Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017

[XXforhubby]

Oh, and all of my boys love Frozen, Disney movies, Despicable Me, etc. They like to try new things, even mommy things [emoji6]!



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[sigrid86]

Sigrid, Your story brought me to tears. Gosh, I can't even imagine. I was pregnant last fall for 12 weeks, saw the heartbeat at 6 and 9 weeks and then it was gone. I had a d&c and it was devastating. My situation is not even comparable to yours. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I hope you can embrace being a boy mom in your own way. We all do it differently ☺ Little boys really are amazing.
I apologize for my delayed response. I was in the shower about 7 am and our power went out. We had some severe weather overnight but apparently I had no clue just how severe it was! Our less one year old anchored, wooden playset was lifted out of the ground and destroyed, our front porch furniture was in the empty lot next door, a few of our shutters are in our front yard, trees down, blocking the street and we are still without power at 2pm. They are reporting that tornados touched down...I'd say so! I think I'm done with this day.
Hope everyone is feeling as well as can be expected today!


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Thanks a lot for your compassion Roedinga1! It's indeed something I don't want for anyone, even my worst enemy. I'm sorry for your loss too! Maybe it's not the same but I can imagine you were also crushed over your loss, because you already planned your whole future with this little one. And besides learning how to deal with your 'crushed future', you also need to start again, from zero (or below zero since you also need to deal with the loss). It's very understandable.
I really hope this little boy will be amazing How many kids do you have and which gender?

No problem for the delayed response, I understand why I hope you're all fine? That seems like a scary experience! You have a lot of tornados where you live? I can't imagine how that must be like. Last week we had a 'storm' here, with wind speeds of 100km/h and that's really A LOT for where I live. So like I said, I can't imagine how that must be where you live

Thank you for your sweet reply and take care there

[sigrid86]

Sigrid, I'm sorry for your loss <3 that must have been so painful and I know there's nothing I can say to make it better. I hope that with time you heal and I hope the baby boy you carry will greatly help that I'm not exactly a boy mom, I have a step son and he is so different from DD. He is quite silly and such a light in our home.

Roe, I'm glad you are okay!

AFM, I took my last CBD today and it said I was 2-3 weeks along, like I need something to worry about gha! I regret taking it. Although today I'm 2.85 weeks or 20 days from implantation if I did implant on the day I suspect, which is quite clear at this point.

I suppose it is correct and I should have waited until next week to test lol. I didn't even think of IMPLANTATION, I was just thinking of Ovulation and hCG doesn't begin to multiply until after implantation.

Hi Cosmosis, thank you so much! It was and still is very painful, but fortunately the pain becomes softer in time. I also hope this baby boy will help me with it. Looking at all these reactions it would surprise me that it won't, so I'm hopeful!
You're swaying for a boy I see? Congratulations on your pregnancy! I really hope it's your DG. Thanks a lot for sharing your story

[sigrid86]

Cosmo the threshold for 3+ weeks is huge. It frustrated me too with this pregnancy. I got a 2-3 week in the morning one day and then later that same night got a 3+ .. I had probably implanted in the afternoon or evening so that's when my numbers were changing hopenthis helps you get the memory result you want!

Oh sigrid. SO much I could say and want to say but for now all I can do is send you the biggest hugs. Remember what we talked about when you were still TTC.. your beautiful baby girl will still be there in your son and liv will truly live on through her little brother. Talk with him about his sister, even now while he is snug in your belly and you are unsure of how to get past the gender disappointment.. tell him you aren't sure how to be a boy mom, it wasn't something you saw in your cards, but you will do the best you can and you hope that it's enough.

Sigrid I promise just from the conversations you and I or you and panther have had that I know when he is in your arms, soft and warm making tiny baby noises at you as he cuddles into you or you feed him wether from breast or bottle that you will adore him just as much as liv or any daughter. It's different, nobody will lie and say it's not.. it is different the bond you can have with a son vs the bond you have with a daughter.. but that doesn't make it less. You and your baby boy will be just fine.

Hi Burakoam, thanks a lot for the hugs, I can really feel them here I know, she'll always be our beautiful girl and she can't be replaced either way. I'm definitely going to tell him about his little (big) sister.
Does it help you to talk to your unborn baby about your GD? I'm just afraid he'll hear it. It was so funny, yesterday I was calling with my mom and she was like 'don't cry, what if he hears you?' that made be laugh
I really hope that what you say will come true, that I'll adore him and can't get enough of him! How did you cope with your GD and did you fell in love instantly at birth with all of your children? Fortunately my DH is very understanding; he also had a small preference for a girl, so I'm hoping we'll still have a chance in the future with HT maybe.
Thank you so much for your super kind words! I know that it hasn't been easy for you as well, but from what I hear from you, I can say that you're really strong and doing an amazing job. It gives me strength hearing these stories, so thanks a lot

[sigrid86]

You know Sigrid, you could be surprised by your boy's personality. My DS1 is the creative type- various art projects that include jewelry making, painting with different media (glitter, different types of paint/textures), making sculptures, drawing, etc. He also loves to play the piano and loves science (creating experiments), and gardening to name but a few. He never played with cars, trucks or airplanes. He did like trains mainly to create different types of train tracks. All of my boys are very different. My DS2 loves sports and is a fantastic problem solver/critical thinker. He loves to build with legos and loves to make different kinds of paper airplanes. My DS3 is still little, but he by far has awesome coping skills when he gets mad or upset- he grumbles as he walks away to cool down and comes back happy! You never know what personality they will have, but you will soon get to know and love him the best [emoji4]!



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The description of your boys' personalities make me smile It's amazing to hear! Looking at my hubby, we'll probably have one like your DS2 And I love how your little one copes with his anger I hope he'll have that too
So for the movies, I'm still hoping I can watch these Disney movies with him also
It's all great to hear, thanks a lot

[onelastsway]

Sorry to hear about your loss and please do not worry that you won't love/bond with your son or that having a boy means a certain type of child. My 2 boys love all the disney films including beauty and the beast, frozen, cinderella, the little mermaid! Neither of them like cars, trains, dinosaurs, space, sport or anything else 'boyish' - other than superheroes, which are cool anyway! They like stories and puzzles and games and baking and doing crafts. They are sensitive, sweet, and adore mummy above all else. My eldest calls me his 'best bud'. My youngest mothers his soft toys and calls them his babies. He is the cuddliest, softest little thing imaginable. I wouldn't mind what they were interested in but I don't want you to feel having a boy has to mean certain things - they are all individuals. I always wanted a girl because I'm so close to my mum and want that relationship when I'm older but am coming to realise that I am SO close to my boys and as long as we are always open, honest and fair with each other - i believe we will always be this close. I think there is something really special about raising a man who is in touch with his feelings, who is kind and sweet and respectful to women - I feel that is my mission. The world needs good men!

[Burakoam]

The point is to me that she does hear it (he for you). We cant always control our feelings or emotions but anyone will tell you that they can affect a baby in utero as well. If im going to be devastated about something im going to tell her why. Im very honest while trying to be mindful of my childrens feelings too. I think there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. Its choosing your words carefully, while still being honest. Im not saying it will help you to tell him he is unloved or unwanted, because lets be honest..it wouldnt help you..it would make you feel worse. Its about telling him that while he was planned for and wanted he was a surprise because you always saw yourself having all girls and you have no clue what to do with him, but that you and him will learn it together Something your son and Liv have in common is they have both grown inside of you. Thats why it can be therapeutic to talk to your son about your daughter. As he grows he will have an understanding then of why mommy may sometimes still be sad on certain days when she thinks of his big sister. He will be able to relate, to understand (not so much at first, but definitely as he grows)

Samantha "knows" we tried for a boy and thats why she is here. She will undoubtedly hear the story as she gets older, its inevitable. But i have promised her that she has her own place in this family. That she belongs. That just because she doesnt have a penis doesnt mean she wont be loved and cared for. That while i dreamed of a brother for my girls, a son for my husband, that i think things worked out the way they needed to for a reason and obviously she is meant to bring something to our family dynamic that a son and brother wouldnt have. That even though 4 daughters in i have no clue how to raise the kind of woman i want them to be, that i will always try my best. That i didnt ever see myself as a girl mom let alone an all girl mom and so i am unfortunately learning things as i go. I have told her more recently how excited i am to snuggle her, and feed her..to see her big sister hold her. To see their bond since they are so close in age.

Most will agree a baby let alone an unborn baby doesnt necessarily understand everything you say, or most of it even..its the fact you say it, the tone of voice, its the emotions felt as they swish and move in your belly. How you stroke him when you talk about why you are sad, how it helps YOU heal and move forward with your feelings regarding Liv and now your soon to be born son.

[Wantanother2017]

Wow, such strong women in this group! I'm humbled by your stories of struggle and strength. I don't have words to suffice my feelings of sadness for what you've been through.
The truth is, I have never suffered a loss of a child so far. The closest thing I can relate to is the loss of a dream the day I found out my baby was a boy. It crushed me. I have come to terms with it obviously and love my son very much, however I still suffer with GD every single day. I struggle with anger, resentment and jealousy that eats at me if I let it. Some days are better, then come periods where it is more intense.
This is our last shot and I'm scared of my feelings if this is another boy. I've done the counseling, Ive tried discussing my feelings with my husband, I've bought books on GD, nothing has truly helped lessen the pain.
I feel mounds of shame for feeling this way. But 4 years into it I've got to just own my feelings and try to work through them.

I'm glad to know I'm surrounded by such strong and wise women during this pregnancy. During my pregnancy with my son I thought I was the only woman in the world who experienced these feelings, the only one who had to recite "I have a son" to myself out loud to practice saying something so foreign. It was the loneliest time in my life. The feelings were so isolating. I'm so thankful that even though I'm convinced I'll hear boy again, that at least I have overwhelming support from ladies who GET IT. [emoji170][emoji170]




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[XXforhubby]

I just want to give you a big hug, Wantanother! We will absolutely be here for you, should you hear boy again. I'm hoping that won't be necessary though [emoji6]!



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[XXforhubby]

Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



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