ttc thread - swaying again in 2017 :)

[kittendreams]

Thank you! And I have made huge, huge changes, but as we get closers to attempt time I'm starting to get worried and anxious and thinking i may have to skip yet another month
Dh always drinks on the weekends, but now he has started drinking nearly every night with our 1st attempt a week away. I dont know what to do, I want to start trying now, I don't want to wait another cycle out, but I can't stop him from doing what he's doing and I don't want to compromise my last chance at a son. The more I think about it, the more upset I get and the more I start to resent him for what he's doing. I feel like I'm putting so much effort into this sway and he's ruining it and there's nothing I can do.

Oh ttcblue I feel your frustration there is nothing worse than wanting something so badly and feeling like others are sabotaging it! But I can tell you this from my experience my Dh drinks every night, always has since we met and we have two boys so it is still possible to get a boy. My Dh always drank beer but he is now drinking wine so I'm hoping that it may sway more pink.
Is he still smoking?
Big hugs! Please don't feel defeated you can still get your boy with all your hard work I just know it xx

[kittendreams]

Also ttcblue can you get Dh on a male prenatal like menevit? My DH took it before we conceived ds1 because I was worried about his years of drinking and smoking affecting his fertility. Lol we got pregnant first try no need to be worried!

[TtcBlue18]

4blue2pink: He doesn't want another baby at all, but eventually we came to the agreement to give me 3 months (2 attempts each month) and if it happens, it happens and if not, we wont have another baby. He has told me he would like to have a boy, but the thought of 3 children scares him. I asked atomic about the drinking because I didn't know either and I guess it's kind of a grey area. While it's known that alcohol sways pink, they are not sure if it's more important that I don't drink, or that neither of us does. I was already worried about his smoking and now he's bing drinking every night for nearly a week leading up to our attempt, you gotta be kidding me! But atomic says if I feel good about my sway otherwise, I should go for it.. so I guess I'm going to. I'd rather have another girl than no baby at all.

Kittendreams: omg that's great!!! You have no idea how much hearing that helps to lift the weight of my anxiety. My hubby drinks beer too! When we got our girls he was smoking Marijuana, and after my second daughter (nearly 2 years ago) I demanded he quit because I didn't want my children raised in a household with any form of illegal substances. He quit, but that's when he began drinking. Only a couple nights a week usually (until the past few days that is), but yes, he still smokes cigarettes. :/

[TtcBlue18]

Also ttcblue can you get Dh on a male prenatal like menevit? My DH took it before we conceived ds1 because I was worried about his years of drinking and smoking affecting his fertility. Lol we got pregnant first try no need to be worried!

He takes fish oil, mens one a day multivitamin and a probiotic. Do you think this should be sufficient?? He started them a couple months ago..

[kittendreams]

I'm not sure about the supplements atomic is best to ask about that just thought I'd share what Dh took to get ds1 in case it's suitable for you.

I keep thinking about you and worried about you feeling defeated because I read that feeling defeated Is bad for a boy sway.

So to lift you up I thought I'd share my sisters experience as it may also help you feel more confident.
She has 4 boys, 1 girl. The only girl was from b/g twin and they were conceived 4 months pp before first ppaf she was 38 and missed a couple of minipills due to gastro so she did get a girl but she got a boy too!
Anyway she has 4 boys to 3 different fathers every single dad was older smoked drank daily and had lots of girls to other women! But she still made boys! So it must be down to her right? What does she do? Eat! Very regularly very healthily never uses contraception ( except that once on minipill lol) had very high sex drive drinks moderately and does very moderate exercise I'm talking water aerobics once a week lol! Always has a bit of extra meat on her. She has to eat every 2 hours or she get hangry!!! It's seriously scary!
She had even lost weight with the last boy, was 42 and smoking a little all with a dad who smokes like a chimney drinks beer every night and has 3 girls to his ex! but still had a boy!
So it really can come down to you! you can do this!!!

[TtcBlue18]

I'm not sure about the supplements atomic is best to ask about that just thought I'd share what Dh took to get ds1 in case it's suitable for you.

I keep thinking about you and worried about you feeling defeated because I read that feeling defeated Is bad for a boy sway.

So to lift you up I thought I'd share my sisters experience as it may also help you feel more confident.
She has 4 boys, 1 girl. The only girl was from b/g twin and they were conceived 4 months pp before first ppaf she was 38 and missed a couple of minipills due to gastro so she did get a girl but she got a boy too!
Anyway she has 4 boys to 3 different fathers every single dad was older smoked drank daily and had lots of girls to other women! But she still made boys! So it must be down to her right? What does she do? Eat! Very regularly very healthily never uses contraception ( except that once on minipill lol) had very high sex drive drinks moderately and does very moderate exercise I'm talking water aerobics once a week lol! Always has a bit of extra meat on her. She has to eat every 2 hours or she get hangry!!! It's seriously scary!
She had even lost weight with the last boy, was 42 and smoking a little all with a dad who smokes like a chimney drinks beer every night and has 3 girls to his ex! but still had a boy!
So it really can come down to you! you can do this!!!

You are so kind to genuinely care so much. I also have read that the defeated feeling causes (testosterone I think it is?) To drop, which is not good for ttc a boy, so I try to keep my hopes high and stay confident that what I'm doing is enough. Today I actually made two lists, one of which is all the things that we did before and during the time we got our girls (that are said to sway girl) that we have now changed for our boy sway, and the other was a list of things we currently do that are said to sway girl. This made me feel a great deal better, and with reading about others who have gotten their boys, even with a hubby who smokes and drinks, I think I can honestly say, I feel that I do still have a good chance. The objective of swaying is to have more boy factors to outweigh the girl factors, right? Like a lot of people have never heard of swaying so must have factors from both sides from their natural routine.

[TtcBlue18]

And dh smoking and drinking are the only things that worry me really. Also I have checked supplements with atomic already, just didn't know if the one you mentioned would specifically help him for the reasons that concern me, If that makes sense lol. Thank you so much, kittendreams. You truly are amazing

[kittendreams]

You are so kind to genuinely care so much. I also have read that the defeated feeling causes (testosterone I think it is?) To drop, which is not good for ttc a boy, so I try to keep my hopes high and stay confident that what I'm doing is enough. Today I actually made two lists, one of which is all the things that we did before and during the time we got our girls (that are said to sway girl) that we have now changed for our boy sway, and the other was a list of things we currently do that are said to sway girl. This made me feel a great deal better, and with reading about others who have gotten their boys, even with a hubby who smokes and drinks, I think I can honestly say, I feel that I do still have a good chance. The objective of swaying is to have more boy factors to outweigh the girl factors, right? Like a lot of people have never heard of swaying so must have factors from both sides from their natural routine.

Yes! That's exactly right-we all do boy and girl sway tactics everyday, it's impossible to be just completely boy or girl friendly all the time but you just have to move more towards the blue lifestyle which you are.
My DH has always drunk every night like I said, and he was even smoking a little when we got ds2 even while I was swaying for a girl lol so you are always in for chance of a boy xx
Dh is smoking more now ( I hate it but I'm letting him get away with it at the moment) so I am hoping it sways girl for us this time.
Just wondering did your Dh drink energy drinks when you had your dds?

[kittendreams]

He takes fish oil, mens one a day multivitamin and a probiotic. Do you think this should be sufficient?? He started them a couple months ago..

Awesome these all sound very similar to what Dh took! He's definitely not taking them now lol!

[kittendreams]

You are so kind to genuinely care so much. I also have read that the defeated feeling causes (testosterone I think it is?) To drop, which is not good for ttc a boy, so I try to keep my hopes high and stay confident that what I'm doing is enough. Today I actually made two lists, one of which is all the things that we did before and during the time we got our girls (that are said to sway girl) that we have now changed for our boy sway, and the other was a list of things we currently do that are said to sway girl. This made me feel a great deal better, and with reading about others who have gotten their boys, even with a hubby who smokes and drinks, I think I can honestly say, I feel that I do still have a good chance. The objective of swaying is to have more boy factors to outweigh the girl factors, right? Like a lot of people have never heard of swaying so must have factors from both sides from their natural routine.

And btw making lists is perfect boy mum behaviour! I used to make lists about the lists I needed to make lol! Not anymore though- I don't even write shopping lists anymore and it renders me completely useless at the shops but I'm willing to do it to get a girl haha!