I also hate the boy toys, just like you! I have 2 little nephews who I adore (and they adore me), but I really don't like the cars, the trucks, etc. I would just love to have a little girl to watch Frozen with.

It's really great hearing how amazing your sons are. Just like the other stories, it's so nice to hear! And maybe we're just making the idea of having a girl so much better than it is, don't you think?
Since when do you know you'll be having another boy? And how do you cope with that? Does your DH understands your feelings or not?

I was indeed thinking of maybe going HT, but I live in Europe and hear that the US is really more expensive (and it's already a LOT of money) and I hear that centers in Europe are not doing it anymore because it's illegal :s

Thanks a lot for the comforting words! I'm wishing you all the best in your pregnancy and hope you'll get another amazing son X

My boy does watch Frozen (for about 15 minutes) but he loves Despicable Me lately and I can get on board with that too. Maybe one day I. An convince him to watch Beauty and the Beast.

Yes I'm extremely jealous of friends with girls but in all honesty, a lot of them are jealous about my boys. I think part of it stems from the grass is always greener. For me it's always been about a girl but I imagine I'd probably want a boy too if I didn't have one, just maybe not with such intensity.

We found out at 12 weeks. It was very obvious he was a boy which was confirmed at 14 weeks via bloodwork. Coping has been a process. A lot of tears, a lot of anger. I'm actually in therapy because I battle with prenatal depression too. It's not going away but it is lessening. I thankfully have a very understanding and compassionate DH but it's also painful for him too. He had some mild disappointment but his pain stems more from the fact that he can't make it better for me. But I know it will get better. I have never regretted my children at birth despite having some form of GD with each of them. I love them more than I ever thought possible.

[Shannshaff]

Sigrid, I am crashing to share my story with you. I love all of my boys and they are all wonderful, but my last pregnancy was really rough for a few months. I swayed with DS3 (albeit lame) and I was crushed when he was a boy. I was so so happy to have him, but knew we would have at least another child to try for my girl again. So with my last pregnancy, we swayed again. I was following the LE diet and doing everything right. When we found out we were having triplets, my world went spinning. Just as we were accepting having 3 babies and starting to make plans, we found out we lost the 2 identical twins. To top it off, they were girls and my survivor was a boy. I was crushed to say the least. Not only did I loose 2 babies, but they were my girls as well. It is still tough on me some days. Buy I have to tell you, DS4 is an AMAZING person. He is the sweetest little one and the most mellow of all of my crazy boys. He is silly and loves to laugh and dance. And surprisingly, as much as I love him, he has a strong bond with my DH the most (at least right now). I work out of the home and my DH stays home all day with him. (My DH is disabled, so only watched the youngest.) So honestly, you never know what will happen, but I can tell you this, you WILL love him with all of your heart. He will be yours and you will be a protective Momma Bear instantly. HUGE HUGS to you and all you have been through. You will survive and wonder what all the fuss was about some day.

[foxtrotmama]

Sigrid, I'm sorry to hear that your sway didn't work.

I am/was very happy to be a boy mom. My boys are sweet and cuddly and just generally they are light of my life. As an upside, we have watched Frozen, Cinderella, and the Little Mermaid multiple times each. DS1 is counting down the days until Moana comes out on DVD. Can't for the life of me get them to sit through Tangled though. Admittedly we have seen all the Cars and Planes movies dozens of times each, lol.