Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017

[Throwaway_panther]

Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
[emoji166]EDD 9/30/2017 [emoji1317]for pink[emoji166]

You are NOT defective. At all. And I think MANY of us can relate to that feeling when we worry we can't conceived our desired-sex baby -- defective.

I don't think you feeling like you have no preference would sabotage it, either -- if anything, there seems to be a trend that once moms make peace with whatever comes, they get their girls! The fact that I don't think I'll ever find peace is why I hope I'll get my boy, lol.

You're in a sensitive state right now -- the first trimester. I wish we could all write notes to ourselves before each pregnancy with a warning that, "You will NOT be in sound mind for awhile!" I'm so, so sorry you're feeling in a bad place right now -- but it's nothing you're doing or even any cosmic bearing on the sex of your baby. It's the hormones!!

Please come here and continue to talk about it with us. I'm not even sure why I'm in this thread, but I'll still stick around to help too!... I think it's because all of my friends on here are pregnant haha.

[Wantanother2017]

Glad you're feeling a touch better emotionally this morning XX. It's a funny thing how nighttime can bring on the strongest of our emotions. I've been having lots of anxious nights myself.

So my nausea and exhaustion has seemed to ease off in the last couple of days. Sometimes it's a little concerning, for miscarriage reasons and because I worry that it may be true that if my symptoms are so mild this is definitely a boy. I wish I could just know so I could prepare myself mentally.
My first scan is Monday! So we shall see. I'll be 8 weeks then, according to AF. But I feel I am about 4 days behind that, so we shall see what happens.


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[Butterflies buttercups]

I agree night times are th worst ! I had exactly the same my last pregnancy I think that's what caused a lot of my head aches - anxiety - wondering is it a boy or a girl the whole 9 months ?
I was debating going team green but I don't think I can - I need to know so I can prepare x


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[XXforhubby]

How far along are you Butterflies? I'm on my phone and can't see tickers- if you have one!

I'll find out at the beginning of May, when I'm 18-19 weeks. I want to find out at 16 weeks, but my hospital prefers to do the anatomy scan on me later since I'm 37.

I'm trying not to freak out, but I'm having a break from the horrific morning sickness! I hope it lasts, but I also hope everything is ok with my baby. I get twinges of mild nausea every now and then but nothing like what I have been experiencing. Watch, I'll be puking later because I just jinxed myself 🤣! That's how my life works [emoji38]!



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[Dreamsister]

Dear XXforhubby. I can relate to your anxiety. I also worried the hole first and second trimester. Worried about MC, worried about gender, worried about abnormalities ect. ect. I woke up in the middle of the night and could not sleep. I think the days, weeks and months took like forever. Try to focus on something else than your pregnancy and then time will go faster. Our minds can play stupid games with us. Staying mentally fresh and prevent yourself from getting to tired is a way of coping with all the emotions and anxiety. Don't worry. You will be fine and might very well have a lovely little girl cooking inside you right now.


Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]

[XXforhubby]

You are NOT defective. At all. And I think MANY of us can relate to that feeling when we worry we can't conceived our desired-sex baby -- defective.

I don't think you feeling like you have no preference would sabotage it, either -- if anything, there seems to be a trend that once moms make peace with whatever comes, they get their girls! The fact that I don't think I'll ever find peace is why I hope I'll get my boy, lol.

You're in a sensitive state right now -- the first trimester. I wish we could all write notes to ourselves before each pregnancy with a warning that, "You will NOT be in sound mind for awhile!" I'm so, so sorry you're feeling in a bad place right now -- but it's nothing you're doing or even any cosmic bearing on the sex of your baby. It's the hormones!!

Please come here and continue to talk about it with us. I'm not even sure why I'm in this thread, but I'll still stick around to help too!... I think it's because all of my friends on here are pregnant haha.

Thank you TP- that means a lot to me. You're so right that the hormones are amplifying my feelings. I'm in a much better place now and hope I can make it last. My DH needs me to stay strong, because he has never had to help me with gender disappointment before. TBH, I'll be over the moon to have another boy- I just love them to bits [emoji4]! I know I will love a little girl too, and I think I'm finally ready to have one. Time will tell to know if it's in the cards for me.



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[emoji166]EDD 9/30/2017 [emoji1317]for pink[emoji166]

[Butterflies buttercups]

I'm 8 weeks - I am still like I said having lots of nausea and hoping it eases off soon - I had a day Tuesday where I had none it was so weird !
Well it's march now I'm sure the beginning of May will come round quickly too - I'm looking forward to my next scan which is the first week of April (12 weeks)




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[Roedinga1]

I hope everyone feels better soon! My MS hasn't kicked in...yet?
I had my beta checked today at 26DPO and she said it's "in the 4000's." I would've loved an exact number but that's not what I got. Anyway, it was 587 at 19DPO. I guess that's ok?
I'm having my first ultrasound Wednesday morning. I'm guessing she just wants to make sure everything looks good considering the miscarriage last October...


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[Roedinga1]

My progesterone also went from 42 down to 33. I'm doing vaginal progesterone nightly. Is that decrease okay?


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[Shannshaff]

OMG ladies, I just read through the last few pages bawling at my desk. Thank the lord I am the only one in the office today. I already had a stressful day last evening, so was crying this morning. But man oh man, the waterworks.
I am tentatively going to say hello. I got my faint BFP yesterday, but I started spotting last night and still this morning. So I am not sure if this little bean will stick. I have had so much going on in the pst 24 hours that I am a total mess. We had daycare call us and tell us they thing that someone might be sexually abusing our kids. Our 4 yo has a habit of "playing with himself" during nap time and I guess other times of the day too. I was really worried at first, but the more I look into it, I am just not so sure all the info is adding up. He is a sensory seeker for touch, so I have a feeling, that is the real reason for the touching.
But they had me scared because I get a call saying he inappropriately touched another child. YIKES!!! But I found out later he stuck his face in another kids but while he was at the drinking fountain (on a step) because he was taking too long. While that is still inappropriate, not near as bad as I had imagined. And well, my boys are gross and will fart on one another and put their butt in the other brothers face in the process. I do my best to stop them from this, but I am not everywhere.
So my DH got scared that they think he is the one abusing them and it turned into a huge fight this morning. And since I am the only one in the office on Fridays, I could not even call in sick. UGH. So here I am at the office, emotional, reading sad sad posts and feeling all hormonal. I am not in a good place because I was not ready for this BFP since it has always taken us at least 3 months to conceive.
Now I don't even want to tell DH about the BFP. I will have to wait a few days or even weeks to tell him because I need everything else to settle down or he is going to flip out. So maybe you guys can help me figure out a fun cute way to tell DH so I can get my mind in a better place.
Thank you, Shan