ttc thread - swaying again in 2017 :)

[TtcBlue18]

Great!! I guess my hormonal body is learning to react like a boy mom! lol I've been making so many lists lately in regards to babies and swaying!
Actually my dh has never liked coffee or energy drinks, but he loves his soda! Where we live, there is a soda called ski (it's manufactured in our town and doesnt really make its way farther than our county really). When we concieved our girls dh was drinking 3x 44oz ski sodas every day! After having random heart papilations, his doctor said to drop it. Reason being, he said most soda has less caffeine than coffee, but ski has 5x the amount of caffeine as coffee! So I guess you could consider this the same boat as an energy drink! He then switched to having 1x 44oz Pepsi daily (this took place after the birth of our 2nd daughter). Thank you for bringing yet another good change to my attention!

[kittendreams]

Haha happy to help! Besides I learn from all your responses too!

[TtcBlue18]

Right, and of course I'm happy to help you in any way I can When will you actively start ttc, or are you already?

[4blue2pink]

Hi 4blue! I have been on it for around 2 months but as I'm only 6 months pp I've stuck to the upper limits. I have been vegetarian and skipping Bfast for 4 months now though so I've been easing into the girly lifestyle as the year progresses.
I'm starting exercise this month. DH is picking up my treadmill tonight so no excuse now haha. I've got 3 months now til our first attempt cycle so getting stricter from now on and definitely no more snacking. I think the minipill has definitely changed my body and the lower protein and fat intake combined with skipping Bfast and lots of coffee has made a huge difference.

I think that's a good sign about your Af time changing! It's interesting what the diet does to our cycles isn't it? I'm still waiting on ppaf but I'm curious to see when it does come if it changes from my usual early morning arrival- if it does I'll take it as a good sign!

How long til you find out what you are having? Fx so hard for another little girlie!

easing into it is such a good idea i think that way by the time your attempts start itll be like second nature too you to eat that way and you dont really have to think about it any more! yes im convinced snacks are key for boy!! as long as you arent snacking your in a good place

the AF thing is weirdly interesting haha Atomic did a post where she said she see's a trend of blue swayers having it usually arrive at night, then messaging her because they woke up to it first thing in the morning while swaying!! and pink swayers typically have it arrive in the morning and see it switch to later on.. this isnt a make or break thing though i dont think mine changed with my first sway which was successful i think its just a sign that things in your body are changing which is always positive! many pink swayers report less body hair (usually facial and erm nipple :-/ ) while blue swayers complain of extra hairs in those areas!!

aww thankyou so much <3 im not sure what we are doing re finding out gender, i could do NIPT anytime from now but it is expensive.. then there's gender scans from 16 weeks or possibly waiting, with my youngest sway baby i was team green till scan at 37 weeks, ill keep you updated on what we decide to do xx

[4blue2pink]

Ttcblue hubby taking those supps is good! mine never has!

a friend of mine has 2 boys (her husband has a girl from prev marriage) both of them smoke, her dh smokes alot! she also smoked while ttc and they both drink, her DS1 was conceived right after new year and she said she had been drinking loads over xmas/new year, she also has a blocked Fallopian tube so her fertility is compromised yet she still got boys! diet wise she is more HE (meals with snacks between) she never diets or goes long between eating and she also drinks coffee daily!! just wanted to give you this as another example of someone who got boys with dh AND dw smoking and drinking!!

lists are good too haha they are part of the control-freak boy mum/pink swayer personality that i cant relate too as ive never been like that :-/ dont think ive ever written a list in my life! i honestly think my boys came purely from snacking/stable blood sugar and frequent BD which is why i really plug those things for blue!! dont lose faith you are SO SO SO much more boy friendly now than you were with either of your girls xx

[TtcBlue18]

Thank you so much 4blue2pink!

This is true, like a whole new life to me!

With all these changes, do you personally feel that it outweighs his smoking and drinking, or should I probably skip this month and ask him to limit his drinking before we start actively ttc?

Everyone seems to think it's silly to worry so much about this, but I'm just such a worry wart. Im so confused about how much this will affect the sway, and I don't know if things could be any different next month if I did put it off. This is such a stressful decision for me but the more I hear from others the more I think I'm overreacting. Lol

[4blue2pink]

no worries if i can help in any way then i will

i dont think his drinking is a huge issue to be honest, it may not be *ideal* but when you think about it loads of men drink regularly and still have boys, i think its what goes on in your body that matters more, in that you are the one who has to grow the baby and feed it so its your body that knows which gender has the best chance of survival due to all the environmental cues its getting, which through swaying you have made as boy friendly as possible

personally with my 2 sways i wanted to go into the actual TTC bit happy with my sway and everything i had done, of course there are always doubts here and there! but overall both last time and this time i knew my diet was solid and i was happy with the length of time on it etc and then i made sure we only got 1 bd attempt in and then i knew id done everything i could.

if you get pregnant now weather baby is a girl or a boy i hope that youd still feel that what you did and the changes you've made are a really solid sway, dh's habits will worry you, like i said everyone has doubts especially after bfp! but if you can see past the doubts and say "i did what i could and im happy with MY sway" and its just dh's habits holding you back then id go for it.

if you have doubts about anything YOU are doing (diet, supps, exercise etc) then id wait to get those things where i want them before going ahead. xx

[TtcBlue18]

Thank you! That's exactly how I feel. That I'm giving 100%, but I just worry so much about his end. I've always been a perfectionist and it's almost like I have to have every single swaying factor pointing in the boy direction or I get scared and want to bail on the attempt.

With swaying though I do wonder why anything that reduces sperm count is said to sway girl.. I picture an equal amount of XX and XY sperm and if that number is reduced, it makes since that it would reduce both genders (or is XX still said to be more resilient?) So there's still an equal number of each gender and therefore the XY still have the same chances they had before, so why does reduced count sway pink? Why does high sperm count sway blue? I don't know if you know the answers to that or not, but just sharing my thoughts.

Your opinion as well as all the other ladies have me feeling so confident again

[Pbn3]

Ttcblue you asked a quite a few posts back about preseed and how much to use and I didn't see an answer as I flicked through. So just in case I'll input here Be wary how much preseed you use as a little goes a looooooong way. I ended up only inserting maybe 1cm worth using the applicator.. any more than that and dh would lose sensation and on a couple occasions when I did use too much he couldn't finish. So we'd have to wait for it to 'absorb' into my body and try again later. If possible have a practice bd with it prior to your actual attempts so you can gauge whether you need more/less or if what you use is perfect

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[TtcBlue18]

Thank you so much for this! I'll try a cm in the applicator and see how that works for us